I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a D&C in April after an ultrasound at 8w5d showed an empty sac that measured 5w1d. My HCG was at 31,071. I had the D&C because nothing was happening and my numbers started slowly dropping and my OBGYN was worried about infection. If there had been something in the sac he may have had some hope. Testing after the D&C showed placental tissue but no fetal tissue so there was no baby. This was my 2nd MC, the first in 2009. With that one I passed everything after my Dr's said it was a blighted ovum only to see the baby in the sac after passing it. I was around 12 weeks. I have 2 healthy boys, ages 18 and 11 so I don't know why all the sudden I can't seem to get pregnant and STAY pregnant. We're still trying but it's so hard. I feel your pain and your frustration, momma, and I hope that you get good news soon. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!!View Thread
I have an 18 year old son, a 11 year old son (in August) and I'll be 37 next month. I miscarried in 09 and again a few months ago. My husband and I thought we were ok with 'not' trying again and just being happy that we have healthy kids. But I want another baby. I go over all the things that would typically stop me from wanting to try again and every time I end up back in the same place, emotionally. My husband tells me he's happy to try again if that's what I want. I want. I really, really want.
We've never actively tried to get pregnant. I guess you could say we just got lucky. I never tracked my ovulation days. I never even knew the length of my periods for sure because I didn't keep track. I have no idea how the whole basil body temperature plays a part or how to calculate. All I know is that there are approximately 3-5 days when I'm the most fertile so those are the days I concentrate on. I had some female issues that my GYN suggested I get checked out a year and a half ago, or so. He thought it might be PCOS. It turned out to be Adenomyosis. I think that's how you spell it. It's a little like Endometriosis but it's inside the walls of the uterus. He said it wouldn't stop me from getting pregnant if that's what I wanted. I also had breast implants in 2008 and they went through the belly button. That's 2 belly button surgeries in a couple years. Would scar tissue be a problem?? We've been trying since April/May this time around. Maybe, subconsciously I feel like my body is trying to tell me it's too late (the 2 losses). I had my first child at 18 and now I feel like I'm too old or something. Out of eggs? Dried up? Internally unfit to carry another child? All I know is I feel like time is running out and I really want to have one more child. My heart hurts at the idea that it's too late. I guess I'm writing about it to get support, hear stories from you ladies about how you didn't give up and got your wish. Am I crazy for wanting another? Please share your stories with me and give me some hope....View Thread
[Trigger] My husband and I can't seem to decide what to do...so for now, we're throwing caution to the wind. I've had 2 miscarriages in the last couple years. With the last one I had to get a D&C, which I really didn't want. The first one was extremely difficult for so many reasons. We tried for almost 5 years to get pregnant with no luck. Then as soon as we stopped trying, I got pregnant. I lost the baby at 12w and passed everything on my own. It was extremely painful, like going through labor all over again. The 2nd one was also not planned, but we didn't think we'd get pregnant either. I have 2 sons. One will be 18 in a week. The other will be 11 in August. I'm only 36 but sometimes I feel like it's just too late for me. We really want to try again but the same thoughts keep getting in the way. We're no spring chickens. My husband will be 39 in November. That would make us 55 and 57 (roughly) when a potential new baby would graduate from high school. My husband thinks that's ancient....like, 2 feet from the grave age. I'm a little more optimistic than that. And isn't it that 18 years in between that count the most anyway? After the last MC, I was extremely emotional and said I wanted to do whatever it took to make sure that never happened again. If that meant one or both of us getting 'fixed', so be it. My husband pleaded with me to reconsider or at least, not make the decision while I was feeling so emotionally wrecked. I'm glad he did that because now, I want to try again. But we're a little scared. I don't know what to do. I guess I'm putting this on here to see if anyone is in a similar situation. If you're here, you're obviously trying to get pregnant . So how did you overcome the fear of the possibility of another MC? Fear of being an older parent? Fear of being high risk because of age and past complications? Fear of missing the only opportunity we might have left to try again? Ugh....View Thread