Sometimes its amusing and other times it is just plain sad... I thought I would share the website though so we can all read the things that some OB's, nurses or midwives may try to say to us during labor to get us to do things their way.View Thread
Had contractions for most of the day Sunday which was a good thing, came to the hospital for my induction at 6pm. Got the cervical tape around 8 pm and proceeded to just hang out at the hospital. Around 3am started having more frequent and timable contractions and at 4am called my Doula and Dan to come to hospital because the contractions were getting to be about 10 minutes apart and intense (plus I knew it would take them abou a little while to get there). At about 6 am my contractions were close and somewhat irratic and intense so they took out the tape and checked me. I labored until 8am when the doctor checked me and decided it was time to break my water. Once my water broke my contractions were a lot more intense, after awhile (like around 4pm?! I think it was... that day is a big blur to me in a lot of ways) I finally got the fentinol which allowed me to take a small nap between contractions which was a big deal since I didn't sleep at all on Sunday night and didn't sleep a lot Saturday night. I ended up getting two doses of the fentinol a few hours apart which really helped both times. I highly recommend it for long labors. I mostly found that meditative breathing was my best friend and massage. My doula would massage my hips as I breathed during a contraction. I used the whirlpool a few times but it wasn't the best for me. It would work at first but since I couldn't stretch out it seemed to eventually make them worse. The only major issue I had through my unmedicated labor is that I had cluster contractions. I would have one and then about 4-5 minutes later I would have 3 or 4 contractions in a row. That wasn't fun but bearable.
Well around 5pm or so Monday evening Dr Piehl decided it was time to start the pitocin. At this point I talked to my doula and my Dan about my contraction pattern and we agreed it would continue like that and that if I got the Epi I could probably take a MUCH needed nap before it was time to push. So I agreed to the epidural, got it done and it was weird. I could feel the pressure of each of them and so we were all glad since we felt that would help later when it was time to push. Unfortunately we never made it to that part. My epi failed an hour into it and the contractions were so strong and constant that I just couldnt handle it anu longer.I labored for four ours like that finally after my Dr came in and talked to me about getting a c-section because of how much distress and pain I was that I accepted it with some prodding from my Doula and husband. I labored for a total of 24 hours, 20 unmedicated and 4 technically medicated but with a failed epi. My nurses and OB kept tellin me how easy I made the first 20 hours look and that I should be proud of myself. Elizabeth was never in distress though she was a trooper through it all. So they took me in for a c-section right away and since the epi failed they then did the spinal block on me and it never felt so good to not feel my body! Soon after Elizabeth was born and Dan could hardly talk, he didn't want to give her up when it was time for Grandparents to meet her. She actually started bawling when MIL finally took her from him. No one stayed late and my parents had been visibly worried about me, my mom wept she was so happy I was ok afterwards.
Post op everything was great until last night. I developed a fever. So they took blood cultures and I have to keep getting antibiotics for it. Other then that I am doing well just really sore and tired. I should know tomorrow afternoon if I actually get to go home or not. It all depends on my bloodwork.
She is such a champ though! She latched literally right away and has had very few issues with eating. She is perfectly fine and while I have had a lot of issues I rather it be me then her. If you would like to see pictures go here .View Thread
I have said several times I was open to meds but I wanted to try first. Fentinol did wonders for me and it really helped me relax for about an hour between contractions. It didn't take away the pain but honestly the pain wasn't that terrible - breathing and massage really did work for me. We just knew how exhausted I was from not sleeping Sunday night and honestly didn't get that much sleep on Saturday.
When did I 'lay blame' on them? I consulted them and they agreed that it would be a good idea, I asked them for their opinion because they are people I trust - why would I have them in there as my support if I didn't trust their opinions? In the end if I didn't want it then I would not get it - so how is it their fault? And I don't blame Dr Piehl at all, I actually choose to have my induction at that hospital because she was the doctor delivering that day. She had my best interests at heart and when I was unsure about it she sat down next to me and talked to me about it, she even tried to help me through a couple of contractions. Do I still feel bad about it? Of course, I worked hard that day and had been looking forward to the time I would get to push.
I am sorry you feel I have an 'attitude' about birth. I have to say I am pretty sure I know who this is and that you have an attitude about birth as well that I do not appreciate. Except I keep that to myself because you are who you are. I have never looked down on anyone for getting a c-section. Despite being the one thing I had worked hard to avoid, I had to go through with it for my own health. I had gone into distress and my uterus was hyperstimulated. It is the second time that happened during my induction.
