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They offer us another gift, an opportunity to be grateful. Our hearts, as well as research, tells us that being grateful is important and life affirming.
So, what can you do to remember and recognize those who have made the ultimate sacrifice while serving in the military? Consider these options:
Think and talk about their service.
Raise a flag.
Attend a ceremony or parade.
Visit a cemetery or memorial that honors whose who have died serving the country.
Volunteer to place flags on the graves of those who served in the military.
Please share your thoughts, feelings, and memories about this day and those whom it honors.
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.View Thread
So I have not had much experience in healthy relationships. I was forced to be a "married single" and now am single. I am a super nice guy, intelligent, good job, in fantastic shape, look 10 years younger, and have no problem attracting women. I've found though that I crave my alone time and seem to only want companionship part-time. I question if I want it enough to ever remarry. On one hand I want some companionship but on the other hand not too much. I am still attracted to women but would never be in a "friends with benefits" arrangement.
I hesitate to date now because the women I am meeting all want something long-term and I don't know if I will ever want that. I know though that finding women just to be friends and do things together will be hard and if I am attracted to them I'll also want something physical but won't go there unless it's a committed relationship heading toward long-term.
So it seems like a no-win. So far my conclusion is to not date and hope my libido dies soon!
Anyone else torn between wanting a relationship and wanting your solitude?View Thread
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It seems appropriate that today, Mental Health Month Blog Party Day (courtesy of the American Psychological Association), I address the benefits of having healthy relationships. If I had to pick one area of focus to help people feel happier, that would be it.
Below are 8 reasons to find, nurture, and endure the ups and downs of relationships:
- 1. Social support in life.
- 2. Help you become the person you want to be.
- 3. Provide a ready opportunity to be caring toward others.
- 4. Fun and fulfillment.
- 5. Offer a sense of being part of something bigger than yourself.
- 6. Reduce Stress.
- 7. Facilitate better health.
- 8. Associated with longer life.
So on Mental Health Month Blog Party Day, my advice is to think about these benefits. How have you experienced them in your life? And, are there other benefits you've enjoyed from your relationships?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.View Thread
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In what ways can you relate to this perspective about making personal changes? How have you related to yourself as you've struggled with this? Have you been forgiving of yourself as you've tried to make changes? Have you been forgiving of others as they have tried to change?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.
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i just don't like to think for a broken family, but can't fix this anymore, i used to talked to him every time, and still the same thing..i dont trust him anymore, do u think i do still love him??
i got no feelings anymore, sumtyms...View Thread
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i just don't like to think for a broken family, but can't fix this anymore, i used to talked to him every time, and still the same thing..i dont trust him anymore, do u think i do still love him??
i got no feelings anymore, sumtyms...View Thread
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Here's a basic guide for what to do:
Begin by deciding that you want to change.
Find out the skills that you will need to master. Consider the skills you need to develop. Also, you must focus on what you can change, rather than just thinking about how you'd like others to be different.
Commit yourself to practicing your new skill. Remember that new skills take practice, which means that you can expect to make mistakes. If you can accept that achieving your goal is the result of continued effort, you will hopefully be able to respond to such missteps along the way by being compassionate to your struggles.
Can you relate to what it's like to take on this "can do" attitude? What have your experiences been in trying to change yourself in your relationships?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here .
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.View Thread
I don't know if she thinks she already told me about it but I do hate to ask - our nephew's mother said she would play it by ear and I did email both of them for them to figure it out and whatever they decide is fine with me as I am just an aunt and dont want to interfere.
Now, at odds at what is proper to do - If I am not contacted what do I do - I don't want to invite myself but yet am thinking the girlfriend and I did discuss this - don't want to be forward.
What is the proper way to handle this? Thanks for your help and will ck to see if anyone answers this.View Thread
Another response (though generally less instinctive) is to try offering attention and concern — but no advice. When you listen carefully to someone's distress and are willing to experience it with them — not rushing them through it — you are letting them know that you care enough to be with them even in their pain. By itself, this can be very comforting.
Do your experiences fit with this? — either when you were the one who was upset or you were trying to help someone else who was upset?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.View Thread
Would the "Help" section have the answer?
