Oh no, you are letting the ex Marine go??? Well, that is too bad, but I want you to know that I support your decision 100%!!! If this is what you truly want to do, then go for it, we will be right here for you!!! I wish it could have worked out for you, you know? I want you to be happy, we all want you to be happy! So, if you have to cut him lose, then I am right here for you if you need me, okay?
Ah, so, I have been looking in the wrong place? You put it in one of your other e-mails, eh? Well, when I get done here, I will go to that one and get that e-mail address so we can chat more privately if you like? It always makes my day when you talk to me! So, I look forward to our talks again!!!
Did you read Dr. Leslie's response to ya??? Oh, I had thought he was still in? Discharged eh? Then what is keeping him from coming to see you? You get to know someone a whole lot better in person, ya know?
I still hope this works out for you, I have goose bumps just thinking about it!!! You put your email address on here somewhere? I must have missed it? Did you send it to me, or post it here? I will find it, if at all possible!!!
Its no problem, I have plenty of time to write since I am disabled. It gives me something to do besides going crazy. LOL!!! I'm glad you found something useful in all of that?
I love Colorado myself, that was where I planned to live the rest of my life. There are other places in Colorado than just mountains, you know? You could stay to the south, go see the Hopi tribe, and the Oto's, I think they are called? Those cliff houses are pretty cool. You could go to the four corners area, and then you could say you stood on four states at once?
I agree with you on Nebraska and Oklahoma, nothing much to look at! Yes, those storms they have been having down that way is something out of this world! I have to wonder if we have really messed up our planet? Global warming? Maybe? Whatever it is, it looks like we are in for some nasty weather!!! I take it you guys have missed those storms? I hope so!!! All of that destruction, people's lives, property destroyed, poor things!!! I wish them a speedy recovery!!!
Well, I think I have typed enough for this night? My downstairs neighbors love to keep me awake all night plying me with electricity. They seem to think its funny, or what not? It isn't funny, but I can't make them stop, and they have everyone hoodwinked by lying so well?! So, I just have to hurry up and find me a place of my own? I'm looking, but not finding. Oh well!
I hope Dr. Leslie can help you out? Not sure I could take that? I did that to my ex, because I was afraid to tell her I had E.D.! All my fault there! She would flirt with other men right in front of me, even after I caught her cheating on me?! I never flirt with other ladies when I am with someone, I just don't think it is right? When you are "with" someone, you should be only with that someone, no flirting or what not? That is just me, tho, to each their own, I guess?
I'm sorry your wife treats you this way! No one should have to go through that every day. If you ask me, people get complacent after spending so much time together? Life and love become old hat, and it is just not exciting anymore? You have to have a partner willing to help you make this marriage work, it can't be done alone! Perhaps some counselling is in order? Maybe even some sex therapy? If not, you might as well resign yourself to a life of complacency with no love between you two?
I hate to see this happen to others! I was scared, but that is still no excuse for what I did to my ex! I was too ashamed to even talk to her about it! Communication is the key to a successful relationship!!!
I'm curious, do you still hug and kiss your wife before you leave for work? How bout when you get home? Do you ever give her flowers for no reason? Give her massages? Get in the shower with her and wash her hair, back? Do you give her foot massages? Ladies appreciate those little things that make her life more pleasurable! Do you ever make romantic dinners for her? Dress up sexually for her? Anything that you would like yourself? Women notice these things, and most reciprocate! Your wife may need some extra special attention to get her attention? Know what I mean? Sure, you have been married a long time, too long to throw it all away!!!
I say "Go For It"!!! It might take her some time to give back, but I think she will eventually come around? From what I have seen myself, they all come around with all that attention?! Just make sure she thinks you are enjoying it, also? She will get the point, eventually!
WOW!!! You are soooo lucky!!! What you have is someone very special, I hope he doesn't have to go overseas! Are you sure that is all you got from him lying next to you with his eyes closed? Hmmm, you sure you're not leaving some spaces blank??? LOL!!!
This is so exciting!!! Please keep us informed, okay?!
Ahhh, this sounds promising then? I hope this guy is on the level with you?! But, like FCL says "take it slow" so you can savor the sweetness of it all. Yes?
If this is getting that serious, perhaps you should invite him to dinner someplace? You know, some restaurant near you, but is well lit, and lots of people around? Can't be too cautious the first time, you know? If all goes good, invite him back for a second visit, this time though, have it a candle lit dinner, just the two of you, if possible, anyway? BUT, still have people near by, just in case? Do NOT invite him to your apartment till you know for absolute sure he is a legit guy? You know what I mean, make sure he isn't one of those knife wielding maniacs out there, or some such? Now, don't get me wrong, I'm hoping for the best for you, but I worry about you, you know? You are my sista from anotha mista, right on???
