Don't feel bad for being sad about it. I am on my second (and LAST) child I already had a boy so I hoped for a girl and was sure that it was going to be. When the U/S showed another boy I actually cried. I was pretty upset about it for at least a month, but I did eventually get to a point that I am truly happy to be having another boy and now I couldn't picture it any other way.
The baby will have no idea that you felt like that, and you are entitled to feel exactly how you do, No one has any right to tell you how to feel. That includes people on this board who insist on be judgemental everytime a woman expresses some disapointment in the gender.View Thread
I moved across the country 2 years ago when my son was one year old and now I am 37 weeks with my second. My husbands Parents and Sister are a few hours away from where we live now so we are not totally alone out here, but for the most part we are.
While I do find it lonely here some times, and I am a little nervous about dealing with a new born and a 3 year old I don't regret being out here. I moved from the prairies out to Nova Scotia where it is beautiful, I have the ocean all around, lakes everywhere and such a slower pace of life. I look at the lifestyle we live here and compare it to the Rat Race of the Alberta Oil Patch and I think it is worth it to go through a few years of having to raise children without much family help. I have found several stay at home moms who are wonderful with my son and I can always count on them when I need a babysitter or some sort of help.
My long winded point here is that I understand how you feel, and for us the decision was to stay where we are, but it is a personal decision and only you and your DH can way what is right for your family.View Thread
I went into my first labour with a "go with the flow" attitude, well I ended up being induced, but I had a reaction to the cervidel which caused me to have extremely painful contractions that where 3 minutes apart from my first contraction plus my uterus would not relax in between them. And to top that off my son was in OP position so i was having awful back labour.
Within half an hour of being at the hospital the nurses basically informed me she was bringing me some morphine because I clearly needed it, then as soon as they had a birthing room they would call for an epi. I can tell you that this time there is no way I would accept the narcotics, even if I have another terrible experience but I will not hesitate to have the epi.View Thread
I have seen a lot of women wear a bikini with a tank top over top if you are not comfortable walking around with your full belly hanging out. That way you don't need to pay extra for a maternity suit, they can be really expensive.View Thread
Paints are not nearly as toxic as they use to be, as long as you are using latex not oil based paint and you ensure that you have good ventilation it is fine. I just painted my nursery and I am going to do the basement in a few weeks (I come from a family of painters so I think that is my natural instinct when I am nesting, I can't just clean the house I have to paint it!)View Thread
I had a co-worker (and one that I really like) say to me today.. wow you are really starting to retain water and swell, I can really see it in your arms, they use to be so tiny.... gee thanks!View Thread
I personally use my monitor all the time, but I have a large house and we have an outdoor hot tub that we sit in, so we still use it with our 2 1/2 year old. If it where me there is no doubt I would keep it.View Thread
The unfortunate thing is that it does not stop anytime soon. Just the other day I was out with my nearly 3 year old son and he had been being a real terror while we where shopping. what was supose to be a quick 5 - 10 minute stop had already turned into about 40 minutes because of him. Well I finally had enough and it was obvious how angry I was. I picked him up without saying a word and started walking out of the store. I was not hurting him, I had not hit him or yelled at him, yet this lady stops and starts to talk down to me telling me to stay calm and just relax she has 4 kids and knows how hard it is but I can't get angry....bla bla bla.... I was so angry with her at that point, that I stopped and faced her, opened my mouth and had to turn around and walk away without saying a word! (a huge accomplishment for me!) I figured if I stood there another second it would either be vulger or violent and we both had children there after all. You would think a woman who has had 4 children would know better than to interfere with a pregnant woman!View Thread
I have the co-sleeper and I love it, but to clarify, the baby is not right at mattress level, they are lower than the mattress you do need to still reach in and pull them up into your bed, but you can do it from laying down. The difference between that and a pack and play (besides being way more heavy duty) is the fact that one side of the playpen drops down so that it is lower than the mattress and you can reach right in from laying down, and it attaches to the bed so you don't need to worry about it slipping away from the bed.View Thread