Any help, greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks
DennisView Thread
i have boss who is I think a
terrible person because of what
he do.
this guy has a fiancee. they've
been in a long distance
relationship for more than a
year but they've been together
for a long time I guess. this
guy got here because he needs
to be relocated for his
promotion.
now this guy have been fooling
around a lot. he's hitting on
every girl he finds attractive,
have sex with them then dump
them and then he will tell
other people about it and then
people tells another people and
everyone knows and girl he
hooked up with are humiliated
even my friends. though my
friends didnt have sex with him
but this guys is making
promises and girls are
believing in his lies. then his
girlfriend learnt everything
he's done and still she
forgives him and still this guy
keeps doing the same thing.
I am terribly disgusted with
him I dont even talk to him
unless he ask me stuff but I
avoid him and never befriended
him.View Thread
My only concern in this seemingly ideal situation is, how do I get them them leave once I am home? I get home at 4:30 but they always stick around till 5:30 or 6.
My MIL, especially, seems very reluctant to leave. Sometimes, FIL will say "let's go" ... but she says no, we'll stay and feed DS his dinner. If DH or I protest that we can feed him his dinner, she says "it's ok, I can do it". If I take DS out for a walk or to the playground, she comes along. I think it's a combination of wanting to help us, and also enjoying DS's company and perhaps not having enough hobbies to fill her time at home.
I don't want to seem ungrateful; however I want more 1:1 time with my child. I'd like to feed him his dinner or take him for a walk on my own. Also, I'm a private person and would just like to come home to DH and DS. The other thing is, I often feel that DS is not as attached to me as to his father and grandparents, and maybe more 1:1 time would help that.
I want to tread very carefully here so as not to hurt their feelings. Also, obviously, the whole situation is very beneficial to DH so I don't want to ruin that for us!
Note that we don't pay them for any of this (though we sometimes help out financially when there is a need), so I feel really bad complaining about this. Should I just suck it up?
Thanks in advance for any advice!View Thread
Is this something you've been aware of? What are ways that you and your partner enjoy the outside that also seem to add to your love life?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.View Thread
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For those affected by this- or who know others affected by it- here are some resources that you might find helpful:
Managing traumatic stress: Tips for recovering from disaster and other traumatic events
Building Your Resilience
Coping with Disaster
Taking Care of Your Emotional Health After a Disaster
Recovering Emotionally
Helping Children with Disaster
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A couple seperates and divorces after 14 and 1/2 yrs. The (ex)wife had a daughter from a previous marriage that was 3 yo at time of remarriage, the couple had 2 children of their own during the marriage. The (ex)husband remarries a little over 2 yrs after divorce was final and has been married for a little over 8yrs. The (ex)wife remarries 9 yrs after divorce was final and has been married for 1 and 1/2 yrs.
How unusual, or not, is it that the (ex)husbands family still has relations with the (ex)wife and her previous daughter?View Thread
I went to my doctor appointment this morn. Went through all the usual stuff. Then, I asked my doctor if she could make that therapist appointment for me? She told me she could get me a new one, and that my old one was having some family problems. I asked how long he would be away, she isn't sure, maybe a couple more weeks? I told her I would wait.
I want my old one. He is very good, plus he is an Native American, and has special ways of helping. I really like him, he made me feel like family. There isn't anything I can't tell him. He is so laid back, he makes you feel safe, you know? When I talk to him, its like I feel I want to open up to him. I don't understand his magic, but it works.
I should get a call as soon as he returns. I had better, I need to talk to him!!! A.S.A.P.!!! Until then, I will have to rely on you, and the community members.
With that, I bid you all a good weekend!!!
DennisView Thread
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Some: we can compromise.67% (2)
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This is, of course, also affecting my relationships with people too. The other day my spouse said "stop making it about you" when I personalized something. That hurt a lot but I realized there was some truth to the words, so I decided to look at it. I know this is something that a therapist or some such would be better at handling, but we have been talking a lot about forgiveness in here so I wanted other perspectives on the matter.
So, any tips on forgiving myself? Not carrying the bitterness forward, but learning from the mistake and being open to change?View Thread
**He found a job in Aug of 2011. He's a truck driver & cldnt pass the medical because he had blood in his urine but he's been working ever since.View Thread
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