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i spent the whole day fighting back tears...and just couldnt keep it together when I got home...and was alone...
TRIGGER...found my old knife - recently moved back home with my dad - K and I are on very rocky ground to say the least - and old habits die hard i guesss...only once, not like that makes it better, but all of sudden it was as if all my other scars shown bright and were telling me to stop...so i did. but ever since, ive just wanted to again.
havent told anyone...no one to tell except K, and well that just wouldnt work right now. so alone. and i could only think to put it here. to make myself say it/write it/admit that i fell off the wagon...to what I hope is temporary...
many thanks if you read this. thanks for being a part of my life in a small but very powerful way. much loveView Thread
Kate_TeView Thread
This is going to be lengthy but I could use some advice right now. A lil story framing: they say you fall in love with someone like your dad. I thought that could never happen. My father made my baby sister 6yrs ago out of wedlock...didnt talk to him for a whole summer (we are best friends) it was incredibly hard to stay mad. I know far too much about my dad than I think most daughters know. He is sociopathic, intelligent, manipulative and has a sex addiction. Let's just say he has shared with me his adventures in Amsterdam with his fetish-y girlfriend and it is XXX (and many more XXX stories). Of course none of these have been professionally looked into since he believes psyho therapy as nonsense.
Now fast forward to 2 weeks ago...I discoverd K had not only been texting/sexting other women but had a couple to his new apartment without telling me. (I got into his phone on a visit, I have moved back home). So that makes the two closest men in my life are sick. I tried to ignore it, he has his show this weekend and we have a trip in June. But I couldnt keep it in. I confronted him over the phone last night (his rage is unpredictable). We talked for 3 hours. It was really good to do so, even though my heart is still broken. My ability to forgive prob comes from already learning to do so with my dad.
He did this back in January and it has been hard to deal with. He was great for 2 months and then things changed. It turns out he was going to therapy for his sex addiction and didnt tell me. And then he stopped going, and relapsed to to speak. He filled me in on gruesome details (I did ask to know) and shared with me his fears, how ashamed he is and the real reason he stopped persuing his dream to be a teacher (he does not feel he is healthy to lead children, and I agree).
Ive tried to hate him. Ive been trying to drink it away (among other things) to no avail. I cant hate him, its not in my nature. I want to see him healthy - for himself. This addiction infects his life. He admitted to being one person with me, and then someone else when Im not around. Hes aware of his sickness but is in such a dark place (he is suicidal) it has me concerned. I will always love him.
He called around today to get back into therapy. I can imagine how scary that is...I couldnt even do it myself...he wants to talk with a male for obvi reasons. He offered to just give me his trip tickets and is paying the last months bills w/o me. I know he is guilty and ashamed. And since I am the only person in his life who knows, I want to be there for him when I can.
I sent an email to a clinician service offered by my temp agency. This time Im going to answer the phone. Ive been researching sex addiction and he fits all that I have read. I also read about the partner to someone with this behavior. And I know I cant do this on my own. He is also the only person who knows I still SH sometimes...so in a way...we both need eachother.
Keeping a journal has helped me through a lot and felt the need to write this down. Holding these things in can rip you apart...no pun intended. I dont know who to talk to that wont look at him in a judgemental way (i can understand but still...). I know what that feels like to not know how to control bad behavior. We arent doing it to harm anyone else but ourselves.
I just feel so broken. Im barely eating. Been drinking more heavily. Contemplating Sh'g...I also couldnt promise K I wouldnt it...i dont know if it was just out of spite. Thanks for reading through this. I needed to. - much loveView Thread
It's already tomorrow in Australia. - Charles Schultz
It's been over a year since the last time I cut...been doing the whole baby steps thing...am pretty much out of the mire of depression...but recently struggling with anxiety although have still been able to keep things under control...and then last night happened...
I went out with some friends to listen to a band and have a drink...well, while we were there, some random guy asked me to dance...and I actually did... I was even having fun dancing and talking (and refusing his offer to leave with him) until he started trying to kiss me...at first I just turned my face so he kissed my cheek, but then he basically forced me not to turn my head. I managed to keep it together enough to tell him I needed to go sit for a while (with my friends...not him) and then didn't dance anymore...but he came by our table later and gave me his #... Anyway...today I have been having horrible anxiety...almost to the point of panic attacks...which I have never had before. I don't know what to do or think...and i want to CUT so much right now......
