Ah, this is great! You asked and you received, our site leader answered you, and also Roh, you hit the jackpot! There are more of us, but most have harder jobs, i guess? I can be here most everyday as i am disabled. I love this site! If it hadn't of been for Dr. Leslie's help, i might not be here at all? I was sinking down to well below anything anyone should have to. This Dr., helped me more than anyone else!
Yes, we are very lucky to have Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps here with us! We could probably get by with another, but why turn away from the best?
Wow, you really do keep busy, don't you? I should try to find some churches or other charities to work with around here? I am just not convinced that some of these so called charities, are not really what they seem? Some take more than 80% of the intake for themselves, or their workers, and only give out 20% of monies collected to the ones who need it?! I look at it this way; if you call yourself a charity, then you should be doing it for nothing!
I suppose i should let you get back to your fun? I need to get back to busy myself? I have some cleaning to do today, tomorrow is laundry day, oh goody! Oh well, at least this should keep me busy?
I am looking forward to seeing that movie soon. Please take care, i hope to see you around?!
Hey, you sound a lot better than earlier, and that is a god thing! I am glad to be of service! LOL!!! I hope this works in your favor? But, if she doesn't try harder, just ignore her. You say you know a lot of the people going to this concert (sounds good to me!) and i hope you like them, then it will be an awesome time?!
Why can't you be with these friends more? Do you live too far from town to drive there every day for visits? Just staying at home and doing the same thing every day, is mind numbing! I know, i have very little money left after bills, so, i mostly have to suffer it, and it is mind numbing for sure!
I also know what you mean by being raised to say nice things to people, or get a swat?! It happened to me enough. LOL!!! Anyway, if you have the drive to do charity work, that could fill some of the day? Hobbies are great, if you have the money to do it with?
By the way; what ever happened to the one day a week job you were looking for? Did you manage to round one up? Even if it is just for free, then you still have at least one thing to do?
Well, Sunday is coming to a close, and I am watching Big Brother, so i shall say good night. Please feel free to write back, another pen pal is just what i need. Please take care, and listen to your husband, he sounds very smart!
Here's to friendships, both old, and new!!! Bye for now.
Oh no, are you still anxious, on edge? I feel for you, Deb, i really do! I wish there was a way i could help you with that?! I hope they can get your liver back to normal? What has caused this, and do the Doctors really know what they are doing with it? Have they helped with any other ailments before this liver?
I'm sorry your session with you therapist had to end so abruptly! Is there some way you could get another session, or a part thereof? Am i getting this right, you only get ten minute sessions? How many of them do you get in a day, or week, or even a month? I would have thought they would have to be an hour in length to get into everything? Or even into just one thing? Alas, they have only a few minutes to spare for the people who need their care.
I hope you are enjoying the weekend! Have you watched any of the Saturday movies, or plan on any Sunday ones? I was at the parade yesterday in my brothers town, and then the old mountain men part of the shebang. Had a wonderful time! Then, like all good things must come to an end, i had to come home to feed Bubba. I watched a few programs on t.v., and then went mercifully to bed. I slept from 11pm. last night, to 8:30pm. this morning. Wow, did i ever need a good nights sleep?!
Well Deb my friend, it is time to go, my finners are killin me! LOL!!! Please stay safe the rest of this weekend, and i will see you on Monday, i hope so, anyway?!
Glad you stopped by! Wow, you really are upset over this "friend"? You need to remember that this friend? is her own person and has her own quirks. She sounds a little off? I suppose i should take that with a grain of salt, seeing how i don't know this lady?
Sometimes, we focus our energies on those friends we feel sorry for? Do you feel sorry for her that she don't seem to have, or need friends in her life? I know you have invested a lot of effort into this one sided friendship, perhaps it is time to stop fretting over her? If i were you, i would either call her, go directly to her house, or send her a nice card or the other ways, and tell her you consider her a good friend, but that you feel the friendship is much too one sided for you, but, if you need me, you know where i am?! Then you need to let her go. You know what they say about love, if you let it go, and it comes back to you, that is love. But, if it fails to come back, well then, it was not to be, right? Right! I hope she sees what a wonderful friend she has in you, and changes her un-friendly type of behavior?!
Don't feel bad if she doesn't do X-mas gifts, or B-day gifts, just keep on sending that what you feel obligated (?) to do, and don't let her lack of feeling bother you anymore! If she doesn't send you a B-day card, oh well, there she goes again, right?
I know what you mean when you say you need friends in your life, trust me, i do?! Just don't lay your heart out on her front porch for use as a door mat, o.k.? Try to find other activities to get yourself out there. That is what i am trying to do, get myself out there. Just yesterday, i attended the "Farmers Recognition Parade" in my brother's little town. I met three potential friends there? Not bad for one morning, eh? I also like to get out and walk around my neighborhood, or even venturing into others? I don't really have a hobby, so, i make finding new friends a hobby?!
I hope you get loads of help here today! I also would like to offer up the friendship i have found here, to you, if you would like to join our community? It may still be small, with some only commenting sometimes, but it is yours, if you like?! With all of the knowledge you posses, you could help many people who come here seeking help!? So, the invitation is yours, i hope you accept!!!
Well, good luck to you, and please feel free to drop by anytime!!!
