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DfromSpencer

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My name is Dennis, i am 53 now, will turn 54 on Dec. 27th. I am single, and looking for the "one". Divorced, have two adult children, five grandchildren. I am classified as disabled. I don't let that stop me from doing most things in my life. I served in the Army for seven years. It was during that time, i had an accident in a jeep. Come to find out, years later, that i had an herniated disk in my neck. At the time, and after my service, i was afraid to tell anyone, for fear of reprisal. I did not want to lose, or be denied employment. So, foolishly, i waited too long, and my nerves were damaged. Now i suffer in an agony of pain. Recently, after an MRI., i was given a diagnosis of Degenerative Bone Disease, and three more herniated disks. I also have D.B.D. in my back. Life is a misery, but it is my life. I live my life to the fullest possible.

I came to this site to help others, and hopefully, help myself. I have lived alone for a very long time. As i mentioned, i lost my one best friend. I would have been all alone, except for this site. Now, i have met a new best friend, Vicki. Plus, and this is a big PLUS, i now have several new friends! Hiya Chrissy, and Caprice! And one important to me, Doctor. Hi, Dr. Becker-Phelps. Without their expertise, and insights, i would be lost, and all alone. I can't forget to mention some other friends here, Thank You to, Tml, and FCL, I am honored to know all of you! And to all, a huge THANK YOU!!!!

I cannot live my life without you, all of you here I proudly call FRIEND!
Dennis

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Hi Louise,

I hope this time this works? Yesterday, and the day befor, I was having quite a time with this laptop. For some reason, it kept jumping from my typing to another post altogether. I have no idea as to why this would happen? The first time, I had sat here for over two hours typing a reply to you, when it jumped over to another post. Was I ever mad? You betcha I was!!! And then, once again it jumped after typing for a long time. So, I gave up. And yesterday was no different. If that happens again, I am taking this thing to Staples, and have them fix it!!!

Ok, once again, I will now attempt to answer your last two posts to me. Yes, I do have a funny side, and so do you, I see? That's good! How could one go thru life without humor??? And yes, the V.A. has decided to bring in some people who are practiced in the art of acupuncture, and massage therapy. I already told my doctor that I was interested.

I am still exersizing, and not smoking. Yesterday, I went a little overboard, and I am paying for it, today! It was the first time I doubled up on those bands. It doesn't sound like much, but it was? I used the 15, and the 5 together, and let me tell you, my biceps, and triceps really feel it!!! Plus, I did many pushups, so now my pecs hurt, also. I went for my walk early in the morn., so I didn't have to worry about legs, thank you very much!!! So, I am sooooooo glad you liked the yoga!!! I can just picture you sitting there, all sweaty, and chatty. LOL!!! I was all sweaty too, so we are even there, eh? I'm so glad you found something to enjoy, and keep for yourself! Aaaarrrrgggghhhhh!!!! I've been trying to keep my muscles stretched so they won't hurt as bad. Well, I just flexed my biceps, and HOLLY COW, did that hurt!!! All that "No pain, no gain" crap, is for the birds!!! I never intended to go so far, I was just soooo into it, I didn't watch what I was doing. And now, I am paying for it!!! Go ahead and laugh. I had to!

Tomorrow is Thursday, I hope your hubby's doctor apt: goes well!!! Low-T, that must really suck? I may have certain problems, but that is not one of them. Thankfully, I still get turned on by women! And now, I am at the point in life, where even a few extra pounds doesn't even bother me, at least not like it used to!!! Anyway, I wish you both GOOD LUCK, tomorrow!!!

Its good that you don't have the "empty nest" syndrome! The "Empty Vagina" one, is new to me. I am soooo sorry to hear that!!! NO ONE should ever have to suffer that, when married!!! Hopefully, after the doctor visit, he may return to you, in every way??? I really do hate to hear things like that! I made up arguments in order to sleep on the couch. How horrible was I??? I deprived not only myself, but my wife, of having sex. I feel so sad, ashamed, and very sorry for doing that to her! My fear, the fear of her finding out, and thinking of me as less than a man, petrified me!!! I handled that situation all wrong! I never thought for one second, that she would understand, and actually want to help me? No, my fear over-ruled any positive thinking!!! You, you are standing by your man, and I never thought my wife would, and I think i'm right? Anyway, good luck tomorrow!!!

Its too bad you can't go to therapy! I really think it would help out your situation? Oh well, we do what we must, right? I am glad you are going back to school in august. May I ask what it is you are studying? I am not sure if you mentioned that, or not? And thank you for the suggestion, I certainly should use the travel time to the hospital for something more than music!!! I wish there was a V.A. hospital closer, but no, the V.A. sends you to the closest one available to you. They consider this distance as short. Really? 120 miles, give or take a couple, and that's close? Oh well, alas, and woe is me!!! LOL!!!

