Many people struggle with romantic jealousy. It often takes over their hearts and eventually destroys their relationships. Research has supported the idea that it is best to talk the feelings through with your partner in a constructive way. However, this is extremely difficult to do.
Have you been overtaken by the green-eyed monster? If so, how did it affect you and your relationship? Were there actions you took that helped you work toward a happier relationship?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my post for WebMD's Relationships blog, click here .
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Maybe you can share some of your thoughts/answers to the questions you pose. Talking them through here might help.
Unfortunately, I don't think you can keep this situation from hurting your kids. As long as you and your relationship are suffering, it is likely that the kids feel this -- whether you are together or apart. While you of course want to keep your children from any and all hurt in this world, the reality is that no parent can do this. And another truth is that we cannot save our children from feeling the effects of our own frailties and difficulties (and this is true for all parents). However, what parents can do is be there for their children, listen to them, and help them to cope effectively with life's difficulties. This is extremely important and will serve them well in life. So, whatever you do in your marriage, you might find it helpful to keep this in mind.View Thread
I'm sorry you feel this way, too. Have you ever talked with your therapist about finding a support group? -- something like what you get from here, but in person? I'm wondering if this could be an extra help for you. If you haven't talked with him, you might want to consider doing so. Also, you can check the Self-Help Clearing House for groups.View Thread
As you can see, we do remember you. And, it will be great to have you rejoin the community here.
As is true for everyone who frequents this (or any) community: when you contribute/ are part of the community, you have the chance -- and hopefully the reality-- of benefiting yourself as well as helping others. We all benefit simply from feeling part of a larger community.View Thread
As you consider the other advice, I'm wondering if you could shed a bit more light on the situation. Are there cultural factors that might be affecting this situation? Are there previous experiences (theirs or yours) which would lead them to be overprotective? Is there anything else you are aware of that might be affecting their responses?
In order to develop a different relationship with parents, adult children can often find it helpful to understand their parent's perspective better and respond accordingly. They also often find it helpful to take responsibility for their own actions rather than basing their actions (or their understanding of their actions) on their parents. In fact, these are essential changes in developing an adult-to-adult rather than a child-to-parent relationship.View Thread
I'm so glad you feel blessed and grateful for this community. These feelings and the sense of community can be very healing for people -- this includes you and those you "touch"
I just want to add a related thought: Not only is it incredibly important that people have a sense of connection to others, but it's important that they develop this (over time) with more than one person or community. This way they can get different needs met in different places or by different people. For instance, this community can be supportive, but has its limitations (e.g. members cannot physically sit with each other or give each other a hug). Also, as life changes (as it always does) and possibly separates them from certain people they care about, there are loving others who continue to be in their lives.View Thread
Michelle, Thanks for sharing your experience. This is just the kind of thing I was trying to get across to Dennis.
And, Dennis, I don't know what to say, other than I hope you allow yourself to direct some of that adulation inward. Thank you (truly) for the praise, but it is important for you -- and everyone else for that matter-- to really appreciate the efforts you've made and continue to make. Now as for your dating situation, how about you allow yourself to heal and then get back out there meeting people and doing things that feel good and meaningful?!View Thread