I work as a behavior analyst, so changing behavior is what I do on a daily basis. Without more info, I'll do the best I can! It sounds to me like the function of the hitting & kicking behaviors is attention. (That doesn't have to be what we would consider good attention. Often negative attention, like being yelled at or even a gasp or worried look, can be enough to reinforce a behavior.) The best I can guess with this information is that the reaction she gets when she does these things is what is strengthening the behavior. I would completely ignore the behavior and move away from her. Do not say anything or even look at her, and if you can, try not to even flinch or blink (I know, so hard). Just move away. Be sure to give her lots of love, praise, and fun attention whenever she is behaving appropriately toward you.
I worked with a child a yr and a half ago who was having very similar behaviors toward his pregnant mother (plus banging his head into her belly as hard as he could). We implemented this same procedure and within a week, it was over. It worked like a dream. HTH! Let me know how it goes.View Thread
I tried it at 10 weeks... twice. So yeah, I threw down $60 taxand I would say it was a complete waste. Pretty sure there can be nothing correct about either of my results. Both came out with the bottom half (not just along the bottom of the cup but up to halfway) looking like a boy result and the top half looked like a girl result. There is def only one baby in there (I've had 3 u/s) so this did me no good. I have to wait until April 1 for the big u/s to actually find out. Don't waste the money like I did. I really wish I hadn't.View Thread
I'm 15 weeks. Before I was pregnant, I looooooooooooved to eat. I would have to be really careful not to eat all of the things I wante to or I would have been horribly overweight. But pregnancy has wreaked havoc on my desire to eat. M/s in 1st tri made me not want to eat anything (and generally unable to eat b/c I couldn't keep anything own). I had a few weeks of feeling more normal. And then last week, this all started. I mean aversion exactly the way you said, nothing is appealing and I just don't feel hungry. And that's why I feel sick after I eat a bit of food, I think. Since I don't feel hungry in the first place, I feel REALLY full, REALLY fast. Is there anything you've found to help either pre-pregnancy or now?View Thread
What a terrible situation. I am so upset by the things that other people are saying to you. Please don't let them get to you. I could never imagine the situation that you're in and what you must be feeling. Your son clearly is a miracle and I'll be praying that God has another miracle in store for you.
And to people who say terribly hurtful things in response to posts, I think that's really crappy. I thought the whole idea here was to support each other. I think you all should thank God right now that you aren't in this position with this decision to make. You may think you know what you would do, but until you've been there, it is really unfair to judge at all. And didn't your mothers ever tell you, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all"? I think it's just a good rule of thumb to be compassionate vs hurtful.View Thread
I know that in pregnancy food aversions are a part of life, but for the last week, I seem to be having an aversion to all food. I force myself to eat b/c I know my baby needs it, but it's really hard. Usually, I eat until I feel like I'm about to be sick (I figure if I actually get sick, that would do my baby as much good as if I hadn't eaten at all). But I've only been able to eat much smaller amounts of food than I normally do. In the last couple of weeks, I had just started to be able to eat normally after a lot of problems w/ m/s and I had actually gained back 4 of the 11 pounds I had lost from that in the first tri. Now I have re-lost 3 pounds in the last week. And I really am making myself eat as much as I can.
The other problem is that almost none of the food I can force down is terribly nutritious. I am religious about taking my prenatals and I also take extra vitamin C and calcium (cleared with my dr), but I'm worried it's not going to be good enough. I have a dr appt next week and I am definitely going to mention this then, but in the meantime, I am living on a diet of mostly soup and simple starches.
Anyone else dealing with a similar situation or have any advice on what I can do? Thanks!View Thread
I think it's totally unfair to judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes. I think this last post is heartless and lacks any kind of compassion at all.
If you, your husband, and your dr decide that it is safe and in your family's best interest to induce labor, don't let anyone make you feel like a bad person. I have been working with families of children with special needs for the past 11 years. I don't know what your specific situation is, but I know it is never easy to be the mother to a child with special needs. And I have been there with the mothers of children I have worked with when they have had tough decisions to make- although, I confess, nothing this difficult. Needing to take care of your two year old does not mean that you don't love this baby. I know you are in such a tough place and I am sorry for the decision you have to make. Just be prepared if the dr is less than enthusiastic about your idea to induce labor. I'll be praying for you. Let me know how you're doing. Best of luck to you and God bless.View Thread
I'm 15w1d and I've been having similar pains. From what I understand, it can hurt at times when your uterus grows. There is a whole lot of stretching taking place. I don't think it's anything to be concerned about as long as you don't have any bleeding or anything. If you are still concerned, go ahead and call your dr's office. I know mine has nurses available to talk to patients on the phone about concerns like this. If that would help, def call. That's what they're there for. Take care! I hope you stop hurting soon and I'm sure everything is fine.View Thread