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Long distance--how long is too long?

I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 years. I've talked to my guy...

Posted by Hamlette

I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 years. I've talked to my guy since I was 16 and he was 17 but we didn't meet or end up in a relationship until I was 20 and he was 21. Being that we live in two different states, I know that one of us will have to move eventually and, right now, my income is enough to support the two of us. My guy says he wants to move and get a job closer to me but the things he does contradict that. His hobby is professional wrestling and although I've supported him, it can be a problem with our relationship progressing. For example, on his last visit, he said that he wanted to see me a day sooner (which at the time I thought was sweet) but it was actually so that he could wrestle and said he would be willing to pay for an earlier ticket to switch flights, even though he did not pay for his ticket at all and has not paid for nearly a year. He ended up not switching flights because the fee was too high but I know that if the fee was less than $200.00 that he would have spent the money he doesn't have to leave me to wrestle. Last week, I told him how I feel about things the best I could--which is rare because I'm guarded quite a bit--and although he talked with me at that time, the next day he talked to me as if I didn't say anything, that nothing sank in. I told him that I would wait another 2 years for this to turn into anything but I think it fell on deaf ears. In hind sight, I was not as blunt as that desciption but he knows what I mean by now since this is not the first time I've brought up the topic. I've been slowly losing hope and I'm barely holding on to the idea that we will be together for much longer at this point. I am not an ultimatum type of person and, in reality, I know that he likes his life the way it is but it's difficult to say for sure since he says he wants to be with me while his actions say otherwise.

How long is "too long" for a long distance realtionship? Is there something I/we should be doing to help figure out if we will be together like the average couple or if we should part ways?View Thread

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Thanks for your post, gloriousgrace. I do make mental notes of those things. I wouldn't go...

Posted by Hamlette

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Yes, I'm not able to move because of my job. Jobs aren't as hard to come by in my state as...

Posted by Hamlette

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Thanks for your insite! It's good to hear from a guy on this. Yeah, I'm prepared to find...

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Thanks for your post. The feelings are there--I don't have any doubt of that on my or his...

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Sorry for being defense with you, too. It's a touchy subject and I might have interpreted...

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Sorry for the confusion again.. the longest we have gone wihout seeing each other is 6...

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Reply: Long distance--how long is too long?

Thank you for your response. I have been more direct and it seems to make a difference.

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Having seen your and the other user's response, I don't think this was an appropriate...

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Reply: Long distance--how long is too long?

Hi, sorry for the confusion.. We have been in a relationship since 20 but I am now 25....

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