Hope all is well with you. I so love to chat with you. You are easy to talk to and have so much in common in so many ways that I haven't even touched on yet. I have so much to tell you but I'm holding back because of the privacy issue I suppose. I'm pretty sure everyone who has read even a part of this thread has figured out your question has been answered lol. I am honored to be your best pal, and hope you know by now I consider you mine as well. Also, I wanted to tell you if you would like to email me, I will let you know in my profile what my addy is and leave it there only long enough for you to see it before deleting it. AOYP <3
Hi Dennis! Was so happy to see you had posted here this morning! And a bonus to have a few chuckles thrown in lol. I'm glad you're getting to a point that you aren't crying with your every thought of Joe. I know it's rough at first but once the flood of sorrow eases up and the good memories come back, we will have some good laughs as we stroll through memory lane.
How long were you with this woman who stole your heart? I wish I could help your heart heal and put your soul in one piece again. I wouldn't say you are doomed to a life of solitude Dennis. You just have to learn to quit blinking, thinking, and speaking that's all. lol sorry couldn't help it! My bad! Seriously though I know someone will come into your life that will sweep you away again. You are too awesome to be alone. Especially if you don't want to be.
As for me, I choose to be alone for many reasons. A few are the same as yours, I decided long ago I wouldn't 'settle', and so far I haven't. There is more to me than what you see and sadly not too many men in this world, no matter where you're at, can see past that nor do they care to. There are way too few who are like you and really care what makes a person tick you know? If the time ever comes that I do give myself to a man again, it will be for love and not lust. I'm in no hurry.
I have much more to talk to you about but I have to go for now ABWY, take care.
I had such a hard time this last flare and if it hadn't been for you, I don't know what I would have done! Just knowing you cared helped more than you will ever know Dennis. I think you are a God-send and will always cherish your friendship. I mean that!! And just so you know, once I friend you,,,I will always be a loyal friend. I told you I would go through your therapy with you and I meant it! I will be here whenever you need and if at any time I can help I will without hesitation! I promise! And I do not make promises lightly! So never ever doubt that.
HaHa!! This is the second post I've sent you that I've run out of space lol. Usually I listen and never have so much to say but you've made me run out again!
Have you tried HULU for tv? I used it a lot in the past. It's got a free version but I'm not sure what's available as I haven't seen it in a while. Friends have talked about going to the networks and being able to see the shows also. In this case it's tru.tv In any case HULU used to have the ability to save a list of shows you wanted to watch at a later date so you didn't lose track of where you were lol. Just a thought.
I filled out my community profile a few days ago. I thought that was a helpful tool for this site. Are you going to fill yours out at any time? I would like to know more about you but if you aren't comfortable doing it I understand.
Do you ever get scared or nervous about starting a relationship or even a friendship with someone new? Is it ever hard for you to open up to them? If so how long does it take you?
I see I have a new nickname huh? I like it lol. At some point I will have one for you, no doubt.
We most certainly will become Best Friends. There is no doubt in my mind.
I had a Best Friend for a little over 10 years. We started out in a relationship because I felt a closeness to him I'd never felt with any other person male or female, and I'd been married twice! We could talk about anything and he could make me laugh with just a look. Oh I loved him so much!! After a while I realized I had all this love for him but I wasn't IN love with him and he felt the same about me. He was in no way ready to settle down to one woman and neither was I only you could count on one hand how many men I'd been with. So we decided we made better friends than lovers and he would come over and cry on my shoulder about all his problems with his gfs lol. I'd pick him up and dust him off and then off he'd go. He was well loved by everyone who crossed his path. Then one day he came to me and was in such bad shape I hardly recognized him. He had hooked up with a woman and got into drugs and drinking heavily. On this particular day he told me how he'd gone to her house and found her in bed with his best friend. In the process of loosing it, he lost his job and his gf, and his home all in one day. I tried so hard to pick him up but I just couldn't!! He just wasn't able to get over what he'd saw and took a gun to her house and sat on her porch and shot himself. I was mad at him for a very long time and finally forgave him. That was nearly 10 years ago, and he was my last.
So again,,,we have another thing in common lol. I have been abstinent for nearly 10 years by choice. I was ok with the fact that I would probably never find another person that would be special enough that I'd even consider getting that close to then George came along. I've not met him face to face yet and not even sure we will have that special connection but I do know this,,,He will forever be a Best Friend first, middle and last! He brought me out of my shell and gave me my life back without even trying. We hit it off within a few messages much like you and I have done.
I've met many friends online. Some I've had for over 12 years or more. Many have come through but a couple have stayed and I would hate it if I ever lost them. I was able to meet a fried from England in 2000. He came over with a bike club and while the rest of his group went to see Hollywood I gave him a tour of the Redwoods. We had such fun for 10 days! I still chat with him to this day. And another time I was playing on a site called Pogo, and I kept running into this certain girl that would post the same exact thing I said at the same time. We thought so much alike and laughed so much everyone else started calling us twins joined at the hip. lol. I'm still good friends with her but sadly she moved to Texas and I don't get to see her anymore and miss her terribly. But our bonds are strong and always will be.
