While you can live without emotionally close relationships, you will not be as psychologically and emotionally strong, happy, and resilient as you would be with those relationships.
Emotionally intimate, healthy relationships are ones in which you feel accepted for who you are and encouraged to pursue what is important to you. They can also be healing in two basic ways:
Healthy relationships offer a sense that you can rely on others to really be there for you.
Healthy relationships offer a sense of acceptance and belonging.
In what ways can you relate to this topic? What have your experiences been with feeling a relationship has been healing for you?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my The Art of Relationships blog, click here.
Also, if this topic piques your interest and you would like to learn more about it, you can sign up here to listen to me being interviewed about this topic tonight, April 9, at 5pm PT/ 8pm ET. My interview is part of a larger Emotional Healing Conference for the general public that you can watch earlier in the day, too. The program is free to listen to at the time of airing.
Dr. Becker-Phelps's discussions and her responses in those discussions are for general educational purposes only. If you need help for an emotional or behavioral problem, please seek the assistance of a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional.
I just have to say that it makes me feel good to read all of these responses to eagle's post. I can feel the caring from this community and that makes me feel gratified and proud to be part of it. Eagle, I hope you can feel the caring and that you choose to stick around a while to take in all of this caring feedback. Sharing and getting support from each other is what this community does best!View Thread
It sounds like your "fuzzy headed feeling" might be a response to feeling overwhelmed by emotion. Have you ever tried to "sit with" or just focus on that feeling? Sometimes when people struggle with just feeling their emotions, it helps for them to get some quiet time, close their eyes (or just their minds) to distractions, and focus on a situation that upset them and then pay attention to how they feel in their bodies. When they stay with this, they can then sometimes identify certain emotions that seem related to those sensations. They can then practice staying with the emotions, learning to tolerate them, and eventually be able to reflect on them. In the end, they are more connected with their emotions. Make sense? It's not easy to do and takes practice. But, you might want to try it?View Thread
Thanks for letting us know how it's going. And, I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling better and that therapy seems to be helpful. Learning about yourself and being open to doing things differently can be a difficult process. But therapy can also be a really exciting adventure of self-discovery! I hope you are giving yourself credit for your effort -- that can be particularly helpful when you hit an emotionally difficult patch in therapy. Definitely feel free to continue sharing here and using us for support when necessary. And, good luck!.View Thread
I am part of a virtual Emotional Healing conference, which will begin today at 2pm PT/5pm ET and continue through Wednesday. There will be 13+ hours of interviews related to different aspects of emotional healing. For instance, today's topics are Emotional First Aid, Healing and Presence, Healing and Addictions, and The Undefeated Mind. My interview is entitled Relationships that Heal, and it will be available on April 9 at 5pm PT/ 8pm ET. (If you want to own a copy of the conference, you can buy it for $25 during the program or $50 afterward.) The conference is being offered through en*theos and is easy to sign up for. You can learn more and sign up by clicking here .View Thread
Hi, Roh. I know this has been a struggle for you. For many people, they feel better after apologizing when they see a change in behaviors related to the apology. But they also need to be able to give themselves credit for their efforts and the steps they've made. Are you seeing changes- even if they are just small steps? What are they?View Thread
Hi, Eagle. I hope the folks here have helped you a bit, even though I know they can't take away the hurt. Also, please feel free to continue posting here in this community. I don't mean to suggest that it's the same as finding a woman who likes you, but the regulars here have been a wonderful support for each other and for others who drop in. So, you might find that these are people who you can open up to and feel connected with. Whatever you do, I wish you well.View Thread