I was in the Army for 7 years. If, like you say, his A.S.V.A.B. scores are low, then yes, he will probably be assigned to the Infantry? However, if I were him, I would try for something not quite as nasty as the Infantry. My scores were not so great, also, so I enlisted for an Air Defence position. He may still be assigned to an Infantry position, or more likely, an Field Artillery unit? If he goes for the Stinger (if that is what they still call it?) he will at least be able to ride in either a jeep, or some other mode of transport? In other words, he will save on shoe soles. LOL!!! I happened to like my position as team leader/squad leader, and would do it all over again!!!
Like my friend Roh has said, there are different types of help you can get, especially if you two were married! For you, right now, you would have to find an off post type of help. That is more difficult, but doable. You will have to look up something from the area they assign him to? Wait, you said only Reserves is all he wants? O.k. then, you will have to look up some type of help/support group in your neighbor hood. Look under support for military families, or spouses of soldiers? Anything you can think of to help? I have not looked up anything, but I do have my State and Federal benefits booklet. Maybe there is something in there? This may take a bit of time, I have no idea where it is at the moment?
In the mean time, look up "State and Federal Benefits.gov/reservists" That may be of some good use? Anyway, I would like to offer my opinion on his joining the Military. And yes, we all know what an opinion is full of. LOL!!! I would hope he is willing to wait a few, and try to get some more schooling, maybe off the internet for free? The higher he can raise those scores, the better off he will be! And, if they are high enough, maybe he could think of joining the officers corps? Start out with a butterball bar, who knows, maybe one day he will be a General?
Okay, I have written enough, my fingers hurt! LOL!!!
I want to wish both of you great success in what ever you do?!!!
Wow, that is fantastic news! My sandals make me look that way on my right foot. Partly because it is my dead side. I can wear sandals with the straps over the ankle and top of my foot with no probs. It is the one that only goes between my toes, that gets me. Too bad, I like them the most?!
I am glad to hear things are going fine in your family! Chromosomally enhanced daughter??? Hhmmm, I think you may have something, there? Could it be? Could it be possible? Nahhh, couldn't be, could it? You might be the proud mother of Super Daughter??? You really are lucky, fcl, truly lucky!!!
I ALMOST wish I still had my children at home? Almost. LOL!!!
Wow, more good news!!! I'm glad you found something that will work for you! Especially one that keeps you logged in? I spent an hour responding to this poor lady who's boyfriend is thinking of joining the military, only to watch it go out the window? When I hit send, it sent me to the sign in page. Really? Why did it let me get that far? It usually told me as soon as I hit the reply tab? Not today, and I am still steaming mad over that bit of junk site use?!
No more Dem??? I guess we will have to lay her to rest, then? I think we should have a wake, one of those rowdy, get drunk and raise heck types? What do you think, Dem? Oops, I mean eastcoast2? LOL!!!
W.T.F.????? I just spent an hour answering this lady, and when I hit send, it sent me to the sign in page? Why did this site let me answer if I wasn't in here in the first place??? It has NEVER EVER let me do that, before??? WHY NOWWWW????
That is so danged buggery, I feel like never EVER coming back here EVER again!!!!
You B.H's. are really getting under my skin, and I would bet that is why SO MANY OF OUR FRIENDS NO LONGER COME HERE? YOU MAKE ME SICK TO MY STOMACH EVERY D'MED TIME YOU PLAY THIS SIGN IN ALL THE TIME GAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow! Awesome story fcl, awesome indeed!!! I know you did the right thing! I couldn't live without my kids either! We had discussed having children later on, once we had established ourselves. Well, things happen and you are having a baby anyway? I never once gave thought to abortion, my wife told me later that she had. That shocked me, as I had thought she was the one that wanted kids?
We had our son, and 16 months later, my daughter. I asked the wife how many she wanted to have, hoping 2 was enough? She agreed. The doc asked if we wanted to ensure 2 was all we had, but cautioned over things that might happen? We looked at each other, and shook our heads, we had the perfect family, and if something was to happen to one, or both, we didn't want anymore than the ones we had. So, I manned up and told the doc I wanted a Vasectomy, he said since the wife was right here already checked into the hospital, she could have her tubes tied cheaper. She went for it, I thanked her profusely!
Nope, I wouldn't change a thing. I have two wonderful adult children, and some beautiful grand children! I am a very happy daddy/grand daddy!
Like I said fcl, I know you did the right thing!!!
So right! This is something everyone should read, especially the younger crowd! I found out the hard way, on two of these topics. Who knew there was an etiquette to using texts? I knew there was one for the phone, its been around for a long time, now. But one for using texts, no.
Maybe I got this wrong? Perhaps it is us older ones that need to read this? It sure shed some light on my wrongs! I never knew there was such a thing a text etiquette?
You should do what is best for you, and no, I don't believe this guy is Mr. Wonderful at all, he is a taker, a user and abuser!!! You have absolutely NOTHING to feel guilty about!!! You have done more than most would have! His son is grown now, hopefully he is on his own? You owe taker nothing, get away from him as fast as you can! Sell your house, take the money and run!!! YOUR savings are YOUR savings, not his! He contributed very little, you said so yourself. Now, go buy a condo, or rent a nice small apartment closer to your grand babies, and enjoy your retirement!!!
Your best bet is to tell this guy you have had it, and you no longer want to see him. Tell him you are selling the house that you paid for, and you are moving alone to another place. Give the Real Estate agent the power to sell your house at the best possible price, and move closer to the babies! Who knows, you just might find the REAL Mr. Right there, where you are moving to? Even if you don't, you can still have fun dating again!!! Now, go tell Mr. ALL WRONG to go take a hike. His days of sponging off of you is over!
I want to wish you a very happy retirement, and a speedy recovery from the sponge!!!