I just wanted to take the time to ask all of you here, if anyone of you have heard from our Debbie lately? There for awhile, she was coming around fairly regular? She was even talking to me on my e-mail page, now its been quite awhile since she has done that, too? I miss her!!!
I just hope she is alright? And if she has gone ahead with her surgery, i hope it turned out well, and she will be as pain free as possible?! I don't know about the rest of you guys, but i am getting worried about her?!!!
Deb, if you see this, at least stop by and say hi to your friends/family here, okay? I miss you hangin around with me here, and on my e-mail page, too! I know you don't us worrying about you, but we do and that is that?!!! You are so much a part of this, and it feels tilted to one side when you are not here?
I had so hoped you would be around more once you got your new computer? Guess not? We miss you, I miss you, please stop by to say hi, at least, okay? That way, we won't be worrying about you all the time. Yes, we worry about you!!!
Well, I miss you a lot, and i'm sure the others do, too!!! We really do miss you hanging around with us!
Oh, not again? I know you never mean to, and I think she does too? Keep working on being that better you, and it will be less and less fights I promise! Your spouse knows how hard this is for you, she is still there, right?
Yes, that is true, life is way too short for us to worry about one spat. Keep the whole picture in mind, see where it is you want to be? Now, with that in mind, go say you're sorry to the spouse. One heartfelt "SORRY, IT WAS ALL MY FAULT", goes a long way!!! She'll forgive you!
Well, first things first, I have to find what what I might like, then ask my bank for financing, or use my V.A. loan? I will opt for the better one, that is for sure! LOL!!! My landlady has not brought any eviction notices. I think the "I have been talking to the lawyer for Iowa Legal Aid" got to her? But still, just last night, those ninny's in both 1 and 4 kept me awake all last night, and then this morning till noon. I was so mad, its a good thing he didn't take me up on stepping outside, I might have been sitting in jail for murder? I was that mad!!!
Oh well, I got two hours sleep today, I'm good for another 24hrs. of torture! Oh, I did text my landlady about this, once again I have begged her to intervene on my behalf? Lets see what happens tonight?
Well, I started out to thank you for being so patient with me, and now, a novella later, I am saying good day to ya? LOL!!! Thanks so much, it really means a lot to me! And one day real soon, I will send that check out to you! If I get the energy to get out today, I will go ahead and send it, it will take a day or two to get there anyway? Thanks for your patience!
I hope you got your computer screen clean, I just smeared the milk all over mine? LOL!!!
Yea, i'm pretty sore about that, but still, like you said, I tried to find that positive? Life is so short, I can see that now! I don't have the time for games, nor immature women! The way they sat there giggling and snickering like high school girls, shameful! The youngest one there had to be in her mid 40's?
Stiff upper lip, and all that rot eh? LOL!!!
I'm glad you are the patient type! If it had been me, I would have glued the pages together for you? LOL!!! No, you are a good person, maybe too good? An Angel? Hmmm, could this be truth??? Tune in next time when, what was it again? I keep forgetting my lines. Drats, and Coco Puffs!!! (Coco Puffs) heard that on "Two Broke Girls", cracked me up!!!
I.D.K. if I mentioned this Before, but I am looking into buying a place of my own? I have an account on "Credit.com", and by their calculator, I can afford one low priced home? If I can't find one soon, I might just get me one of those rolling homes? I have a trailer hitch on back of my truck, it can pull up to 11.000 pounds if need be, just no more than five directly on the tongue? Of coarse I would also need a generator and such, but I could go see this great country of ours?!
I might even stop by, and see my sister Roh? You never know? Which way should I go? Ho ho ho! LOL!!! I'm a poet, and didn't know it?
HEY, STOP SPURTING MILK ALL OVER MY COMPUTER SCREEN!!! Oh wait, that was me! LOL!!!
Later for sure, check already made out to one Best Selling Author I Know!!!
Thanks again, Roh, you have made me feel better!!!
Thank you for the well wishes!!! I hope you find the happiness in life you deserve!!!
Please don't close yourself off completely, it is when you least expect it, is when love will find you. Dr. Leslie told us that one before. Remain open to love and it will find you, or you it? Close your eyes, it passes you by. Choose to stay single, but keep an open mind, that is what I'm trying to do?!
Hi all, I hope all of you had a much better weekend than I did!? Once again I have been lied to, and have had "The Game" played on me! This weekend cost me quite a bit, more than I should have spent, anyway! Sorry Roh, had to tear that check up. Next month for sure!!!
I had a woman ask me out last week, Thursday night, I think it was? I really thought she was being genuine, but she was far from that! It seems I am the butt of some joke her and her friends had going? Thank all the powers that be, I kept my head and heart guarded? I could have easily lost both, she was that good! I guess I should have known how this would end on Friday night? But no, I had to give it a shot, for my own mind? Well, Saturday night ended the same way Friday night did, and so did yesterday, Sunday. I knew it for sure Sunday early evening, when all her friends showed up outside where we were sitting? They were all snickers and giggles, so I knew for certain that I had been played! It was no wonder after all she did to not do? Each night she dialed up the advances, into long make out sessions that ended with her leaving in the midst of it? I had the idea that first night, but for my own peace of mind, I followed it through?
