I just want to support the other 2 responses you've gotten. The problem here is not the size of your penis. You can have a wonderful relationship and sex life no matter the size of your penis-- but apparently not with her. Women can reach orgasm from intercourse even if a man has a small penis. Keep this in mind: If you wait for a woman's vagina to be fully engorged before having sex, then the size of your penis matters a lot less. Also, you may find certain positions during intercourse work better for you, as well as focusing on stimulating certain parts of a woman's vagina. So, if you are a great guy and an attentive lover, there's every reason to believe that a wonderful sexually intimate relationship.
You might also want to learn more about this whole subject to help you feel more confident. For instance, you might want to read a book (such as Guide to Getting It On) and/or visit WebMD's Sexual Health Community .View Thread
Many couples in long-term relationships slip into a life of routine and lose the warm feeling toward each other. Along the way, they also fail to touch and hug, or they do it without really being emotionally present (just going through the motions). On the other hand, couples who hug "with intention" are more likely to stay emotionally connected.
Do you and your partner hug "with intention"? If you don't, try making it a practice for a few weeks and see what happens.
What has your experience been with hugging in your relationship?
If you would like to read more in detail about this topic in my post for WebMD's Relationships blog, click here .
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You are right that online dating has a definite downside. People can develop feelings that are very intense despite limited knowledge about each other -- no matter how much people say online to each other, there are missing pieces that can only be filled in by being with each other. The same is true with any form of communication -- for instance, you get more from phone calls that email exchanges, but you don't get as full a sense of a person through phone calls as you do seeing them in person.
So, the feelings that develop online can be very real, but they are based on limited information -- and as more information is added, feelings can change.View Thread
Family barbecues and reunions can turn quickly from being happy to very upsetting. Squabbles, long-held resentments, and tensions can all intensify or even erupt.
What has been your experience with this happening? And, what have you done — successfully or not — to try to prevent these kinds of problems?
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I wish I had a sure fire way for you to know when a relationship isn't going well, but I don't. Some people realize that their relationship wasn't as good as they thought after it ends -- not just because it ended, but because they see things they didn't see while they were in it. They also sometimes realize that there is a pattern of a particular problem or problems in their history of relationships. So, you might think back on your relationship (and previous ones) and consider any signs of problems that you didn't see at the time. Then you might take any insights you have into new relationships. It can also help to get feedback from other people in your life, whose judgment and caring you trust.
Other than that, all you can do is wait until you feel ready before getting into a new relationship. Then when you meet someone special, do what you can to nurture healthy communication, including sharing your concerns based on your past.View Thread
As hard as it is, it's important to keep reaching out for help. If "they" think you do not need one kind of help, the question is what kind of help do they think you need. Maybe your therapist can help you with this.
When you feel this badly, it can help to remember that there are people who care about you and that the stronger, healthier you are, the more you can be there for and help others in your life, such as your son and even others here in this community. It's essential that you also continue to reach out for support wherever you can -- such as doing what you are doing here with us in this community. Sometimes it can also help to call a hotline for support (see Crisis Assistance on the left side of this page). I hope you find -as many people do- that getting support helps to make this particularly painful time more bearable.View Thread
Are you still in love with the other ladies or is it more that you are feeling hurt and rejected? If it's the latter and you haven't already done so, you might consider telling the widower your struggles. If it's the former, then you might consider telling her that you are still working to separate emotionally from previous relationships. While not for everyone or appropriate in every situation, these kinds of discussions can help build intimacy in your current situation. It can also help to remind yourself of how the previous relationships failed and how those ladies let you down; and also of how the widower is there for you now and all of what she has to offer.View Thread
Debbie- I've been following this thread and just want to say I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time. You said your therapist called and wanted you to call him. I'm not sure exactly what's going on, but I do know that you have respect for him and feel he's helped you in the past. As much as you've felt hurt by 'the system', it has also been a place where you've also found help. So, you might consider calling your therapist back as he asked. Maybe there is more he can do to help -- even if it is to just help you feel even more that he cares and is trying to be there for you? It's good to see you reaching out for support here and I hope you do it with your daughter or whoever else you feel might be safe to reach out to.View Thread