Thank you for that! Hope your work gets easier. I sure hope you are getting a break on the rent for all that hassle! Saying no to that client has really brought home to me the trouble I have saying no to anyone. Sometimes it's easy but sometimes I feel like a real heel for doing it. Something to look at and explore, for sure.View Thread
That's a nice thought, Dennis! I have just completed one commission and gotten payment for it. The customer seems happy with her art, too. I'll be shipping it later this week. So, that was great!
Now, I have another issue though. I have another would be customer who wants to buy a somewhat expensive piece. She's kind of hard to get ahold of though and she keeps trying to wiggle around my policies. However, she's also a friend of my mother's. My spouse is counseling me to not take the commission, that the customer is too unreliable and likely to cause problems or hurt my reputation. I'm still really trying to figure out where I stand on the matter. I know that this interaction is going to basically be setting policy for the future.
Basically, I'd love the money but I don't know if the headache is worth it. I'll probably end up telling her no, but I can't help feeling bad about it. I'm getting the advice that it's a really bad idea to chase after customers, and that I shouldn't act like a doormat. On the other hand this person has been talking about wanting me to do a commission for over a year but not being forthcoming with things like adequate photos or serious interest until recently. She also seems to be having trouble with not knowing how to check her spam filter. So it's a tough situation... in the end it almosts seems like I'm weighing money with my self respect.
In the end, I guess I just wish I were a little better at saying "no" withouit feeling bad about it.View Thread
I like my dragon too... I have such fun with color! Dear Spouse toned it down a bit so it didn't "glow" so badly. I'm all happy now that my store is working too, that took a lot of work, let me tell you! But I finally figured it all out. Now to do more art so I have something new to put up periodically.View Thread
Hey there Debbie! I'll bet we all understand what it's like to forget login information. I have to write all my stuff down sometimes. Another thing I do is pick a word I like then just change the number when I have to change my password. No worries though, we're glad to have you here.
Hope you are feeling better, and I wish you the best in learning to forgive yourself. You may feel guilty for allowing yourself to be talked into that, but remember that we are all humans. When someone is abused really badly, it is normal to have some effect from it. Just like it's normal to get a bruise if you bump your knee. But it's possible to heal, too, with the right help.
Thanks, both of you, for the support once again! My dear spouse actually managed to save a couple of them so they could be put up after all. For example, my lantern picture was nice but one of the lanterns was way off square. My dragon with feather was nice but the color levels were off. She fixed both those things digitally and so now they are able to be properly displayed, looking their best.View Thread
No matter the name, whether you have one or not, you are still you and you have intrinsic worth as a human being. It sounds like you are having a really hard time. We are here to listen if you need to talk.View Thread
Great point! In this case though, my spouse was seeing things that I had overlookeed. Like, a pen and ink drawing I had thought was great, she pointed out that it was nice but some of the lines weren't parallel like I had wanted them to be, so it would give people the wrong idea about my technical skill. If I'm trying to compete against the best, I have to look my best. Once I'm a little more successful I can have a secondary gallery with some of my earlier works but for now I need to show the stuff that is done with my very best skills. Thank you for responding!View Thread
Thanks for looking! I'll have to read that article when I get off of a filtered computer. Some will notice that my site looks a lot different and has far fewer works on it at the moment, I'm also putting up a sales section, but that's because I'm trying to only put my best foot forward. Onward and upward!View Thread