I also only had two choices. Get another epi and hope it works, or get the spinal. The anesthesiologist did not want to stick me three times. If the epi had failed again and I needed a c-section then I would have had to be put out completely.
Really you decided that this was an appropriate time and place to gloat in my face that you are apparently happy that I had a c-section. Heck you probably think I 'deserve' it in some sort of way just because we disagree about being an informed patient. I have never been arrogant when talking to the people giving me medical care. I have instead been honest and open about my reservations and asked them questions about the protocols they use.
I hope all is well with you and in the future you take responsibility for the things you say instead of hiding like you have.View Thread
Ok so out of what I did take to the hospital I found that my nursing tank was a very wise investment. Once I put it on under my nursing gown it made nursing soo much easier and even easier to switch sides without exposing yourself for all to see. After a few days I switched to my clothing (my night gown, underwear and such). I would definitely wait until your bleeding is under control though and it is like a period for you instead of real heavy stuff.
Something I wish I would have thought of was those Wisp no water needed toothbrushes, facial cleansing wipes and a bottle of detangling spray. After so long of laboring and then having a c-section I felt like crap and wanted nothing more then to just do basic hygiene. I was able to brush out my hair, the nurse brought me a little pan of water that I used to get my hair unmatted and a washcloth that I wiped my face down with but I didn't feel clean. I especially didn't feel clean since right before my c-section started I was throwing up (not easy to do when you can't feel your muscles, laying on your back and your arms are strapped down on each side...)
Last but not least, I forgot my lotion. The hospital was TERRIBLY dry and I had labored twice in the tub. My skin was so dry and itchy that it drove me nuts!
I do recommend setting the TV on a channel that has shows that are easy to drift in and out of during labor. It was a great distraction during labor. I did the same thing at night since DH didn't stay at the hospital (no place for him to sleep comfortably) it helped me when I would wake up alone and gave enough light that when they bought in Elizabeth I could see her.
Well thats all, I thought I would share what worked for me at the hospital since it was my first baby. good luck ladies and I hope you all have easy deliveries.View Thread
It depends on the hospital. Mine had I not had the failed epi or the c-section would have allowed me to shower when my bleeding was controlled. They like to confine you for at least an hour to check your bleeding but as soon as you are cleared to get up and walk around then you can shower.View Thread
I was told I could have one if I wanted it but I have elected to be induced instead. I want to give it a chance... plus my cousin who just gave birth a few weeks ago was told she was going to have a 9 lbs baby and her baby was barely over 7 lbs when she was born. That give me an ounce of hope that they estimation for me is off.View Thread
Thanks! I am actually at the hospital now... munching on carrots and grapes! Yum! When the OB checked me before putting in the tape and I am 1 cm, 50% effaced and -3.... so hopefully tonight will be a good night. I have had a few contractions so far but again nothing is regular.View Thread
You should tell your doctor since it is a quick blood test to check iron levels... Otherwise how do you sleep at night? Are you having restful sleep? You could always take a quick cat nap before you leave in the evening to drive home. Just 10 minutes of having your eyes closed while in a safe enviroment can make you more awake. When I used to drive home from my long distance boyfriends house at like 3am I would have to stop at a well lit gas station, lock my doors and take a few minutes to close my eyes and sleep. Once I woke up I felt better and I wasn't nodding off on the road.View Thread
There are many valid medical reasons for a c-section and those should never be doubted. There seems to be a weird stigma in our culture that if medicine doesn't go 100% our way then it is all the doctors fault. There are times it is... Doctors are humans and do make mistakes but the majority of time medicine just can't solve every problem. Medicine isn't a one size fits all either and any reservations you have about a procedure or treatment plan should be talked about with your doctor and you should ask intelligent questions. Even just asking your doctor for resources about your treatment plan can educate you. It can also help you catch medical mistakes. Everyone is human and they do make mistakes, go into the wrong room or misread orders.
I really do feel sorry for doctors, they are many times put into a tough position. Do what they feel best or protect themselves from lawsuits. I was reading about the cost of malpractice insurance the other day and for OB's it is so ridiculous! They have all this pressure from the insurance company to do things in a certain way or they risk not being covered. How can a doctor give you the best care possible when faced with the possibility of not being insured? One of the many things that is wrong with our health care culture in the US.View Thread