I believe you can keep love alive if you both want to!
My wife and I are very compatible in almost every aspect of our marriage. We do many things together and also have our own individual interests we do separately. While we stay very busy, we put our marriage first, above everything else, including our (grown) children and grandchildren. We take care of ourselves and are physically fit. We also understand that marriage does require work, although with some consideration it doesn't seem like work at all!
We are very intimate and we make love at least twice a week. We both love foreplay and she has an orgasm almost every time we make love. We do try different things and we both initiate. We both believe sex is very important in a relationship, and we both like sex.
We take romantic vacations every year, usually a Caribbean all-inclusive during the winter and a Florida vacation in the fall. We have fun together and we make love every day, sometimes twice. These are "our time" weeks and they really rev up the relationship.
I should note that we are both in our upper 60s. View Thread
I am not sure where best to post this, but here goes.
My wife and I are in our middle & upper 60s (me upper). We are very active and have a happy and loving marriage, and a great sex life. We both believe sex is important to a good marriage.
A couple of years ago the aches & pains, as well as injuries, really started to bother us. Sex was still great, but the intensity seemed less, and my wife complained that she didn't initiate as much as she had in the past. I have an enlarged prostate and take Avodart to control the growth. It works well except I am one of the "few" who has ED side effects. Our primary care doctor said this is all "normal for people our age." I also asked my MD to test my testosterone levels, and they were low (190), but OK for someone my age.
Then my wife saw a program with Suzanne Somers talking about natural hormone replacement. She read Somers' books and decided to give natural hormone replacement a try. Of course our primary care MD would have nothing to do with it, so my wife found another MD who specialized in this area. She had almost immediate improvement with the treatment, aches & pains gone, increased energy and her libido improved. Her orgasms increased to where she has an orgasm just about every time we make love.
She asked me to look into it and I met with the doctor. Men are simple, it is all about testosterone. As you age, your "T" goes down and everything else goes down with it. They gave me "T" pellet inserts to get my "T" levels back up to where they were when I was in my 20s. The effect was quick, aches & pains lessened, more energy, and I became one horny lover. Nighttime erections came back, as well as some daytime ones too! We both love it. We both lubricate well, so nothing extra needed. It is fantastic what high libido does to a marriage. With the extra energy we both lost a few unneeded pounds too. It has been over 2 years since we started this program and it is great. We make love 2 — 3+ times a week at home, and once or twice a day when we are on vacations.
Of course insurance does not cover this, but it has been worth the cost. I would highly recommend this to older couples who want to feel young again. Keep your primary MD informed so he/she can monitor all your vital statistics.View Thread
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