Hi, i am with Roh on this. Most men, myself included, have looked at different types of porn, would I ever do that to another human being? Hell no! Her hubby probably won't either, but she should tell him about her looking into his things?! Otherwise, he is going to be offended, or even hurt by that? This is a trust issue, she should trust her hubby, but I don't see that?
I think she should bring this topic up in a nice quiet place, no children, or others around. Then she needs to ask him if he would like to talk about his searches, and immediately apologize for her curiosity quickly, before that settles in?! Tell him her curiosity got the better of her, and swear it will never happen again.
No, i don't see how his curiosity of this type of porn should set alarm bells ringing? Just be more observant, from now on? No, not by snooping in his things, somethings a man does, needs to be kept on the down low! Know what i mean?
I hope some of this helps your friend! Good luck to her!!!
Yep, i have asked for clarification in some instances, but I also knew with some, it was a lost cause. Always, before either I, or they want to end our relationship, i ask them to give me their reasons for leaving, and I would do the same for them if i was breaking it off. Two have actually told me I was smothering them. I had to ask why they felt this way, and if there was some way i could do better if we stayed together? Both of them shocked me with having basically the same reason! Both had grown up in families where the mother was the only one to express love in the family. Both of their fathers would give an uh huh, or a me too, when told I love you by any other member of the family. Wow, that was how my family was too, my father never once said I love you to any of us, not until he was getting up there in years, anyway? I understood those two ladies perfectly, but i also told them that that WAS the reason i try to give more love to my relationships. Both sexes need to keep their romance alive, for the relationship to thrive. I believe that, wholeheartedly! So, yes i have gone overboard sometimes, tho it is not intentional.
Oh, yes indeed, i feel i have to watch for what any lady is asking for, weather it be out right in plain sight, or just in their body language, or posture?! None of which, have I mastered in any way! LOL!!! Nope, with me, as I tell all of my potential steadies, that if you don't tell me what you want, you probably won't get it?!
You are sooooo right on the conflicting desires part! That has been the bane of most all of my relationships with women! First, a women would say they want something, only to be disappointed when you give it to them. And once I had a women tell me she wanted me to do something, then told not to, but she still expected me to follow through with it. Really, who does that? That is how i feel about body language, if you don't tell me what you want, you will not get it from me!? I do not understand what most of those postures/jestures mean? What does how you set have to do with anything? I admit it, i am pretty dense when it comes to body language! Please lady's, just tell me what you want, o.k.? That right there, would solve a lot of disputes!
Wow, i only intended to tell you that i think you are right on the money, and i almost wrote a book? LOL!
Thank you, Dr. Leslie! You have been a huge help, once again! I hope you never have to leave this site for anything!!! We would be lost without you! No, i am not just saying that! Look at how much you have helped me, and lets not forget Roh, Sluggo, or any other on this page? You have helped a lot of people just since I started here! WOW!!!
(Sorry Dr. Leslie! You know how i am, your one man cheering section? LOL!!!) Thank you so much for all you do here!
O.k. Debbie, slow down, take a deep breath, let it out slowly. Do this at least three times. I hope it calms you? Are you doing all of the worry for everyone else, again? Debbie, worry only about yourself, okay? All of these other guys, can take care of themselves!
I haven't heard anything back, Debbie? How is your liver thingy? What is the problem, and what is the cure/treatment? I have to hope they (doctors) can help you out?
Please keep me informed Deb, you know how i worry about you!!! I am doing just fine, so there, you don't have to worry about me, besides, i am an adult and can take care of myself.
SO CAN THE OTHERS!!! Let them worry about themselves, okay Deb? Concentrate on you, and only you, cool?
You have a great day today, hear me? Good, go have some fun!
I knew I shouldn't have kept it so short, being it is already sooooo long! All of you have taken my brevity for something else entirely!
I have done all of these things you talk about. I only kept it short to point out the things I did do for them, when I felt they needed it? I am sorry if I misled all of you, but I do not put my women on any pedestal, I try to treat them as equally as I possibly can! I do these little things to show them my appreciation for them doing the little things I like! THEY, it seemed, have never known anyone who was a romantic?
Being a romantic does not mean I do this every day, or even every week, it was a shortened version. It is my fault, I should have taken more time to explain myself better? I was already tired from typing!
I have done all of those things Mikeydell, and Sluggo, and Dr. Leslie, all of you have spoken about! I am so sorry I misled you guys to think this was all I ever did? I just wanted my lady's to know how much I appreciated the things they did for me, and that it would be a forever type of thing, not just a wambamsoonandsoforth!
For Dr. Leslie; yes, you have described me in a nut shell. I tried to use all of the things I had learned from those around me, and from magazines, and other types of correspondence. I tried, still try to be a very well rounded individual? I still haven't figured out what a woman wants? When a woman gets mad at you, for doing what she asked you to do, what does that mean? I still haven't figured it all out, probably never will?
I may not have all the answers, but when a lady I am living with, comes home from a hard day at work, I will draw her a nice hot bath, then give her a nice massage, then set dinner on the table for her, even if she doesn't like it, at least I tried, right? This is what I am talking about! Taking care of them, instead of it always being the other way round all the time?! The flower petals on the bed thing, was one time, and it was for Valentines day.
You see? I should have taken more time to explain why I do the things I do??? Not now, I am so tired of typing. Again, sorry for misleading anyone!