It is very possible that she was wrong. There was a gal on here, (I think she is on the 3rd Tri board now) that was told that she was having a boy and the next time she went in, the LO was a girl. I think it was at 16w she was told it was a boy and 20w they found out that she was having a girl! (I may be off on the dates though).
I wouldn't get my hopes up too high though. If they had a clear view, there's a good chance that the tech saw a penis. I hope that everything turns goes okay for you and that you have a healthy baby!View Thread
Tiphanee, it's normal to feel scared or be afraid that you won't do everything right. It's the most normal thought for any pregnant woman or mom. No matter how old they are or how many children they have.
You don't have to be the perfect mom, or perfect fiance or have the perfect house. Everybody would like to be the perfect mom, but it's just not possible. Things are going to happen and you will make mistakes, but it's all an opportunity to learn. Learn how to do things better and not let them happen again. You don't have to have a perfectly clean house or a baby that never cries. Those are unreal expectations of yourself. (I know that every mom probably does though).
I still think staying put is the right thing to do for now. Remember, you are really lucky to have your mom right downstairs. If you're afraid that you are doing something wrong, or you just don't know what to do, she's just down the stairs. She can come up there and help you, or you could take the LO down there.
I understand your original post much better now. Remember, if you make the decision to stay in the apartment upstairs, you can always change your mind. Especially if the situation with DF changes again. Hang in there girl. You're doing great!View Thread
I agree with the pp's. I won't add anything further. If you plan on getting married, you need to learn how to do these things for yourselves. Ask your DF to help you. I know it can be overwhelming when you see this house that is so dirty and needs to be cleaned.
Set out to do one thing at a time. Set a goal for yourself each day and make sure that you get it done. It doesn't have to be a huge goal, like "clean the bathroom". Instead say, I am going to clean the toilet today. Then the next day, say I am going to wipe down the counter and sink today. Keep doing this until you are done. It will take a longer time to do, but if you do things little bits at a time, it won't be so overwhelming.
If your mom has offered to help you, ask her to help you do your laundry or help do the dishes. Don't make her do it for you though. Maybe you could sort all of your clothes and she could wash them. I know my mom would help me do anything I asked of her. But don't put all of your responsibilites on her.
Have you talked to your DF about this??? What is his opinion? Remember that this is his child too and he may want to see the LO every night. He may want you in the house to help keep up with everything. He may want to live as a family. He has the responsibility of taking care of the child that he helped create. Don't put that burden soley on you and your mom.
I hope that you are able to get evrything situated. Best wishes.View Thread
I'm at 24 weeks and I've gained 9 pounds. The doc says that it's right on track. Although 6 of those I gained in a month and my doc doesn't want me to have back to back months like that. I've trying to be really careful with what I eat, and I'm trying to exercise more.View Thread