Thanks for the good vibes - it must have worked! I got the job! I put in my 3 weeks at work - I have so much that must get done. Of course now I'm sick - all the stress/lack of sleep/working a bunch of days in a row caught up with me!
It has been the year of change for me. While I am excited, I am scared of change. I have been working for the same employer for the past 8 yrs. I just hope I made the right jump. I think I did because work was getting toxic. Who wants to sail on a sinking ship?
Anyway - thank you for all of your support - I just wanted to update ya'll.
I agree with the girls. Sometimes the whole sleep thing is confusing and is can actually turn around an bite ya in the behind. That if she sees someone sleeping (like daddy) but then doesn't see him for another 24hrs - it might cause anxiety.
Your little one will be able to learn from you that it is okay to be sad and cry, and that the hurt can go away. Maybe after you explain to her that Dixie is no longer here - you can do something together like get ice cream in memory of Dixie or play outside and let P know that Dixie would want her to have fun still because it would make her happy.
My niece found the family dog and my brother and sister were open with her. (this happened about 3 weeks ago) They allowed her to cry and let her know that they were sad too and even cried a little with her. My niece didn't get the concept of ashes - but when she asked questions they told her the truth in such a way that was age appropriate. My niece will say "I miss my dog," and they let her know that they miss her too.
I remember sitting in a rocking chair with my mom sharing tears over our family dog - and while a sad memory it is also one of those memories that mean a lot to me. I saw that my mom was a human too and that we shared the same sadness. We bonded in a very special way that day.
You are allowed to cry and show your beautiful girl that tears and sadness are okay and are a part of life.
In the end - it is your daughter and your choice. This is only my opinion and life experience. You have to be okay with your parenting decisions.
I'm sorry for your loss - I know that it hurts and is a big adjustment. ((HUGS))View Thread
How exciting!! I hope you can get out to Cali when the baby is born or at least get to Skype or something! Do they know what they are having or is it a surprise?
Thank you! It can be done - with a ton of hard work and determination. Believe me the first few months just stunk - the panic attacks were the worst. But you can get past it. Once in a while I get the stray thought - but I tell myself "Why ruin this? Why start all over again?" I know it is SOOO different but it sometimes reminds me when I stopped drinking caffeine/soda in HS. I still haven't gone back. The first year I was always tempted and now I don't think twice - it doesn't smell so alluring or is something I crave. Finding a healthier substitution and then moving on to something healthier. (For me it was flavored water which had the sugar then I moved to Seltzer. I always drank plain water though)
With SI - sometimes it's learning what substitution works better for you. For me I got a rush from being able to hold off. I made it a game. My competitive side came out and it was like trying to beat the high score.
I hope you have been okay and that you have been able to fight those urges. I know they suck and can be difficult to ignore!View Thread
So far - we have a ton of food for the guest - I don't want to hear that anyone got completely blitzed or left hungry!
The girls will be wearing purple chiffon dresses (gotta go dress shopping with them still) and I'm just asking for silver heels/flats.
My necklace is an estate piece (i believe it is from the 20s)
My shoes are purple - my mom was horrified but everyone, including myself, think it is cool. I joke that I'm gonna flash my shoes at my mom every chance I get.
We got an up-and-coming photographer - he has already been hired by our city's baseball team to photograph an event for them - and he now can just focus on his photography instead of working as a waiter as well (which he was when I hired him)
Our DJ is giving us free uplighting since I am friendly with one of his friends!
We got our limo company.
I got an idea about the flowers - and a good friend of the whole family is doing them. We will meet with her again in March.
Picked out invites and save the dates. Just gotta order the invites after the save the dates go out.
I still got a lot to do. (A lot of church stuff!) A lot of people say I have a ton done already. I can't wait to book the honeymoon!
Paja: Hopefully you are doing okay in the recovery - it is a long road sometimes. Hyperthyroidism is a tough disease and the MVA probably didn't make it better.
Aww kindergarten already!? You will have to give us some updates on some of the excitement your little one brings home. As much as I love kids...there is nothing like that nice sound of quiet afterwards. I hope that maybe you can get back to focusing on yourself a little bit more now that all the kids are in school.
Thanks for the good vibes!
I have my dress and since my mom got freaked out by a dream that something happened - she wants to be go for my 1st fitting in October! I even have my shoes and jewelry. Just got to get my veil and head piece next!View Thread
Not bad. Just finished a phone interview and have another interview tomorrow (same place). I'm trying to get off of nights - but if I don't get the job offer: I'm okay with it. It just means it is not meant to be. Luckily my best friend works for the new place and talked me up a good bit. But at the end of the phone interview I got the "You and the manager seem to have a very similar philosophy and I want her to meet you." So that is reassuring, but currently the position I want is on hold. We shall see where life brings me.
Wedding plans are going okay. Just got over the list drama. That was not fun. Still have a lot to do.