I forgot to mention that she was in different state on the west coast and we are on the east coast. So there couldn't have been any physical cheating, but I believe there is cyber or emotional cheating. And that's all one in the same to me. So unfortunatley a PI or Cheaters would not work for me.View Thread
I need help, I don't know really where to turn so I figured a discussion board is the way to go. Just recently, I learned that my husband opened an account with another woman. The only reason I found out about it is because we are buying a home and her name came up on his personal finances. He has an allotment going from his paycheck to this account. When I asked who she was and why she came up on the account, he acted like he didn't know. Then he finally admitted he opened a shared savings account with her just to save money and this woman is only a friend. I asked who is she, how often they talk, he said she's just a friend and they talk once every 3 months or so. Something told me to check his cell phone call log, under my name and I found out they have been talking DAILY, several times a day since March 2012. During the day while I'm at work but never in the evening or on the weekends. When I confronted him, he admitted it and still stood by that they are just friends and he doesn't know why he lied. I asked him to call her and he did, but she did not answer. She called me the following day after she talked to him and she also assured me they were only friends and she is married as well. I have no choice to believe them but something in my gut is telling me its lies. Well, a few days later, I'm using my husbands laptop and I go to retreive something from the recycle bin that I needed and I found an explicit video of my husband, alone, that I've never seen or knew he even made. The title on the video was I love you and based on the date, it was made while I was at a hair appointment. I confronted him about it he said he doesn't know why he made it and he made me get off his laptop. He seemed angry with me!! I left the house and an hour later I return for him to tell me he made the video for me but deleted it. I'm losing it...he's accusing me of relating everything I find to this initial situation which he lied about. And maybe I am. How do I move on? I really need help. I am dealing with some serious trust issues and I truly, in my heart, believe there is something more to this relationship than THEY are letting on. Oh and did I mention we are newyly married (1 year in) and I am 14 weeks pregnant...I really need help moving past this. Thank you for taking the time to read this.View Thread
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