It still hurt!!! Dr. Leslie's blog was spot on for spotting the "Player"!!! And that, is my saving grace, if you will? I kept watching for those little tale tale signs, and finding them in plain sight! And yet, I still allowed her the benefit of the doubt? I must be really hard up, or I would not have allowed her a second chance? I guess I am? Hard up, that is? I keep getting this desperate feeling, like my time to find someone is getting shorter and shorter? This weekend cost me in monetary terms only. Thank you Dr. Leslie for that blog for spotting the serial dater!!! I don't know for sure if she was actually one or not, but I saw the signs, anyway? It helped to steady my mind when I needed it most!
Sometimes, no, all the time I think Dr. Leslie is one of those mind readers you hear about once or twice? Only she gets it, all the time!!! And by that I mean; me, she seems to be able to look into my mind, and find what I should already know, and shows it too me in her blogs??? And then its my turn to "Get it"! Thank you so much, Dr. Leslie, you have a very special talent!!! One I am so glad you bring here, to share with us almost daily!!! I don't know what we would do without you, I really don't!!!
Tootsie, I know what you mean by "life is too short to live like this"!!! I've been living alone for over 20 years, self imposed LONELINESS, I guess? Sure, some of that was not of my choosing, but nevertheless, it is what it is? I have been looking now for I think about six years now, to find someone I am at least some compatible with?
When I first moved here from Omaha, I thought the small town living would be best? I met one woman who I felt was the one, only to find she was married? Like you, I don't have time for the game players! Now, there have been a few, and I've only asked out a few, some asked me. Nope, can't seem to find that one special lady here, too bad, I can't afford to move back out to Colo. Sprgs. Co. again? Back when I lived there, there was actually several woman I would have loved to spend my life with! Now it is too late to even try! Again like you, I am just too old to care for those who play games, so I will just have to bide my time till she comes along?
Funny, you called me a nice person? It is you who is the nice one! You married this guy, gave him money to have fun with, and he blew it? You are the nice one to have kept him for so long! He took your love for granted, something no one should ever do!
I hope the divorce is as pain free for you as possible!!!
You will find love again, I have to believe that myself!!
I'm so sorry, I hope you know there are far better men out there than this dud? He was a thirty day stud, and yet he turned into a dud, in only a month. Yep, if that's the way he wants to play it, the lawyer is the next step?
He's probably thinking he will get half of everything, but this house is yours, right? The house, most everything in it, and the bank accounts, all yours? He he he, he won't be smiling for very long! He stopped participating in the marriage thirty days in, no judge is gonna give him a dime, other than his premarital stuff!?
Did you buy him anything as a gift? He will probably get that? But, did you both sign anything you bought him, or he bought himself? If you cosigned for a car or something like that, you might get it, or he might be forced to sell it and give you half? Oh sure, he will be awarded some type of transportation, weather you paid for it, or even cosigned for it. The judge will have to award him some sort of transportation if he has to move out, he needs something to drive, right? Try to give him the worst possible deal you can!!!
You know, this guy has almost cheated on you? He might as well have, he sure isn't giving it to you? And that, is not acting like, and it sure isn't being a husband to you? Again, on behalf of most of us men out there, I am truly sorry you ended up with a lemon!!! Please don't ever give up looking for that special guy, he is waiting to find you, or you him!!!
I wish you all the luck in the world!!!!
Please keep us informed on how things are going, who knows, someone here might have the answer for you? Or just come here to rant or rave, if that is all you need? We can be some real good moral support, I promise!!!
Well, a heart felt thank you to both Dr. Leslie's answers!!! LOL!!! Both of you make excellent points! Now that you mention it, I have had dates that were absolutely looking for a reason to call it off? Funny, I did the same thing after my ex? I had always blamed my failures at dating on her, but it was all me? Wow, hind sight really is 20/20, huh?
Roh, I have to agree with Dr. Leslie also, your answer is really thought provoking!!!
Yea, I know what you mean! I was irritated with life in general after my ex cheated on me! I was scared to touch anyone new, ashamed at my behavior towards women. I was broken, I had E.D. and had no idea as to how to deal with it? All of this of course, made me even angrier than I already was. Broken, I felt broken. Like something inside of me was out of whack?
It took many years to reestablish trust in women. I was scared of them? I thought they was all out to get me in some way, in order to heap more pain upon me? Had I not stumbled onto this web site, who knows where I would be, or where I wouldn't be? I thank all of you for helping me to "SEE" again, especially Dr. Leslie! She gave me the key to open my heart again. And now, I am so glad she did!!! I have another date tonight! Last night went very well. Who knows, this may be the start of something awesome, or just another learning curve? Either way, i am game for it!!!
Yes, we were trained wrong, but I have made the adaption. I know you have it in you to do the same thing!!! It takes time, it takes patience! But, it takes the willingness in you to make that adaption work! You are already miles ahead of me, you don't have to go it alone, ask your spouse to help you?
I saw a movie, I think it was, no, it was a documentary on sex therapists. One of her clients was too afraid to even touch a woman. So, she made him undress, she did too, of course, and they sat facing each other on the floor. She told him to touch her shoulder, she had to do it for him, he was that afraid? But, after a few sessions like that, he became comfortable with touching women. After even more time, he was able to make love to her for his very first time. It was a beautiful thing to watch!!! She took it very slow, you can too! Make sure you explain the why to your spouse, so she can help you along?!
It will work, Roh, give it time! No need to rush things, you have till the end of your life to get it right! Your spouse should be happy you are willing to do this for her? Please keep us informed on your progress, we will make this a family effort!
Disappointment will come, and it will go, ride with it to wherever it takes you! Like you say, you need to embrace healthy behaviors and see this as an opportunity to learn? You will do just fine, I just know it!!!