Hi CJ - I agree with Bonnie. Keep distracting. Keep finding something else to do when the urge comes. Injecting something into your body can be very dangerous. Please be careful. How'd the interview go? Kate_TeView Thread
Thanks OTW. I have tried & I get "I know what depression & panic are like". Because she had a panic attack once (and went to the ER for it) & has been depressed a few times. I can't explain to them in any other ways than I have - other than to send them articles, but they'd never read them. It just hurts to lose a 20 year relationship. Plus it's not just those 2, I have babysitted J's 2 kids since they were infants - I've changed their diapers. It hurts that I wont see them again.View Thread
OTW - E will eventually get to the point where she sleeps through the night & is happy during the day. You have to have faith that that day will come soon. I pray for the strength to get through my days & I pray you have the strength to get through yours. Hugs Kate_TeView Thread
You all know, I had a breakdown about 3 years ago now & am now pretty severely socially anxious. Well, before this happened, I thought I was living a pretty normal life, I worked, had friends & otherwise just lived what I considered normal. Now, I've never had a lot of friends. Basically 2 close friends S & J (mother & daughter). I had met S through work about 20 years ago & eventually became a much closer friend to her daughter J. I know I've talked about them before - they are "pull yourself up by the bootstraps type of women". Neither really gets my mental illness & I've been okay with that, I don't complain to them about what's going on in my life & have basically been a not so close friend over the last 3 years. Of course, they haven't invited me to their homes anywhere near as regularly as they did prior to my breakdown. Well last night I'm talking to J on the phone & again she asks me when I'm going to find a job, a topic her mother S, never lets go by in a conversation with me. I mention that I'm going to apply to a state program that assists disabled individuals in getting jobs. Her response is that I'm lazy & she knew once I got on disability I'd never get off. "Everybody's sad, Anyone who's put on weight like you is sad. Kate, people have real issues, not just ones in their heads, deal with it". This is supposed to be my best friend. I really don't have a question here, because I know - non supportive person, cut them out of my life, but that leaves me with no friends. Oh well, Thanks for listening to me. Kate_TeView Thread
I'd say it's common with me at least. Whenever things start getting better, BAM, I'm slapped back down again, either by events or by my crazy head.
Have you been trying to learn & use "Radical Acceptance"? That's the DBT term for accepting life on life's terms. In other words, things are as they are, we can't go back & change them, just accept it & make the best of your situation. Accepting it, doesn't mean you approve of it, or think it was okay, it just means you accept it happened & there is nothing you can/should do about it now. Just try to move forward.
I hope this helps. I'm going to post a separate post about my most recent slap to the face. HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm glad you posted. I'm sorry you are suffering. Being smart is not the same as being a wimp. You knew you couldn't beat him, so why fight him. More importantly, why argue with a drunk. Only an idiot does that.
Have you spoken to your fiancee about what her cousin told you? An abusive relationship does not get better. If you two can convince her to at least get counseling you'll may be saving her life.
As far as being small in stature, everyone has something about their body they wish was different. I wish I was thin & a natural blond. Don't let your body image define you.
You don't say whether or not you have a therapist (for the SH). I'd highly recommend you get one. Therapy can help by teaching you better coping mechanisms than sh.
Hang in there. You're worth it. & keep posting here if it helps.
I want to come to the beach house! I'll bring the chinese lanterns to light the deck. My sandals to walk on the hot sand & my bare feet to put in the warm sand when it cools off. I'll wear my oversized minnie mouse night shirt & would love to help with Bonnie's Mani/Pedis.View Thread