KView Thread
It's already tomorrow in Australia. - Charles Schultz
I've been lurking lately. I'm not exactly sure why. I just don't feel like I have anything to add to what you guys have already said on most threads.
I haven't been leaving the house since my release from the hospital last month. If I go to the store or a Doctor's appointment it's a big deal for me. I've been sleeping A LOT (like 15-18 hours/day).
So tonight I'm super anxious. Even after my klonopin. I've been wondering lately if my whole issue isn't just impulse control. When I've been down this week, I keep looking at the razor or my wrists. I've been able to control it, but tonight, I don't know if I will. I am pretty impulsive & maybe that's what I need to fix. I know that my S attempts were impulsive acts. I know my cutting is impulsive. I know I become more impulsive the more anxious I get.
I don't know why I'm telling you guys this. I guess I just needed to tell someone what's going on in my head.
Kate_TeView Thread
Thank you!!View Thread
writing a poem??
What would you write about??
Draw a picture even if it's a stick figure picture??
Color?? or if you only have ink pens or pencils that aren't colored shade dark and light making a design with small and large shapes that are circular beginning with one curve and going until you end the piece.
I find coloring to be really relaxing.
How else can you be creative??View Thread
Okay - so I've been dealing with a lot of stress (unsure of what was going on with mom's health/wedding/work/family/etc) - I held it in and thought: why burden someone else with all of this - I'm good - I got a handle on it.
Well the B-party happened and I got trashed - to the point where I FINALLY cried (it is still hard for me to cry about stuff these days). My MOH - my good friend - was so angry that I didn't come to her and tell her about what was going on...and I'm sure she was ticked that I ruined my own B party that she planned (I went home early cause my stomach was not in good shape). I can't drink like that and I guess I was drinking a lot to mask how I was feeling (unconsciously).
Anyway - she even told me "I was so ticked at my sister when she hid her feelings from me and now you have done it to me." Now I'm getting a cold shoulder which is making my anxiety go up. I literally have a month before I get married. She's in the wedding (MOH)...I don't know if I should let this go and leave her be...or do I say something? Do I try to send her another text and ask to hang out...and IF I don't get a response say: Hey - if we still have stuff to sort out - let's sort it out..?
Like I have said...it's making my anxiety really bad. I don't have many friends at all....and now because I don't know how to handle people giving a crap about me and not knowing how much to share...I've probably lost a friend...I'm so sad.View Thread
I'm hoping everyone will check in and let us know how you're doing??
and at the same time how bout a caprice distraction action plan(s)?
thought if we all come up with one we could continue to use them from this thread??
Bucket List
Do you have a bucket list?
If you do please name some of the items you'd like to accomplish on it?
Do you not have a bucket list?
If not, then can you name one thing you'd like to put on a bucket list?View Thread
I'm really struggling and really want to do somany activities that I can't stand it. but I guess for right now i'm surviving the moments.
I really do want to drink and that's about all I want to do. sigh
I guess i'll put on the coffee...............I went to store today too.
besides all the work I've been doing. I just can't go no more. ugh!!
I guess i'll do more tomorrow and see if I can get caught up again.
I'm really tired and getting a bad headache as well as stomach hurting. Talked to brother today he called and I spoke to him 25 mins. which I didn't really have the time but we're not talkin a lot so its ok for now.
the good news is that my son and dil sent me a locket that has the birthstones on it. I have to look up which months are which.
I'm goin to think of the locket and how much I've always wanted something like this. I'm amazed they thought of this. but I really really like it.View Thread
i'm sad tho i'm not sure why. its odd all of the deaths prior to her are kinda hitting me...............like my moms last breath..... wish there was someone I could talk to about this. I guess I can call f.
it's real weird all this. its kinda surreal is wht it is. it doesn't seem like this could be happening. I didn't like having to talk to the bil about arrangements etc. ick... need closure and tho she's outta it my bil is not yet. maybe after I hear from him one more time when he calls about the arrangements or maybe hubby will b brave enuf to say he's not going instead of leaving It up to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i'm all stirred up and want to drink.... want to sh. trying to just chill.
its like some kind of alarm has went off in my head! my husband won't get anything! and then of course....................what happened to all of th ehuge diamonds she had??? well that's up to my husband too!
I don't know why I had to get involved. what happened to that they had hubbys cell phone. I've talked to his sister and his uncle both whom I haven't talked to in 30 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!View Thread
I have a friends wedding to go to on Sunday and the thought of wearing a dress is really stressing me out. I lost a whole load of weight last year but have put some back on so not feeling confident at all and then I am having to wear a dress, which means some scars will be on show.
