Not sure if I believe in old wive's tales or not, but we have two little boys and I really want to try for a girl! I am still on the fence about having a third because I think it will probably be another boy and I don't know if I can handle 3 boys! Lol. My SO has been talking a lot lately about wanting another baby. We had agreed to try again when our oldest is in school and we don't have to pay for daycare for him anymore. He will be 4 next month so he starts school in a year. Our youngest just turned 2.
Has anyone tried any old wives tales and had them work for a girl? I'm really curious. Like I said, I'm not sure if I believe or not but it's sure worth a try!View Thread
I had this problem with my first pregnancy. I only wanted my SO in the delivery room which made both of our mothers pretty upset. We told them in advance so there wouldn't be any drama at the hospital. I basically let them stay in the room with me while I was laboring until it was time to push. Then we asked them to leave. My first son ended up in the NICU immediately after delivery so they only got to see him from the glass in the nurse's station. But with my second son we let both of our mothers in to see him about a half hour or so after he was born. It turned out really nice. We got to share that moment and special experience of his birth with just each other and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.
It's totally up to you and your husband who you have in the delivery room. Don't let anyone change your mind. It is such a beautiful special moment that creates such a wonderful bond. Just make sure you let your moms know in advance what you decide! Good luck!View Thread
With my first son my water broke at 36w5d. I went to the hospital at around 5pm on a Monday and he wasn't born until 3:18am on Wednesday. He was born at exactly 37 weeks and his lungs were not all the way developed. He had to spend 6 days in the NICU. He was 6lbs 2oz at birth. It was terrible having to leave the hospital without him! He is 3 years old now and perfectly normal (just a little on the small side).
With my second DS I was induced at 38w6d because he was measuring big. He was born the day after the induction started and was exactly 39 weeks. He weighed 7lbs 15oz and had no problems whatsoever.
Every baby is different, but I would try and wait as long as you can before you deliver. You never know how developed your little one is.View Thread
I have two boys that are 21 1/2 months apart. The oldest turned 3 last month and the youngest is 15 months today. They are great, but exhausting! I couldn't imagine adding another one to the mix until DS2 is at least 3 and completely potty trained. Plus, daycare is ridiculous! So I guess I really want/need to wait to try for the third when my oldest starts school and maybe not til DS2 is ready for school.
I don't know your situation completely, but I would say definitely wait until after your move and try to plan it so your youngest is at least 2. At 2 they can do a lot for themselves and hopefully she is easy to potty train! Good luck!View Thread
With my last baby I had my membranes stripped at my 38 week appt on a Thursday. I had really bad contractions all night and even went to the hospital to be checked out but then nothing else happened! My dr induced me the following Monday and he still wasn't born until the next day. So I guess in my case it didn't help at all. All it did was give me a night of pain and false hope!
I have to mention that I had trouble with my first baby too. My water broke at 36w5d but I had no contractions on my own. When I got to the hospital they hooked me up to Pitocin. I was trying to do things naturally with no Epidural but after about 32 hours of labor I was given an ultimatum of a c-section or taking the Epidural. I of course took the Epidural and DS1 was born a couple of hours later.
I think having a doctor you are comfortable with can make all the difference too. With my first I was stuck with the Dr on call and she was awful! She barely spoke to me and when she did come in she was eating a cookie after I hadn't had anything to eat in like 35 hours! With my second baby I had switched OB Gyn practices and I got an amazing Dr. She did end up being there for the delivery and things went much more smoothly and I was so much more comfortable!
I know it's a huge decision for you and if I hadn't had problems with the Dr on call with my first delivery then I would tell you to just let things happen on their own. I am not trying to scare you or anything and your LO will definitely come when it's ready, but I just want you to be comfortable and have a smooth delivery! I wish you luck with whatever you decide!View Thread
I had an epidural with my first DS and afterward I had shooting pains that would go all the way up my back for several weeks. Even after that I decided to get an epidural with my second DS (and I am glad I did!). I didn't have any pain like the first time. It just felt a little sore at the injection site.
Another thing that nobody told me was normal post partum was your hair falling out. After I quit breastfeeding and stopped taking the prenatal vitamins, strands of my hair would fall out all the time. It wasn't noticable when you looked at my head, but my brush would be full of hair after just brushing once. And I would find hair all over the floor and on my clothes. I bf my son for over 3 months and now he is 8 months and my hair is just now getting back to normal!View Thread
My SO is the total opposite of yours. He doesn't like to be around a lot of people. I am the one with the big family. I love my family, but I don't want to be surrounded by them when I am in so much pain. With my first baby I had my SO go out and tell the nurse to tell my family that there could only be 2 people in the room at a time. It worked and they all left and just came in 2 at a time which was much more bearable. I had already told everyone that I only wanted my SO in the room at time of delivery so when I started progressing more they all left and went to the waiting room. When he was born he had to go straight to the NICU so once everybody realized they weren't going to be able to see him for awhile they all left and I didn't have a whole lot of visitors after that.
With my second delivery not as many people showed up because it was a scheduled induction for early Monday morning. It was mainly our parents and my grandparents which was a little stressful toward the end but not too bad. I hate that everyone was watching. My grandma would stare at the monitor (even before my epi) and when she saw a contraction coming she would stare at me and see how I reacted to it. Then she would be like "Did you feel that?" It drove me crazy! Finally they all left when it was time to push and I wouldn't let them back there for like the first 45 minutes after he was born.
You just have to be firm and stand your ground. Tell the nurse to tell everyone only 2 visitors at a time and when you're getting close to the delivery time then have the nurse kick everyone out but who you want to be there. Let the nurse be the bad guy. That's what they're there for- to take care of you! I am sure nurses are used to it anyway. Good luck!View Thread
My second DS is almost 6 months old and I just requested the detail billing for my labor with him. They charge for every little single thing you use! They even charge by the hour for each hour you're in labor. It's ridiculous!
Most hospitals charge you like 3 times the cost amount for the medical items they give you. I.E. hemorriod cream, tucks pads, dermoplast spray, prenatal vitamins, tylenol, etc. My suggestion is that you go the store and buy a few of these items and bring them with you and refuse theirs! I was even charged $18 for a breast shield thing to help with breastfeeding. You can buy one of those at Babies R Us for only $7.
The things I suggest you buy and bring to your labor: Tylenol, prenatal vitamins, hemorroid medication (if you don't have any now you more than likely will get some with all of that pushing during labor!), breastfeeding accessories and breast pump, etc.
And I also suggest requesting a detail of the billing to make sure they charged you right. I was charged for 14 cans of Dermaplast. Who in their right mind would use 14 cans during 2 days of stay? Crazy! I didn't even use one. I was also charged over $100 for breastpump kit which I was never given!View Thread
Me (26) SO (26) DS (7/22/09) EDD (5/10/11) Blue Team!
I have to be honest that it is kind of hard handling a 22 month old and a newborn. Carter has spent a lot of time with both sets of grandparents and when he comes back home he acts out and doesn't want to listen to us. We just try to act like it's not a big deal that there's a new baby in the house. We try to give him the same amount of attention that we used to. I'm sure it will get easier as we get into a routine.View Thread
Me (26) SO (26) DS (7/22/09) EDD (5/10/11) Blue Team!