Incase you don't know, I am currently in the middle of a divorce. The problem is that my soon to be ex husband will not talk to me! His family will not talk to me either. I don't know where he is living currently, so I can't go see him. This is preventing our divorce from moving forward. Is there anything I can do? How can I take care of this? I'm ready to move on with my life, and obviously he doesn't want that to happen!View Thread
Having a drink every now and then does not make you a bad person at all! It's when it takes over your life and makes you forget about those around you that it becomes a problem. When all you care about is your next drink, thats when you know you need help. I'm sure you already know all of this, and it sounds like you have done all you can to take care of the issue. All I can say is to keep trying. If you give up you could miss out on meeting a woman who will make you happier than you've ever been.View Thread
Perhaps you are simply not meeting the right woman? I don't know your past, obviously, but from all of the posts I've read on here, you seem like a very good person! Everyone has a past, everyone makes mistakes, it's a part of life.While not everyone has made the same types of mistakes, I feel it's what makes life exciting. No two people are alike, and the most important thing is that a person learns from their mistakes. I could see a woman not wanting to be with you if you are still making the same mistakes, but not if you've moved on and made yourself a better person! I wish I had other advice to give, but I think you simply need to meet a woman more deserving of the wonderful person you are.View Thread
It sounds like he builds you up so he can break you down. It's almost maybe a high for him? I know you care about him but it seems as if he is taking advantage of the fact that you always forgive him and are always there for him. You need to show him that you can be happy without him and that you don't need him in your life. That is the only way to break this cycle. It's very unhealthy and I imagine it must be taking a toll on you. You deserve someone who knows that they want you, who knows that they love you, and who knows they want to build a life with you. Not some immature jerk! If he can't commit to you, forget about him! I know it's easy for me to say, but I have been there before. Just know that it will get easier.View Thread
As for 'what happened here', if I had to guess, it sounds like she didn't really know that she wanted to leave him. After being with someone for as long as she was, and having him treat her the way he did, it could be that she's come to expect this kind of treatment. He is what is familiar. You, while it seems you treated her much better than he did, are unfamiliar. With all of her emotional problems, it sounds like she needed some stability in her life, and that is what he is. It might not be good stability or the stability she deserves, but unfortunately that is for her to decide. All you can do is wish her the best, and go out and find something good for yourself!View Thread
It sounds like you are in a very tough situation! For me, once I take the steps to end a relationship, there is no going back. While there may be good qualities to the person, and there may have been good times, if things got bad enough that I even considered leaving, I'm gone. I really hope that she hasn't set herself up for failure, and for missing out on what sounds like a very good and healthy relationship with you. I am glad to hear you aren't going to wait around for her. You deserve to be happy as well, and it honestly sounds like she has many unresolved issues in her life. I wish you good luck with everything!View Thread
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