I just want to say that I agree with everything Bonnie said above.
Is the making of amends on his schedule? Make it on yours. You are the injured person in the situation. Tell him, you'll accept his amends when you are ready to do so, but as you say, you aren't there yet.
Keep up the good work. As I said before, change sucks but is usually worth the effort.View Thread
Hi Lowdown, I'm sorry you are suffering. I haven't found any progress without pain in any area of my life. ESPECIALLY my mental illness. Sometimes it's pain, sometimes it's just uncomfortable, but I've never progressed without something changing. Change sucks - but if it gets you to a better place it's worth it. Hugs if ok.View Thread
Rugger, I'm sorry you "did the deed" as Sitting Bull puts it. Have you tried other coping skills since this happened? Meditation, Distraction, Building Mastery (I color & am getting better at it all the time), etc. You have already Reached Out, by posting on here.
I hope if the desire gets strong again you will do something else drastic (like taking a Hot/Cold/Hot/Cold) shower. It's amazing how it can stop the racing thoughts & center you.
Hi. I'm glad you're back. I was worried. I really hope that God gives you the strength you need to handle all of the issues in your life. I'm pretty sure my contact info is still in here under a discussion had under my old id. If you ever want to email me directly, just look it up. Like you, I'm not sure about this site anymore, but I keep coming back because it's where my friends are.View Thread