I was with Janet for 9 years, a weekend boy friend. I always wanted more, but because of her alimony, and raising her 4 children that was all she could give me. I was a bad husband to my first wife after 20 years. I was a cheating bastard. Had two lovely girls, that I spent lots of time with them, every moment. I was a stay home dad. I had to leave, because I cheated again and I knew that I really didn't love my wife for me to do that over and over. So I left, meet Janet. I fell madly in love with Janet and promised myself that I would be the best of the best boy friend and a true gentleman. I wasn't going to repeat my past. A new man. I wasn't going to hurt anyone KNOW more. I gave Janet every part of me, I did everything for her, I was a true gentleman, loved her kids, helped them anyway I can. I am a very romantic person, like to be close, holding hands, hugging, lots of kissing, sleep close, dancing, look into to her eyes, tell her how pretty she is. But Janet wasn't like that, every time I kissed her and asked for more, she would say "it's never enough". In her king size bed, she would sleep on the other side, she said "she needs her space". If I laid my head on her, she would say "Heavy Body Parts". It was tough getting close to Janet. I JUST WANTED TO BE CLOSE TO SOMEONE. I asked her to marry me several times, she said "when the kids(2) get out of high school". We talked about buying a house together, buying new furniture together, living together, she said "after the kids get out of high school" after being a weekend boy friend for 8 years, I was getting tired of the weekends. Then Janet broke her promises. Kids went to college, and I was ready to buy/ look together for a home. But Janet said that we were not getting along enough to move in together. She told me that she needs her alimony, and she would be afraid to give up her alimony and then get divorced a second time. She needs that money. She told me that what I make(pay) doesn't match her alimony. I told her we can make it, if I have to, I will get a second job. That wasn't good enough for Janet. So janet and I went looking for Janet's house, It was killing me, we were supposed to be looking for our home, not her home. Then I went looking for my own home, that made me happy. I wonder if I was doing that out of spite? When Janet moved into her home, we went looking for furniture for her new home, that was really killing me. Janet broke all her promises to me. I had to much angry inside of me. Fighting started happening even more. I just wanted to be with her more and more. Then in February 2013 she broke-up with me. One month later I had a herniated disc and was laid up. I ask Janet to help me, and to take me to the Dr., she bitched, telling me to get someone else to take me. I was so mad. After 2 months I started looking on line for woman. In May 2013 I meet a woman, one month later she asked me to start staying over her house every night, I agreed. It was what I always wanted from Janet, but never got it.
In September 2013, I moved all my stuff into Karen (new mate) house, and rented my home by October. In November I got a E-Mail from Janet, telling me that she went through a rough few months since we broke up. She had problems with her son, back to court with her X husband (15th time) and she had a cancer scare. Janet said "it was a wake-up call", and that she realized that life was to short (her mom died at 38) and she wants to marry me now, and love me forever. Janet has offered me the world, And Janet says she's sorry for how she treated me, and she should have married me a long time ago (She was always worried about her alimony). JANET SAY'S SHE WANTS ME BACK. I made a commitment to this woman(Karen)that I started a new relationship with. She is 57 years old and hasn't work in 23 years. I told her that I can't support both of us and she needs to find a job to help out with the bills and house hold stuff. Karen is having a hard time going on line (very nervous). Karen is a spiritual person, love her angels, believes in stone's(she says she can feel the stone), candles, oils, she tells me that she was other people in her previous life's. She goes to these physic's, medium's. She is into Reiki, she took classes and wants to do Reiki on people and become a Reiki master. I don't know too much about Reiki and I'm not sure if you can make a living doing Reiki. She said she got a calling to do this.?????? Anyway, she married young and had a child, and got divorced young. After 10 years she got married again after only knowing the man for 6 months. Karen was 37 and he was 10 years older than her. She said It was a bad marriage, he liked to drink and was always depressed. She was about to divorce him when he suddenly got ill and died. Karen got his 401K and his life insurance money. Karen says that before she could sell the home they lived in, she had to fix it to make it sellable. Once sold, she used the money to pay for her new home in cash(400,000). Karen was alone in her home, did not go to work, she was living of the money she had. Three years later she was running out of money (still no Job). When I meet Karen her house was up for sale. She was planning to sell home and move in with her parents. Karen and I started to date, after 1 week I was staying there every night. Getting what I wanted from Janet for so many years. Someone to come home to every night, someone to sleep close to all night long, every night, someone to be with everyday. So I was paying my bills and she was paying her bills. After 4 months I asked her to move into my home(that I haven't lived in since I meet Karen). The problem was that she couldn't sell her home. So after figuring out the finances, I told her let's stay in your home, and rent out mine. That's what we did. After 8 months Karen and I are still together with Janet texting me and calling me at work. I feel so torn, not knowing which why to go. Karen started looking for work in January 2014. Karen was a legal secretary for several law firms many years ago, but says she can't do that because of her bad back (that she had surgery on when she was younger), can't sit for 8 hours at one time. But she is really set on this Reki stuff, and wants to make it work. It sounds like reki or nothing. Yes I'm worried. Do I stick it out. My feelings for Karen, I love her and I love Janet. Maybe I don't know what love is. I have feelings for both. I'm afraid that if I move out from Karen, I will destroy her life. I helped her in the last 8 months sale old stuff in the flea markets, helped her with a lawyer case with her 37 old son. I we joined our phone bill together, we pay bills together, we have gone on vacation together (2 weeks). I feel like I'm stuck in the middle. People say it's up to me, but I'm confused. Please write back. I can us the help. View Thread
I moved in with karen and i pay all of the house hold bills. she has no mortgage. but she has expenses that she is responsable for. but she doesn't work. she has no income. my account is going down. she wants to do REIKI. I know it sounds crazy, but i love them both in different ways. but with karen not having a job, makes things in the home diffucult. and hurts the relationship.View Thread
Thank You for that. Very helpful. i just wish i know what i was going to do with my life staying this woman. I am supporting her now. I don't have alot of money and don't know her that long. She's determined to do Reiki. So confused. Don't want to hurt her. Just waiting it out to see what happens or if i run out of money before she makes money. she's a great woman, BUT...........................View Thread
THANK YOU for your input. This business that she wants to do "Reki", not sure if you can make a living from that. Right know i support her. My money will run out if she doesn't get a job. Then what do i do?? I guess I'll wait till that day comes. I get nervous. I may have to move out of her home, to take care of myself, if it dosen't work out with her getting a job. And Reki is the way she is going. Boy i hate to walk out like that and tell her it's over, and leave her hanging. that will hurt someone thats trying to move on with her life. I came into her life, and now i walk out of her life. WOW, HELP With Janet it's financial securuty.View Thread
THANK YOU, I hear you load and clear. I am not marrying Karen because she will collect her died husbands SS, when she turns 63 old. This business that she wants to do "Reki", not sure if you can make a living from that. Right know i support her. My money will run out if she doesn't get a job. Then what do i do?? I guess i'll wait till that day comes. I get nervous. With Janet it's finacial securuty.View Thread