thank you noodles. unfortunetly, im still mostly in the same situation as i was a cupple weeks ago when i wrote this. i still wont end the pregnancy. my decision doesnt have anything to do with religion really, i just personally cant choose to end this ones life, it would emotionally haunt me to the point im not sure it wouldnt send me into a depression or make me hate myself or something. my hubby is still standoffish. he almost never sais anything affectionit to me. he doesnt cuddel back when i try to cuddel with him, i get more affection from my guy friends to tell ya the truth. my hubby just got his own truck (so i could try to find a seocnd job, as he needs a car for work, and him driving me around for work wouldnt work out), and im worried one day im going to come home and find him and his stuff gone, and his "i love you"s dont have any feeling or anything to them anymore. its like hes just saying it out of habit or something. he has way more passion telling the kids he loves them.. but i just cant bring myself to end it even if it ends my marrage...... i know it partially sounds selfish, but.... idk....
i understand your feeling of "how can i have a baby by a man with no job". its a tough decision for sure! my hubby works speraticly as a game tec, sometimes works a ton of hours, and sometimes makes just about enough to cover his gas and his cigs. perhaps you should tell him if he wants you to keep it, he has to make the effort to be a responcible father for it, and get on the job hunt for something more stable. i mean, lets face it. in both our situations, if a baby comes (i say if sence your still on the edge about it), even a job at mcdonalds working 250-30 hours a week would be better then the next to nothing pay check that speratic work offers at times. i wish i could help you to figure out what to do. or that i had some awesome decision making advice for you. you could try making a list of what it would mean to keep it, or to not keep it. include both financial, physical, and emotonal consequensis (like how you would feel if you terminated, or how you would feel bringing a baby into a very unstable financial situation), and include both good and bad in each list. maybe it will kinda give you a little solid look to help you decide. thats such a close deadline to decide by. if you meditate or anything, maybe you could try to do that, to clear your mind, and then search for the answer to what you should do. if you ever wanna talk, feel free to talk to me if yad like. no matter my take on ending a pregnancy, i wouldnt look down on you if you choose to. just wanted to let ya know. your in a tough spot, you gotta do what is right for you, theres nothing wrong with that.View Thread
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