The fact that I hate my body etc doesn't help but every time I think I get a handle on my scars something like this comes up and throws me a curve ball. I know they are part of me and part of my history but when I am feeling low anyway, with sh thoughts higher in my consciousness than they have been for a while ... just want to hide and not go out/see anyone at all.View Thread
You have had a tough week and when you come home (or there is knock at the door) there is a package for you! What would you want to be inside that would brighten your weekend that much more?
For me...and it's a bit corny...but a bouqet of lillies. coral colored lillies. i bought myself flowers 2 weeks ago from the store (they are still very alive!) and thought K would get the hint...since I did get a whopping nothing on our 3yr anniversary (I made him a lovely card...Ill have to share a pic!)...but someone to send me flowers. to appreciate the woman I am and to show me that I am beautiful even tho I have a habit of forgetting....
Ok this is supposed to be fun! ha! and I am such a downerrrrr but really i am a romantic and i just melt over a lovely spray of flowers. makes me giddy! lol
So what you want to get? a dinner? new shoes? art supplies? a rocking chair for the porch? Share away!!!View Thread
Things are rather difficult for me at the moment and had massive breakdown a couple weeks ago as everything is all catching up with me. Not that I want to say much but really thigns not good. Im not a praying sort but if any of you are please pray for my family and my father. I just do not want to see him suffer. This coming weekend will be very very very hard and I do not know how I will put on the brave fron tto get through it but somehow I know I will
anyhow hugs to allView Thread
Will it make loosing Caprice easier for you if you pick her apart and destroy her? Its like you won't be happy till you have slain her on line and smeared her out of your life.
I know the MO. there are many in my wake before I changed. Hating her will not make that pain in your heart go away.View Thread
On top of that, despite the fact that I've cut dairy and soy from my diet, my daughter is still not sleeping, is super fussy, and having bloody stools. I want to go on a total elimination diet to determine what she's allergic to but my pediatrician doesn't seem familiar with this and all the information I've found online states different things so I don't even know where to begin.
Just so stressed and crying. I need a break. God please.View Thread
HAVING A HARD TIME TYPING CUZ ITS SO SPEEDED UP AND SO FAST AND I CAN'T EVEN TYPE AS FAST AS MY IMPULSES ARE GOING!
I THINK THIS STUPID DOCTOR SHE CALLS HER SELF IS OUT TO GET ME. IT MAKES ME SO MAKE ME SO MADDDDD!!!!!!!!!View Thread
THAT BPD CAUSES US TO STAY IN CRISIS WETHER THAT BE OUR THINKING OR JUST CAUSE. ME INCLUDED. EVEN THO I BE 3 SHEETS TO THE WIND.... I CAN MAKE SENSE!!
I CAN EVEN TYPE BETTER. HA HA
SO HERE IT IS AND ANYONE CAN GET MAD AT ME OR NOT.
I HAD THIS WOMAN SAY IN OUR GROUP A FEW WEEKS AGO WHAT I MENTIONED ABOVE THAT WE ARE IN CRISIS. WE STAY IN CRISIS BECAUSE THAT IS ALL WE KNOW!!!!
THERE IS NO BLAME TAKEN OR GIVEN PERIOD!!!! HERE THERE OR ANYWHERE. IT JUST IS.... CAN YOU WRAP YOUR HEAD AROUND THAT???
I HAVE BEEN ON THIS FORUM FOR AT LEAST 10 YEARS IF NOT LONGER. DURING THAT TIME I KNEW MANY PEOPLE SAME AS DD KITYY OTW AND LLT. NEVER IN THAT TIME DID I FEEL THAT CAPRICE LED ME ASTRAY OR THAT THE INFORMATION PORTRAID HERE WAS INCORRECT ON HER BEHALF OR NOT.
SIMPLE.... SHE LEFT OR NOT... MAYBE BEHIND THE SCENES OR NOT.... AND ITS AS SIMPLE AS THAT.
NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS.... I FOUND THAT MY PARANOIA IS PART OF MY BPD. ONCE I SEE THAT I GET IT. WE DON'T HAVE TO BE HOUNDED BY WHAT WEB MD DID OR DIDN'T DO. THE SIMPLE FACT IS DO WE CHOOSE TO REMAIN A CYBER FAMILY OR NOT???
