Yep - try to - I also work out M-F 1 hour - with treadmill, situps and nustep - do this for distraction and keep my mind busy so I dont think about my problems. But I still have time to do that - lot of time at night when I'm trying to sleep. It is so quiet and mind kind of likes to think then - no - not a good idea. Sometimes it's hard to turn it off - why people dwell on negative when there really is a lot of positive that we ignore - maybe the human mind is just that way who knows. Hate it and try to reverse it but sometimes it is hard to do.
Thank you - this is my daughter not DIL - yes, I do take her out every time I go down there - either lunch or dinner and usually bake a pie, etc or some other dessert.
I don't take her kids out for outings down there as it is a city and I don't know my way and it makes me nervous to drive in a city - just know my way to her house and that's it but go to the kids' events or whatever is going on with my daughter.
For Xmas I made 2 desserts and a sweet potato casserole to take down there -
Anyway, thanks for your comments. Appreciate them.
My daughter did mention my DIL's name as far as stress is concerned - she didn't want to deal with her as she is a difficult person - I have the same problem - only she doesn't see her much - she lives down the street from me so I deal more with her. Anyway, thanks for your advice.View Thread
Thank you all of you - it's almost 8 am - I text my son 15 mins ago before he takes his son to preschool. I just told him that his son was here last night for a bit to say hi and mentioned to me again about being mean to his mom.
I told my son I think he needs to talk to him please. I told my grandson also - not to worry but you need to talk to your daddy.
So, my son said he would take care of this so he's probably talking to him now - glad I'm off the hook - NO - I have never said anything bad about his mother to him - that is wrong, wrong. It could make him take sides and get nervous and upset. I don't want that to happen.
Anyway, thanks all of you for your great advice. Now I can carry on this day knowing hopefully that my son will take care of this. He's a great daddy and know he will do a good job with his son.
Dennis - I did and do take your advice and it is good advice. I blocked the text message from my cell as well as her phone number - actually it is in my opinion called text harrassment and if this is done via email I will call my internet people and block that too. Don't know what problems are coming from doing this and guess will have to deal with that when it happens.
Her birthday is coming up first week of Sept - I have always given her a nice gift - NONE this year - being nice to her all these years has done NOTHING. You know it is really sad because she has no close friends - her mom is alive and will be there for her and sister and brother but know the siblings dont like her and her brother even told my son I wish you good luck on your marriage but I don't know - they know their siblings like all of us do.
I hope that I'll get to see my grandson thru my son and my husband knows that is not a concern - and really in the end as long as I see my son and grandson that's fine with me and actually makes me happy that I dont have to deal with her anymore - when she finds out I blocked her who knows what will happen but it will be a long time until she wants to text me as she is still mad now and will be mad for a very long time.
I am glad I can post here and say what I do and know it is confidential on this site right? If it wasn't I would be in deep trouble but I am a person that cant hold in deep ugly things - I do appreciate all the people who are trying to help me - really, I truly am. I live in a small town and you have to be careful who you tell what to and I have such a hard time keeping awful things that are happening to me to myself.
I plan on talking to my cell phone company about blocking text messages from her - however, if I do babysit and know I will even through my son I possibly could tell me son that I no longer have her number on my phone so will have to go through him so he knows for the sake of the child.
There is no other way - I tried for 10 years - I have friends that tell me anyone would want to be your friend - don't feel I am doing bad things on purpose. Thank you.View Thread
Hi - thanks for your interest. She is mad because in her mind SHE was supposed to bring the meal down and not me - that I got mixed up with communication.
Which she is wrong - as I mentioned she has a hearing problem but will never admit she didn't hear right.
She has gotten lots of things mixed up in the 10 years she has been married to my son. I don't know but maybe people who have hearing impairment don't want to admit they can't hear well.
I don't know but I know this thing is going to continue - there could be a confrontation from her for me to apologize. I am not going to apologize for my not communicating to her - because I am not responsible for both of us bringing the meals down.
Hope you understand - I know it is stupid - like I said I would just like to laugh about it and move on - she is very serious and my daughter nicknames her the "drama queen" -
She is very difficult person to get along with - can't have any fun with her.
Anyway, thanks for trying to help me - I know - it is silly this whole thing but then you don't know my DIL.
Thank you for all your suggestions - the only thing I know I wont do is visit my sister - we do not get along and I always come back feeling badly. BUT, am moving on with that - it's time after 69 years to accept and move on. I cant change her nor can anyone change other people.
I will come up with something - and do appreciate your many suggestions.
I still am thinking about a one day a week job doing things I like in a job like answering telephones, etc - I love talking with people.