AN_216217...let me ask you something...were you the cause of the demise of his marriage??? If so...then there should be no question as to why he won't commit to you because of his children...if not, then only you know how you feel about him..none of us her live in your house or walk in your shoes...so who's to say on what you should do...if deep in your heart you feel that you want to stick it out...then by all measn...do...if deep in your heart you feel its time to cut your losses, lick your wounds and move on...then by all means do so...I don't know if I missed it...but...did you mention your age...just curious.View Thread
Yes...for the most part men and women can be friends....unless the friendship turns out like this one did...I had a male friend who...I know for a fact was in love with me but knew better than to ever say anything or approach the subject with me because he knew that it would be the end of the friendship...so instead of not having me at all, he settled for the close friendship we had...notice I keep saying had...every time I was in a relationship, he would sabotage it...he would tell that the guy was no good and that he was a user...that he would talk bad about me and really didn't love me...stuff like that...so I decided it was time to end the "friendship"...I don't need people like that in my life.View Thread
An-247758...how are you??? I gave you a thought today and I was just checking up on you and wondering how your making out?? Believe it or not...a friend of mine now finds herself in the same situation as you and it made me think of you!! I hope everything is better with you. Enjoy the rest of the weekend : )View Thread
Hello Darlin' Yes...I did enjoy this beautiful day. I hope you did too!! I would never judge you. He who is without sin..... I don't live in your house and I don't walk in your shoes but I do understand where your coming from. Is your husband Italian??? My ex-husband is and...OMG they must be related!!! Another boob!!! Honey, don't let that upset you, really. It's very hurtful I know, but just take what he says with a grain of salt. He just sounds like a man who is not capable of saying and doing the right thing. Mine wasn't either. Do you now that when we got engaged he didn't even "ask " me to marry him!!! We went to dinner and when we went back to my apt. he was standing in the kitchen with my engagement ring ( which I sold btw and bought a Louis Vuitton bag with the money!! ) in the box in his hand and just looked at me!! I shoulda known from then...Your mama didn't raise a mistress...and she didn't raise no fool either!!! Well, you finally answered my question when I asked you if you had children. Your husband isn't cabable of giving you a compliment and you want him to be nurturing, chivalrous, romantic and debonair....good luck with that one!!! Yes, honey...what we do for our children!!! We put up with alotta garbage ( are we allowed to curse on this thing?? ) There is no doubt in my mind that your husband does not mean to intentionally hurt your feelings by what he says...he's just not capable of much else. Sorry for him....and don't be so quick to be happy for me...I broke up with that other idiot this morning!!!!! He was stuck on stipid too and I'm to old and to tired to go through that again. I cut my loses and licked my wounds and I'm just fine!!! It's said that God puts people in your life for a reason....you decide if they stay or if they go...the choice is entirely yours...I decided he had to go!!! I just want to "thank you" for all the compliments you paid me. I've always been "Mary ( not my real name ) to the rescue." It's my nature to nurture. I just hate to see good people have such saddness in their lives and if i could help someone by making them look at their situation as a 'glass half full', then I've done my good deed for the day. You sound like a good person who seems to have her head on straight, for the most part!!! LOL...and then we come to this man!!! Do what I do every night before I go to bed...when you say your prayers ( I assume you do ), if not START TONIGHT!!! It's never to late...and just ask God to do what HE feels is best!!! That's it...just ask Him. You know the old saying "Let go, let God"... One of God's greatest blessings is NOT giving us what we ask for!! He always knows what's best for us. Now that I got all religious on you ( : I wish that we could somehow communicate other than this site. I would love to talk to you in person. How can we do that??? I live on the East Coast. Let's figure something out. Enjoy the rest of your night and don't forget...NO CRYING AND PRAY!!!View Thread
