I have a bit of a different perspective than most people on this board. My mother was 15 when she had me. I am not going to say that she was perfect becuase she was not (but neither am I and I am 31).
What I can say about her is that she worked very hard every day, we did not spend much time living with my Grandmother, my mom stepped up and took care of me herself. To this day I never met my father, but my Mother did a pretty good job of filling both shoes. She worked hard, and we had some lean times because she never did go back and finish school so she spent her life waitressing or bartending for a living. Still I never wanted for any nessesities of life, for a big part of my life I never even realized how tight money really was, we lived in a nice place in a good part of town, drove a reliable vehicle. There was never money for a lot of extras like sports teams or ski trips, but that never bothered me.
I never knew growing up that my mother was so much younger than other mothers, I just knew she was my mother, I had the same expectations that everyone else had of their parents, and for the most part those expectations where fulfilled. The great news.... I am a well adjusted healthy adult who is doing very well in life. I am married with a good career and a family of my own. If my mom can do it so can you! (trust me on that one!)View Thread
Sorry to say it but I completely agree with EVERYTHING these girls are saying... TIme to grow up and take care of your self.
When I have been seeing your recent posts it really reminds me of my little sister and the things that she says, so I have to say to you what I say to her.... suck it up buttercup, you got yourself into this situation you need to deal with the consequences.
Why do you think that your mom should have to take on the extra responsibility of taking care of your family now too, she is not superwoman. These things are just as hard for her to do the difference is she makes herself do them, just because she does not complain does not mean that she finds it easy. You need to show her some respect and not expect her to take on your responsibilites.
You need to get that house cleaned up for when the baby comes... and I mean deep cleaned, so that you don't find it gross any more then you need to stay on top of it. Start with one room and each week do another one.
Good Luck, I know it is not easy but it is part of being a grown up woman and a mother. Also that DF of yours needs to get off his butt and help and if he can not handle that then it is time to kick his butt to the curb... after all the posts I have seen about him I still feel you would be better off without him.View Thread
I saw your post yesterday but didn't have time to reply at the time. I can imagine why you are so stressed out. PP are right every mother who finds out that they are having multiples stresses I am sure, actually I am sure that most expectant mothers have a melt down at some point.
During my first pregnany I got fired from my 60k/year job as soon as they found out I was pregnant. I knew that I had not hope of finding a job in my field being prego and it meant some much leaner times than expected. I sobbed for a month straight, I was nearly to the point of not being able to function, I actually went to the dr to request drugs for it but she would not give me any. The point is my son came out perfectly fine, those babies can take a whole lot more than people think. I hear so many women on here saying things like "don't worry it is not good for the baby" I want to slap them everytime I hear it Stress is not going to hurt the baby!
As far as the vehicle that you need being so expensive, my advice is to look for a slightly used Dodge Grand Caravan. once they get a few years on them they drop in price significantly but they are still a really good vehicle and they are suprisingly good on gas! I just bought one and I LOVE IT!View Thread
I know you said in your post that the comments are poted anon... but I would bet that the school has a way to track who it actually was that posted it, just because the end user can not see who it was, the website administrator probably still can.View Thread
I am actually Jealous of you jle, I wish that I would be put on pelvic rest. I have no desire to DTD at all right now. I give in about once a week but sure not because I want to I hope that I get some sore of drive back after this!View Thread