I think it also depends how jumpy you get in general over such things. I LOVE horror films, haunted houses, being scared, so I've been experiencing these things since I was about 5 years old and feel a bit used to it. Haunted houses don't affect me like they affect some others. While some people may be cowering in the corner and unable to look at scary masks and props, they don't bother me. They actually fascinate me because I look at how I can potentially duplicate them for my own house on Halloween. Therefore, I intend to participate in some scary events this year.
However, if you're more jumpy and frightful when you see scary things, you might have some of the concerns raised in the previous post. I'd go by how you normally react.View Thread
I wouldn't worry (like everyone else so far has said). I'm 18 weeks and mine are killing me. I go through spurts where for a couple weeks it won't be too bad, then for a couple weeks they're terribly sensitive and sore and just feel like they weigh 30 lbs.View Thread
Princess - congratulations~! Very excited for you that you were able to find out.
Lysana - I was perfect after the amnio. Dr said spotting and cramping are normal for 24 hours afterward but I only had minor cramping for the first hour or so and absolutely no spotting. I was a tiny bit sore from the injection the following day but nothing to even really complain about. This is my first (and probably only).View Thread
Well my little one would NOT let us see! He (I say he because I am pretty sure it's a boy - I just have a feeling) kept moving, rolling away from the instrument and kicking his little legs so we couldn't see. I had an amnio as well so now we'll have to wait a week or two to find out.View Thread
Well, looks like I had my first BH contraction last night. It woke me up out of a dream and scared me to death! It felt like someone was squeezing my uterus - wasn't painful just - weird. I shifted positions and it didn't happen again but of course all night I was worried that something was going wrong.
I thought of BH so looked it up this morning and it did say they can begin as early as the second trimester. The description matched exactly what I felt. I was just surprised because I didn't expect to experience them this early (I'm in my 16th week).
Has anyone else in their 2nd tri experienced these already?View Thread
Good luck Candy! I do like Adaily's idea too. I had a similar situation with my mom. She lives on the other side of the country. She kept insisting she wanted to come here for the birth, but MY problem was not her wanting to be in the delivery room (she knows that would not be allowed), but having her staying with us while we brought our new baby home. I just need time for us to come home and get into our routine with just us here and our house in it's normal state. When she comes to town she stays with us and it's too much for me even without a newborn. She is very demanding and doesn't leave me alone while she's here. So I had to explain to her that I didn't want anyone staying from out of town while we brought the baby home and were trying to adjust and get into a routine. (Plus I think it's a very special time for my husband and I to bond with our baby as a family - we need that time alone).
She got a little snotty and said "well I'm not people visiting from out of town I'm your mother and I would just be helping you with your baby". I had to be stern and explain that fathers are much more hands on these days with the help. She eventually let up, though I'm still not sure she's over it. I hate to say it but you have to be selfish at times like this and do what is best for you and your family. The energy that surrounds you and your new family is so important! It should be positive without any resentment or added stress from the outside.View Thread
Thanks for understanding both of you! My decision isn't wavering at all, I just can't believe how people stick their noses in.
One thing I forgot to include is that the husband hater was trying to tell me that breast milk is really not any better than formula! I mean I understand if people don't want to BF and I might not even be successful at it, but it's statistically proven that breast milk is better for the baby. She just thinks/hopes I'm too stupid to know all this. She also happens to be a person who we all knew had kids for the attention of it. She barely spends any time with them at all (and it's choice, not necessity - I am NOT knocking moms who HAVE to work long hours and perhaps have other family obligations, like taking care of ill family members, etc in addition to work, so the childcare duties have to fall primarily on their partner. This is not the case with her.). Her husband does just about everything. I know exactly what she was doing - when my other sister in law asked if I was going to BF and I said I planned on it, she had to make it about her and explain why she didn't. It's just who she is.
I'm just sick to death of people assuming I'm like them or will be just like them when my baby comes. Everyone is different.View Thread