Good morning Dennis! Did you brave the shopping hoards yesterday? The thought of going out in those crowds of crazy people gives me the willies. If you did go out I hope you found some great movies and other things you wanted and that you didn't get run over by any little old ladies.
I'm just sitting here drinking some coffee before I decide what to do with myself today. Nothing exciting trust me. I'm definitely not going shopping. ...lol.
I need to call you one of these days soon and tell you what's been going on with me but today is not the time. We all need to concentrate on all the things we are thankful for. One thing I'm very thankful for is having you as a wonderful friend.
Hi Dennis! If you click on Debbie's avatar you can see all of her previous posts and find her email address. It's friedeggs. ...something. Be patient and you will find it but it might be under her old user name so go up to the search box and just enter 'dem'.
Hello everyone. I've been out of town so I missed what happened.
I'm like fcl I'm here every day (most of the time) but I don't post unless I think I can add something helpful. Fcl maybe we should post just to acknowledge the other person's pain and needs even if we have no advice.
Imo we all need to stick together. We should disregard the nasty posts. It's their problem not ours. I do agree that everyone needs to feel safe when they come here.
Debbie and Roh please don't leave. I do understand if you do.
I can understand how hurtful it is when your feelings/needs are not validated by the people who mean the most to you. Sometimes you just want to be heard you don't necessarily want advice or ask for any. My mother was always really good at that - you should do this or that - when all I wanted was for her to listen. I knew what I needed to do and didn't need her sarcasm on top of everything. Needless to say I stopped discussing anything with her. I just tell her I'm fine. Communication is hard but we have to keep trying.
Good morning Debbie. It seems to me that you have such a deep well of love inside you for others but why do you have none for yourself? I think you need to forgive yourself for the mistakes you feel you've made and then love yourself enough to allow yourself to be happy. You have to give love, compassion and understanding to yourself too. Don't just give all of those wonderful things away to others. Give a large portion of it to YOU! You deserve to be loved! Be as generous to yourself as you are to everyone else. Be selfish if and when you need to be.
There have been times when I have given of myself to someone and I've gotten burned. It makes me more cautious and less trusting for awhile but my true self has to get back out there, you know. I beat myself up for different reasons all the time but the bottom line is I still love myself and know in my heart that it's the other person's problem and not mine.
So my dear friend give yourself a big loving hug and know it's from me.
I'm doing pretty good thanks for asking. I always say that as long as I can drag my body out of bed it's a good day. It doesn't always work but I try. Work is pretty stressful and I'm getting more serious about retirement. Hopefully within about six months.
I'm more of a lurker here than a participant. It's not that I don't care deeply but that I don't feel I have the right words to say. I need to try more.