I ASKED LAST NIGHT FOR A POST TO BE REMOVED AND IT WAS APPARENTLY QUICKLY DONE SO. SO WHERE'S THE BEEF??
CAN WE PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE MOVE ON. I MEAN NO DISRESPECT AND IF SOME IS TAKEN THEN I TRULY WILL APOLOGIZE FOR IT NOW.
I AM NOT NOT VALIDATING ANY ENTITY ANY PERSON OR ANYTHING ABOUT THESE SUBJECTS.
JUST SAYIN..... .... RIGHT NOW MY LIFE IS IN JEOPARDY...
I'M NOT ASKING PERIOD FOR THE SPOTLIGHT TO BE MOVED BECAUS EOF ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 NOT AT ALL. BECAUSE I DON'T REALLY GIVE A RATS ARSE IF I SURVIVE OR NOT... I'M SAYING THAT I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO SUCCEED IN WHATEVER VENTURE YOU CHOOSE TO GO TO.
NOW OF COURSE THERE WILL BE RETHORIC ON THIS ALL THREAD THAT'S OK. IT'S GOOD FOR DISCUSSION.
BUT LETS DO THAT HAVE A DISCUSSION... AND COME UP WITH SOME CONSTRUCTIVE THINGS ABOUT THIS MATTER SINCE IT SEEMS TO KEEP COMING UP.
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THAT BPD CAUSES US TO STAY IN CRISIS WETHER THAT BE OUR THINKING OR JUST CAUSE. ME INCLUDED. EVEN THO I BE 3 SHEETS TO THE WIND.... I CAN MAKE SENSE!!
I CAN EVEN TYPE BETTER. HA HA
SO HERE IT IS AND ANYONE CAN GET MAD AT ME OR NOT.
I HAD THIS WOMAN SAY IN OUR GROUP A FEW WEEKS AGO WHAT I MENTIONED ABOVE THAT WE ARE IN CRISIS. WE STAY IN CRISIS BECAUSE THAT IS ALL WE KNOW!!!!
THERE IS NO BLAME TAKEN OR GIVEN PERIOD!!!! HERE THERE OR ANYWHERE. IT JUST IS.... CAN YOU WRAP YOUR HEAD AROUND THAT???
I HAVE BEEN ON THIS FORUM FOR AT LEAST 10 YEARS IF NOT LONGER. DURING THAT TIME I KNEW MANY PEOPLE SAME AS DD KITYY OTW AND LLT. NEVER IN THAT TIME DID I FEEL THAT CAPRICE LED ME ASTRAY OR THAT THE INFORMATION PORTRAID HERE WAS INCORRECT ON HER BEHALF OR NOT.
SIMPLE.... SHE LEFT OR NOT... MAYBE BEHIND THE SCENES OR NOT.... AND ITS AS SIMPLE AS THAT.
NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS.... I FOUND THAT MY PARANOIA IS PART OF MY BPD. ONCE I SEE THAT I GET IT. WE DON'T HAVE TO BE HOUNDED BY WHAT WEB MD DID OR DIDN'T DO. THE SIMPLE FACT IS DO WE CHOOSE TO REMAIN A CYBER FAMILY OR NOT???
I ASKED LAST NIGHT FOR A POST TO BE REMOVED AND IT WAS APPARENTLY QUICKLY DONE SO. SO WHERE'S THE BEEF??
CAN WE PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE MOVE ON. I MEAN NO DISRESPECT AND IF SOME IS TAKEN THEN I TRULY WILL APOLOGIZE FOR IT NOW.
I AM NOT NOT VALIDATING ANY ENTITY ANY PERSON OR ANYTHING ABOUT THESE SUBJECTS.
JUST SAYIN..... .... RIGHT NOW MY LIFE IS IN JEOPARDY...
I'M NOT ASKING PERIOD FOR THE SPOTLIGHT TO BE MOVED BECAUS EOF ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 NOT AT ALL. BECAUSE I DON'T REALLY GIVE A RATS ARSE IF I SURVIVE OR NOT... I'M SAYING THAT I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO SUCCEED IN WHATEVER VENTURE YOU CHOOSE TO GO TO.
NOW OF COURSE THERE WILL BE RETHORIC ON THIS ALL THREAD THAT'S OK. IT'S GOOD FOR DISCUSSION.
BUT LETS DO THAT HAVE A DISCUSSION... AND COME UP WITH SOME CONSTRUCTIVE THINGS ABOUT THIS MATTER SINCE IT SEEMS TO KEEP COMING UP.
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