An_427758 My goodness..I didn't mean to make you cry...but it's ok to cry...it cleanses the soul....but your only allowed to cry once, anymore than that causes wrinkles ( : I feel your pain, I really do. I had to smile when you said that you are "unbelievably flattered" with all the attention and kindness this man shows you. I can relate 100%...It's a nice feeling, isn't it?? Did you ever think that the reason why your so attracted to this man is because he makes you feel special and wanted, unlike your husband?? I read your response to Elle0317... and if your husband is all the things you mentioned, then I can understand your attraction to this man. One man's trash is another man's treasure...and more times than not, it ends up being to late to salvage a marriage or a relationship. I too had a husband that was not very nice to me. We were separated one year when I met a man who never let a day go by without telling me how beautiful he thought I was or how happy I made him. That was 7 years ago and till this day, he'll still text me just to say "you looked beautiful tonight." ( I hope he never looses those rose colored glasses he wears when he looks at me ) LOL This new man fills the void in you left by your husband. That worries me. I'm fearful that you might get hurt. Listen to me...I don't have a crystal ball in front of me, I only wish I did...but I'm not getting a good feeling about any of this. I'm really not. I've been in your shoes and I fear for you. I'm just afraid your gonna get hurt...and I would hate to see that happen to you. You seem to be a sweet person who, right now is in a big ball of confusion. Darlin' take a step back for a minute. Take a piece of paper...make two lists..the good and the bad...and be honest with yourself. List all the good..and all the bad in your marriage. If the good out weighs the bad...then try your best to make it work with your husband...,if the bad out weigh the good...then send him packing! I did it and it worked for me...needless to say..I sent him packing!!! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I hope this helped you out a little more...and DON"T CRY...take a deep breath when making out your list...it helps. I missed my calling in life, I should have been a therapist LOL Keep me posted darlin' ( :View Thread
samanthas11...how right you are!!! You can forgive...but it is extremely difficult to ever forget....especially when the hurt is so deep. I forgave my ex husband for his cheating with the town wh---...I really did, if i didn't I could never be in the same room with him...we still work in the same office and I see him everyday. For the most part...it's ok...but there are days when I look at him and get a flashback of all the bulls--- that he put me through...and I just wanna jump over the desk and choke the sh-- outta him!!! Sometimes I wish I would just do that...choke the sh-- outta him...what purpose would it serve, you ask....none...but it would make me feel a whole lot better...and while I'm at it...I would LOVE to choke the sh-- outta that garbage can he cheated on me with...that's my only regret...that I DIDN"T cjoke the sh-- outta her when I had the chance to...and I live with that regret every day...but the day ain't over...she just might get it yet!!! To forgive...very possible...to FORGET...IMPOSSIBLE!!!View Thread
An_247758....then just stay away from him. I didn't realize that you too are married. That changes things. Not only will his marriage be damaged beyond repair, so will yours if your husband should find out. Believe me my love, it is not worth getting involved with this man right now. Do you or he have any children?? PLEASE...for the sake of everyone concerned...take care of home FIRST...then if you and he want to be together...so be it. As I read what you wrote, it sounds to me like you already have feelings for this man. Listen...people fall out of love everyday for different reasons...sometimes it just happens...and that's ok...it's just a part of life...but to open one door before you close the other door...not good and no good will come of it...trust me when I say...it happened to me...I know of what I speak....and if I can spare you 1/3 of what I went through...I will. PLEASE...just do what I said. Take care of home FIRST...you will be ever so glad you did. Keep me posted. Good luck ( :View Thread
RUN>>>>RUN AS FAST AS YOUR FEET WILL CARRY YOU!!! CHEMISTRY BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU....NOOOOO DARLIN'.... IT'S CALLED LUST!!! GET OVER IT!!! GO OUT AND FIND YOUR OWN MAN...LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE ALONE...I'M TELLLIN' YOU FOR YOUR OWN GOOD....KARMA'S GONNA GET YOU TOO!!! YOU BEST BELIEVE IT!!!View Thread
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