Every relationship, given enough time, goes through tumultuous periods — even if those episodes only involve a churning under the surface. And, when that tumult becomes painful enough, partners often ask themselves, When is enough enough?
How do you decide whether it is time to let go and move on? If you are currently in this kind of situation, what are the factors that you are weighing in your decision?
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The way to save your marriage is with communication. The reality is that you have been going through a lot. Most people lose their desire and urge for sex when they are in pain and they are suffering from illnesses. In addition, it is not unusual for new parents to lose their desire for a while as they get accustomed to having a baby. So, you might want to talk with your husband about your struggles. Often, when people share their experiences, their partners empathize with their difficulties and want to be supportive. While sex is an important part of marriage, the shared connection often helps people through problems such as yours and even helps many couples to grow emotionally closer.View Thread
Roh, Many people experience a worsening of problems as they work through issues. I think of it as similar to how when you decide to clean our your overly cluttered or chaotic house, you often make a bigger mess before it gets cleaned up. Keep in mind, sometimes people can do it on their own, sometimes they need to call in help (just friends or professionals).View Thread
Hi, Debbie. I'm sorry you feel as you do and respect your decision to pull back. However, I just want to make sure you understand that you have not been banned or forbidden to come here by anyone with any authority. WebMD is not banning you from this community. And, as you can see by the responses here, many people appreciate your participation here.
That said, I still respect your decision to pull back and can understand that you might feel the need to do that now. But we are here if you change your mind at any point.View Thread
What an awful feeling! I suggest that you try her parents again and possibly any other friends of hers that you know. You might also contact the police in her community. Good luck! I hope this all turns out to be a misunderstanding. However, if she is ok and you had good reason to think she was suicidal, it would be a good idea to strongly encourage her to reach out for professional help.View Thread
I'm glad you heard me. While I'm saddened to see you go for the moment, I am glad that you are doing it in an effort to care for yourself. I hope you keep up seeing your therapist and making efforts to becoming emotionally healthier.View Thread