I think the question is a very good one but remember you also need to answer your own question giving as much detail in the answer as you can. If you feel it is too vague or maybe you won't get the detailed answer you're looking for then ask another question or two to let your S/O where you're going with your question(s).View Thread
Hang in there D! You can always call me if you're feeling the slightest bit down! Send me a text or something? I will be here night or day.... I have been in your position before and have seen others through their best and worst times. Just remember, you won't always feel this bad. Times will get better! Put yourself in your happy place and stay there until you feel stronger. Visualize your walk through those Redwoods! And most of all, remember you are loved dearly by many!
Sounds to me after all you said and all you've done, that he has either lost his libido or maybe really IS having an affair? I would insist he see a Dr. and if he refused I would consider cutting your losses. There are clinics he could go to that are low cost. You know, I wouldn't be too angry with him. We all get our heart broken at one time or another but that doesn't mean you have to feel it's all your fault. People change just as time changes, move on with your head up high and know that you shouldn't have to work this hard to be happy. There is someone out there that will treat you like you are the light of his life and/or the queen of his castle. He obviously isn't 'the one'. Don't be hurt, he's not the only guy out there and moving on is a pain but you will feel better for it. Find someone who will need you because he loves you not love you because he needs you. Good luck and let us know how you are doing?View Thread
Dr. Becker-Phelps, I do use the Serenity Prayer often. It's funny I just wrote it in an email today.
I accept the fact that I cannot change a person no matter how much I'd like to change 'some' aspects of their personality. I accept that only they can do that and only if they want to badly enough. I accept the fact that only I can make a change to myself and only I can control myself. After all if we were all alike, what a boring meaningless life we would have, right?
I know I can 'influence' a closed mind to become more open to the goodness around them, therefore changing the way they think about themselves and others around them. And the end result is maybe a better person?
I am wise enough to know some people look for a change and therefore are open enough to consider that one joined with another of a like mind will make a difference. Some are leaders others are followers. Some are weak and some are strong. If the strong pick up the weak and the follower seeks out the leader of what they believe, then you have the beginning of a change. I am wise enough to know that if you think you are alone, you will stay alone and nothing changes. I am wise enough to know if you ask, you shall receive. Maybe not immediately but at some point it will happen. I am wise enough to know I cannot make it alone, I need my Friends at the very least. The good and the bad.
I too am thankful for this site. I am thankful I met you too Dennis. What would we do without others to help and encourage us through the most difficult times in our lives?!? You my dear were born to be a Best Friend, and I'm so very thankful you are mine! Who would have known I would meet the male version of me on this site? Such great things to be thankful for and I will never take one day for granted. Especially each day you are in my life.
I am thankful for my Family and that includes those dear Friends that have become part of my Family. I'm thankful even for my illnesses as if it weren't for them I wouldn't have been roaming around on this site and met all of you. I'm thankful I haven't been given any more than I can handle. I'm thankful for music as it soothes my soul. I am thankful for each day I awaken to.
Drop them both. Put your energy into your children and yourself. Your relationship with your bf was rocky to begin with so that alone should tell you something. For them to blame each other is pathetic! They both knew what they were doing right off the get-go! Your gf of 9 years isn't worth a second thought either. Do yourself a favor and move on. There is someone out there that wants to be with you and you alone. You shouldn't have these kind of issues in your relationships with anyone. Believe me you are wasting your energy where they are concerned. Think about your kids, that is not the kind of thing you want to teach them is it? Would you want your daughter to be treated like that or to treat someone like that? And same with your son do you want him thinking these things are OK? If you stay that is just what you're telling them.View Thread
AOYP= Angels On Your Pillow ABWY= Angels Be With You
I am so glad your appt. went so well today! I'll forgive you for your brain malfunction lol I too have one much like yours. I always say my brain is like a library in that someone is always checking out books and most of the time they neglect to return them. Ahhh maybe one day my shelves will be fully stocked once again but I highly doubt it hehehe.
Who or what are your 'boys'? I'm guessing dogs?
And ohhh yes! I'd love to have some of your cooking! I love all the stuff you described! My favorite is pork chops then chicken, then just about anything made with hamburger. Not big on steak but I'll eat it lol.
MOM?? HaHaHa!! Hey! I'm the smile police! I have a smiley face badge and everything!! I'm so glad you are smiling again Dennis! Makes my heart happy <3 Oh and YES!! I got your email! Now I'm doing the 'Happy Camper Dance'!!!
I'll take good care if you do!! Hugs and Spoons, VickiView Thread
I'm with FLC, mildly shallow? If he can't see past the outer marks of the beautiful baby you're carrying for him then he doesn't deserve you or your little bundle of joy! Wear them proudly!
Ask yourself honestly, Do you REALLY want to put yourself through him being so disrespectful? And once your baby is born, Do you REALLY want his influence and bad behavior to rub off on that baby? How is the baby going to feel once s/he is old enough to know they are the reason for your battle scars especially if you aren't wearing them proudly?
The color of your stretch marks will most likely fade in time. And I didn't lose the size I gained in my boobs so I made sure to keep them supported so the stretch marks wouldn't get too bad.
He should be ashamed of himself for those kind of remarks Stacy. You deserve better and so does your precious baby! He is 32, how much longer is he going to look un-scarred? Not long!
Wear your baby proudly, if he can't see the beauty in you (and on you) it's his loss NOT YOURS!!!!!View Thread
Missed not talking to you today. Made me a bit sad I guess. LOL but I did notice I put my email for everyone to see here the second time,,,oh well not too worried, at least it's not my house address huh?
Hope you had a gr8 day today. Happy Veteran's Day, and THANKS SO MUCH for all you did!! I adore you for that!
I had a boring day,,, played on the computer for the most part. Nothing major. Tomorrow I get Ember, my Grand Daughter so I'll have a better one. She always brightens my day. I love her so much and she loves to make me laugh.
I saw you like to cook ey? What is it you like to cook the most? I've never been very good at it and think men make much better cooks than most women. I like to bake though. What is your favorite meal? Would you rather cook for someone, have someone cook for you, or go out?
Have you smiled today? If not, imagine I am standing in front of you, what would I be doing to get you to laugh? Tell me what I did tomorrow k?
Hey Mickey you're so fine, you're so fine you blow my mind! Hey Mickey! Hey Mickey! (admit it, you sang that while reading it didn't you?).