Keep that list going, until you are sure in your heart where you want to take this to? You are at the second level, so invite him to that dinner in a well lit, full of people place. Make the best of any situation by asking him pointed questions. Keep asking till you are sure he is there to stay, okay?
I'm sorry if I sound over protective, its just that you are like my little sister? Well, good luck!!!
Wow, sorry about your cruise trip!!! I'm the same, can't sleep while moving! I would always make pit stops along the way for rest and what not.
Okay then, perhaps you could plan some day trips with pit stops along the way? You could see a lot of the country this way? I've done that myself. I hate to drive for long periods of time, so the breaks sure come in handy! Go by how many hours you feel comfortable to drive, then select motels/hotels along the way at those stops? I like to see as many historical spots in each state as I can. Then move on to the next one.
Yes, I would not fly anywhere for any reason! Its not just the T.S.A. agents, I'm more worried about these crazy pilots/co-pilots crashing planes just because! WOW! What has this world come to? It wasn't bad enough to have terrorists, now we have that I.S.I.L. group going around terrorizing everyone!
I'm glad you get to see your grandson!!! Some ex-wives would try to hinder your visits, you know? Just being nasty for no reason. I hope your son gets full custody of him real soon!!!
Well, I hope some of the others come here and help you? They are probably too busy right now? Weekends for some, can be as hectic as any weekday. Too bad, times they are a changing?!
Good luck with your trip planning, I hope it goes smoothly for you guys!!! Keep us informed, if you will, of your vacay? We look forward to hearing from you!!!
I'm sorry Dr. Leslie, this happened a very long time ago, now. I was twenty years younger than my 56 years now. We met when I was thirty four, was together two years, well, almost? You know, I still miss her, and her son?!
Oh yes, Dr. Leslie, I am indeed working towards a better me. I have two more friends now. Two that are more readily available than the others. Come to think of it, I haven't heard from Brent in a couple of months? Last time he stopped by, he said he was going to jail at nights and weekends to cover his last D.U.I., and working in the daytime. He may have messed up his working condition, and is now serving full time? Its summer time now, so I am out and about once again. Haven't met any new ladies, but that doesn't deter me in any way! This summer is still young, I have plenty of time to find a new lady, I hope?
Thank you so much, Dr. Leslie, for everything you do here, and for caring about each and every one of us!!! What would we do without you? Who would set out topics of discussion for us to learn from? Who could understand the inner workings of our minds better than you? We sure do need you from time to time!
It has been a little while since the last time you wrote! I am so happy to hear about your son's good fortune!!! Yes, I suppose things would cost a plenty from any divorce today? It is still sad to see this happen to anybody, though I suspect you and your son are happier for it? Your grandson is probably happier, too, even though he has to stay with that evil woman? Do you still get to see him regularly? I sure hope so!!!
Now, about these vacay's? Short ones are okay, but have you ever thought about one of those cruises? Perhaps one to the southern Isles, or even one to Alaska? Oh, I know of a perfect one for you!!! Do you like to travel by train? If so, there are some pretty awesome views from the trans Canada scenic railways! How bout an overseas trip? My father and step mother went to England once, for just a week, but they also got to see Spain. There are just soooo many choices out there in this great big world of ours!!! You know, if you just want something different, try a Travel Agency?
I'm just like you, tho, can't afford nothing too fancy? LOL!!! Everything has gone up but my S.S. check, unfortunately! When, if I ever get to go somewhere, it is always to Colorado to visit my children, and grandchildren. Oh well, life goes on!
Once again, I am so happy for your son, and you included!!! I can only imagine what pain your son endured while married to that evil woman? I hope he can find a better wife than that one was?!
Good luck on finding that vacay you want! You take care now, I hope to hear from you soon!!!
Great topic!!! As you already know, this happened to me when I was with Melinda. She is the one that had an 8yrs. old son, and the father made her go back to his family home? (rich) When we first met, sparks flew in all directions! I felt weak in my knees, thought I was going to fall right in front of her? I didn't thankfully! We just hit it off like it was the normal thing to do? She was ten years my junior, but if she didn't care, I wasn't going to either! Even her son took to me right off? Wow, instant family number two! This was just days after the ex took the kids back, and ran?
Anyway, to get to the point; I was so deeply in love with this lady, that I had lost myself in her? We were going to get married, but just before that, he came back and got her. There was nothing I could say, or do to get her back. She was just gone? And I was just gone!!! I tried suicide three times all together, but only one was close to succeeding? I woke up in the hospital to a soaked pillow. The poor nurse, she didn't know how to fix me, or comfort me? They had my psychologist come to the hospital, he was sitting there on a chair half the night. We talked for a couple of minutes, and he left, just like that?! C.B.T. helped me a lot, too! C.B.T. being cognitive behavioral therapy, have you heard of this before? Look it up on-line, you will be glad you did!!!
I hope this, or some of this helps you in some way? Until next time, keep your chin up, and your head held high. You can, and will get far past it!!!