With me, it is not really a worry from inexperieince. Let me explain.
My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. We have a very happy marriage.
I have come to believe this "syndrome" is caused by some incidents which happened earlier in my life. I was bullied a lot as a kid, including the shower rooms in gym class where comments were made about my size.
Also, my first sexual experience was horrible. I was strongly peer pressured into it by my girlfriend who wanrted to have sex when I really didn't want to. We were on a "double date" and the other couple with us were having sex several feet away. The guy was my girlfreind's former boyfriend who she had been intimate with. He was a larger than I was. Eventually, we broke up because of the sex. I was just not emotionally ready to handle that as a teenager.
For me, it's not just a case of being very nervous before sex (and that still sometimes happens), but everytime I hear a joke about size or comment about it, I suffer from these very strong attacks of fear and doubt.
People think saying "size matters!" is a joke, but it's not to me. It's like someone sticking a sword through my heart.View Thread