I think you are overreacting a little. You JUST had a baby. Of course you are the one getting up all night feeding and changing - you don't have a job to get up and go to!
Don't get me wrong, I'm sure its exhausting - I've been there. I'm sure you are feeling overwhelmed, it's understandable, your hormones are still in flux and people often say it's hardest going from one child to two.
You need to TALK to your boyfriend and let him know you're feeling a bit overwhelmed and you know that he works hard to provide for you financially, but it would be nice if you could get a night out with your girlfriends one night.
It's all about how you approach the situation, if you come at him accusing him of being an ass and yelling and being all dramatic, he's likely to just tune you out and not take what you have to say seriously.
Also, you stated that the friends you do have live out of state, so who are you wanting to go out with if you don't have any friends that live close by?
Maybe suggest that one weekend you guys just get out of the house as a family?
Anyway, best wishes and try not to let it get to you. I know its difficult, but the key to a better relationship is good communication.View Thread
I don't have much info for you - sorry. I had wanted to try a water birth as well, but my husband wasnt too keen on the idea. You probably won't get much of a response here, after they changed the format, a lot of the population moved to other message boards. Try cafemom.com - they have a lot of boards and quite a few members.
I experienced something similar over the weekend (I'm 33 weeks). However, it was the morning following "fun time" with DH! lol. It subsided after a couple hours though. Have you called your OB about it? I'm sorry I'm no help, I hope you get it figured out though!View Thread
It really is your choice. I would even go so far as to say that your husband doesnt really even get a say.
With my first, I didn't want anyone in their except for DH. Both MIL and my mom (and my sister) were all upset and hurt. I told them point blank, "Sorry, but if you weren't there for the conception, you wont be there for the delivery."
My MIL and I didn't even have a close relationship at the time (still dont after 5 years of marriage) so where she even got it in her head that I would let her in the room was beyond me.
I told Chris (DH) that I didn't want to call anyone until AFTER the baby was born. Some how his mother got word that we were at the hospital (gee, wonder how that happened) and she dropped everything and came running, WITH MY STEP-SON in tow. Much to her displeasure, she spent the next 5 hours in the waiting room.....
Anyway, THIS TIME. I still plan on no one else in the waiting room AND I don't want any visitors at the hospital. I've actually asked to be discharged as soon as possible pending me and baby are okay. If I'm going to have to entertain guests, I will do it in the comfort of my own home.
Chris actually suggested that I might let my mom or sister in the room this time, just so he could have someone to "help out" from time to time. Which I understand, I'm leaning towards my sister though. I don't think I could take either my mom OR his mom in the room.
But anyway, choose whoever YOU want. You are the one that will have your lady bits all out on display, you will be the one all uncomfortable, so it really should be up to you. To hell with what the parents think. Its not about them - at ALL.View Thread
This will be number 2 for us. We just found out the gender a few weeks ago - well, we didn't really find out, the US tech put the results in an envelope for me and sealed it. In a couple weeks we are having a gender reveal party where everyone finds out the gender via a layer cake that will have either pink or blue frosting in the middle (we'll cut into it to reveal the gender).
It was actually DH's idea. I didn;t want to find out at all and just wait until after the baby was born and do a meet the baby part, but DH thought that was "stupid" and had this idea instead. We are throwing it ourselves, with the main focus being on finding out the gender and no expectation of gifts (obviously).View Thread