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I wouldn't bother texting any of his female contacts - that won't do any good. It would take you ages, cost you grief and he'll probably just find others to text ...
I'd insist he got help with his addiction though.View Thread


It sounds very much like an addiction to me, as if it were compulsive. Have you considered counselling? If he refuses to go, go by yourself. It will help you decide where your priorities lie and where you want to go from here.
I'm really sorry that you're having to deal with this - life is hard enough with a new baby without this on top of it.View Thread

Does he see you as a team? How does he feel about the baby? Does he take care of the baby too? Or does he see him as a nuisance?
Finally, I really like what Rohvannyn said. All of it.
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Here's an interesting link about anger management that explains ways of dealing with it:
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx?item=2
I hope you find something to help you!View Thread

OK. First off, you need to talk to a lawyer. You need to know where you and the baby are heading. That is all that matters for the time being. Forget about moving on because it is a LONG process. Deal with the present and the rest will fall into place.
I also suggest that you visit a woman's shelter - they are excellent for giving appropriate advice.
Please keep us posted - you never know when someone can help you out.
(((((HUGS)))))View Thread

Her libido is not fine and normal if she hasn't felt the need for sex in over 3 1/2 years. Her libido is GONE. How old is she, by the way?
So where does that leave you? Why wouild you want to wait if nothing is going to change? Why would you waste any more time in such an unsatisfactory situation? Why can't you two just be good friends and get on with your respective lives so that you can find someone else?View Thread

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Can you find a quiet moment to talk to her (I would choose a public place like a restaurant to reduce the risk of he stomping out) and bring up your concerns starting with her sons. They're not going to leave and get on with their lives unless that's what she really wants and does something to motivate them to do so (like giving them a month to find their own place). She should not be stressing out about adults... (unless, of course, they are incapable of taking care of themselves). She has done her job as a mother and it's time to let them go.
She is using her sons as an excuse to avoid intimacy. Why? What is she afraid of? She says she cannot have a relationship but that is exactly what she is doing ... You've been together for 3 1/2 years for goodness sake ... If you're not in a relationship then what, in her opinion, are you doing together? Is this her way of telling you she wants you to leave?
Then you need to address the depression part. As you are feeling that way too, why not suggest you see the doctor for screening together?
Finally, if she won't go to counselling then please go by yourself. It will help you sort through your feelings and fix your priorities.
Is it just sex she refuses or all types of intimacy? Is it remotely possible that she's using all of this to cover up the fact that sex might be painful for her ...? I ask this seriously because vaginal dryness and vaginal atrophy are not uncommon for older women.View Thread
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