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Hello again, Louise,

Of course I know what a stability ball is, I was only having fun with you. You "fell" for it, get it? LOL!!! Sorry! I just couldn't help myself!!! Ok, I get it now, its actually kept hot inside, in order to make you sweat more. Ah Ha, so its not the hot guys you are going there for? Darn, I was thinking hard about joining!? J.K. again. LOL!!! You are loads of fun, I like that!!!

Boy, do I know about late nights, long hard days!!! I was in the military for seven years, four of those as an N.C.O., so yeah, I know long days!!! Once you are a buck sgt., everything at the top, rolls down hill. It was up to us young sgt's to make sure every single troop in our immediate command was taken care of. I was up at 4am. every morn. except Sat., and Sun, and was at work till midnight most every night. I could explain all the hard hours, but that would take too long. So suffice to say, I know all about those long days? I feel for your hubby, I really do!!

Its nice to know that you don't play that cheating game, either. When my ex cheated, I told her to hit the road, also. And, like you, my family and friends talked me into giving her a second chance. I did, but after fifteen years, and my not dealing well with my E.D., I got a divorce, anyway. I hope the same never happens to you!!! You really are a strong woman!!!

As for the hours for seeing a therapist, maybe you could find one that would take you on a weekend, say like Saturday morning, or afternoon??? As long as you have good insurance, I am pretty sure there is at least one doctor out there that will spend the time with you? It would cost the insurance more, but what the heck, right? Its all for a good cause!!! And what does age have to do with knee replacement? If your knee is bad, it shouldn't matter if you are two, or 100 years old, right??? WOW, just WOW!!!

I have to go, also. It is going to storm any min. now, and I want to unplug everything. So, I will talk to you later, take care, hope the doctor visit goes well!!!

Yes, TTFN Louise
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Hello Louise,

Fell off the stability ball, eh??? Hope its not too high? You certainly do not want any disc problems! Hot Yoga place? What does that mean, exactly? Its hot inside, or their are hot guys there? I hope its more the first, I would hate to see you spoil your marriage over an affair! My wife cheated on me, and let me tell you, that is a "pain" you can never get rid of!!! Oh sure, I forgave her, but I will never forget it!!! I feel horrible, now, for using that as my excuse, and not my E.D., which WAS the real reason! She still doesn't know that, so one of these days, I will have to tell her, if she will listen to me?

Yes, that is good news! If hubby is paying more attention now, there may yet be hope? If this is bothering him also, then he should be open to the counseling, right? I hope he means it, and participates in therapy!!! This has to be a 50/50 partnership, or the whole thing gets lopsided, and sometimes, it overturns and nothing can right it again!!! I suppose that, with his job, there may be some cancellations, ahead? Bear with him, if he really is sincere!!!

Thank you, soooooo much!!! Yes indeed, I most certainly am glad I spoke to my doctor! One little Levitra, and its like i'm 18 again!!! Yippee!!! My last blood test, still says I am very well within the limits of Testosterone, so I am good there. And yes indeed, I will keep on exersising as long as I possibly can, and I don't hurt myself doing it!! I want to look good, when I go to the nursing home, you know? Chase all the other 80 year olds around the room. LOL!!! And of course I will, I think C.B.T. is a wonderful tool to have!

Winney the Pooh movie? Maybe, when I was like a hundred years younger? My kids haven't been kids for soooo long now? And my grandkids all live two states away, so no, I guess I don't remember this? Sure is cool, tho!!! My kids made me a grandpa when I was only 44, I didn't think that was very conciderate of them. At least, not at first. But when I saw my granddaughter for the first time, I love every second of being grandpa!!! Now, I have five grand kids, fantastic, eh? Gotta love em!!!

Dr. Becker-Phelps has helped me tremendously!!! She gave me the keys to open my mind, and let go of past demons, and things I cannot change. She has helped me to free my mind, and its like having a whole new life!!! If I hadn't of found her, I don't even want to think of where I might be, right now? All I know is, it wouldn't be pretty! I can't thank her enuff, you know?

Oh hey, I gotta go! I have an appointment to see my Pain Management Specialist today. I have to drive from Spencer, all the way to Sioux Falls S.D., about 120 miles from here. Fun, fun, fun!!! Another fun filled day for me! RIGHT!! NOT!!!

Thanks again, Louise, nice name by the way!!! Take good care of yourself, and take good care of yourself!!! HeHeHeHeHeHeHee........Shame on me!!! Adios, Amiga!!!

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