I'm excited for you that you treated yourself to something that gave you such a huge smile! WoooHooo! Jobs are everywhere if you want to work. Maybe some are better than others, and hoping you'll find one where you can spend more time with us.
What does DBD do? Is there a cure or help? I have DDD so my discs aren't in very good shape here and there. Checking out my neck now because of pain and numbness. A TENS unit is very helpful for me. Love my TENS unit!!
Your guess is spot on as to why I came to this site. I have come here for years now it is my main source for information about my myriad of health issues next to my Dr's of course. It has grown so much since my first visits tho'!! I just happened upon the communities and love them so much!! I belong to two support groups online and this is my third, I think I get more out of this one that the other two put together! Don't get me wrong, I love the others but I can get pretty depressed there hearing about all the problems the others are having and the support they have. It reminds me of how I'm alone and not much support here..View Thread
Yep looks like you hit the jackpot for real winners in the job market!lol Maybe it was a blessing in disguise? Maybe you can get a job closer to your kids/grandkids? Or MAYBE it will be a job where you have to smile at someone at least once a day just to make your old pal Vicki smile huh?
I hope everything works out at the bank until they make good on your checks! Definitely the wrong thing to do if they want to stay in business!
Had my MRI done today not sure when I will get the results but hope they get them soon! What brings you to this site Dennis? I remember you said you were in a lot of pain, but I didn't hear from what. I hope it's getting better and manageable I'm glad you are dreaming about Joe. I used to hear my Dad call my name all the time!! It's been so long now, I've lost the memory of what he sounds like. A sure fire head turner that was lol.
Did you watch Inappropriate Jokers last night on tru tv? Those guys have my sense of humor down cause they make me laugh so much! Silly little practical jokes they play on people and some of them are right on the edge lol. Glad you are staying up-beat about things.
Leave it and go on! It's not fair to the kids to even take a chance. He cheated with your BFF? No way!! He'll do it again. A one night stand maybe in a drunken stupid moment,,,but not what they did! Do yourself a huge favor and find someone who truly deserves you.
I read through the posts here and frankly was quite disappointed in many of them. I have friends of all levels. And few are close enough to me that I confide in. One is close enough that I can be sure cares about me "unconditionally". I value each one of them as friends. I expect nothing from any of them in return for being their friend.
Have any of you heard of such a thing as a 'Hidden Illness'? Most of you are judging this woman for not being the Friend you all think she should be. Maybe she can't for whatever reason! Maybe all she has in her is the ability to go to work, and spend her free time with the one she loves doing whatever it is THEY feel THEY want to do! What right do you have to judge her for how much money she has or how she spends it? She has lived a long life and has every right to give or do whatever it is that she feels she can. If that's not enough for you then move on! Spend time with those friends who don't mind your judgments. How many people in this world would love nothing more than to receive a phone call from someone who cared enough to say Hi and nothing more or less! Even though she has explained ON HER OWN the reason for her not sending you an email, you are still refusing to talk to her one-on-one the reason for your attitude towards her. Instead you are airing your disappointments with her here. Don't get me wrong, I love this site for many reasons, but please quit being that judgmental friend and expecting so much from someone who may not be able to give what you think is due you. Take what she can give and be happy for it or leave it alone. Spoons, VickiView Thread
I'm happy to hear you're calling and staying on the VA for your appt. I will be your strength when you feel weak in all that I can be. Just promise me you will face your demons head on with the guidance of your therapist. Then, before long they won't be haunting you as they are now. You are stronger than you think you are. God won't give you any more than you can handle. That's what friends are for, to see you through your struggles. And I'm proud to be a friend
Yes, I know what you mean about the kids growing up. They do that way too soon don't they? I was fortunate enough that my house was the one all the neighborhood kids gathered at to play their games and just hang out. The only problem with that was,,,when they were ready to leave the nest,,,,boy did I suffer the "Empty Nest Syndrome!" I still like to play pac man tho lol. Now I get to teach my Grand Kids hehehe. My kids wonder if I'll ever grow up, I say NO WAY JOSE!!! My Grand Kids love to watch Wipe-Out with me. Whenever someone wipes out my 3 year old Grand Daughter jumps up and screams at the top of her lungs with her hands on her cheeks, "OH MAN HE HIT THE WATER!!! THAT HAD TO HURT!!!!" I hated to see my kids grow up but now they've given me my Grand Kids, and next will come my Great Grand Kids,,,the cycle will never end so I'm good with that. You may think your Kids don't need you but they always will for one reason or another. If nothing more, just to know you're there when they do. I have 5 Grand Kids,,,,One boy 14, one girl 3 each of my sons gave me one. Then my youngest gave me 3 step, one girl 12, who moved to Wash. with her Mother and sadly haven't seen her since. (another thing in common huh?) And two boys 11 and 6. I love them all equally and treat them all equally. I seldom even remember they are step.
Hope you accomplished everything you needed to today. It was good to hear from you as always. Did you smile today? Did you have a smile-worthy thought? It's never too late if you didn't!
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