hi nopoin, i dont think we have met before. i am SoCalMSG. I just read your post. you are absolutely right when you said that you should be happy and comfortable and feel safe in your own home. i am not sure what your living arrangement is, but if you live in a residence, you can get a restraining order or something similar that keeps you neighbor off your property (legal restraint). first, however, you neeed to make sure that you have been firm and very straightforward with this jerk who is your next door neighbor. let him know his advances are not wanted and that they are inappropriate.
from your post it doesnt sound like you are super comfortable being around your husband either . is he abusing you in any way? : (
please exercise the ways that you know help you to overcome your desire to self injure. for me, one of these ways is thinking about how long it has been since i last hurt myself. when i think of the 8 or 14 months or however long it has been that i have gone without self injuring,, i think to myself, i don't want to blow X amount of months that i went free from self injuring, if i hurt myself now, the timer resets back to zero and i don't want that. in other words i give myself credit for going to long without hurting myself. please feel free to share the coping strategies that you have. )
i am sorry to hear that you were abused during childhood. that is truly evil behavior and one day those offenders will have to answer for their heinous actions.View Thread
hi fried eggs, it is so good that you care and are concerned with sensless deaths in young people, especially when the deaths occur at their own hands. however, sometimes we need to take a step back from the negative drama of the world in order to better care for ourselves. i do not see this as selfish. rather, when we are better intact ourselves, we are better equipped to help others along.
please keep everyone posted on how you are doing.View Thread
hi bubbles, i just read your post and wanted to respond to you. i feel very sad that you are struggling right now. i am sure you realize that switching one destructive habit for another is not a healthy/safe way in which to cope with the shi- -y parts of life. i fully recognize that you dont want to tell your doctors that you are drinking heavily bc if u do they will pull your medicines. please, please keep in mind that excessive amounts of alcohol mixed with perscription drugs can be very very dangerous. i don't want anything worse to happen to you. what safe methods of coping have you tried so far? which ones have not worked for you? are there other methods of safe coping strategies that you are interested in trying ?View Thread
hi, everyone. last november my sister got engaged, and now the wedding is right on top of us. we leave for the wedding (it is being held out of state- so out of CA) tomorrow morning. the gist of my post is this: i have DETESTED the bridesmaid dress that my sister insisted on since day 1. i have never EVER felt so ugly and down right HIDEOUS as i do in this dress. "frumpy" doesn't even begin to cover it. i LITERALLY look like a human marshmellow. this may sound comical, but it really isn't . i loved absolutely huge. this particular style of dress is really only meant for super skilly people who have absolutely have no curvature and can therefore aesthetically afford to look like they are 70 lbs heavier than they are.
the two times i have tried this dress on (2 months ago) i cried. i cried both times (in the bathroom so no one would know i was crying- it's the only place in my house where i have some degree of privacy) because the dress is EXTREMELY unflattering on me. seriously you guys, it is just awful.
please keep me in your thoughts and prayers that i do not self injure on this trip. i tried it on again about ten minutes ago to see if it was truly as awful as i remembered it from a couple months back. it is. i am 31 years old and i have never felt as HORRIBLE about myself as i do in that dress. and if any of you are wondering to yourselves, does her sister know she detests it that much? the answer to that question is a resounding YES. she just doesn't care.
the wedding is on sunday and i will be back on tuesday.
hi, for some reason i was unable to read your entire post. all i could read was the 16 or so words immediately follwing the red "trigger" below your screenname.
i am not sure we have met yet, but i want you to know that my heart goes out to you fully and completely. i felt so bad when i read your line about not having friends. well, if "friends" are people you can connect with, if "friends" are people who can rejoice with you during good times and sympathize and empathize with you during difficult times, i think you will find many members of this community friends indeed. please continue to share your thoughts and feelings on these boards in this community.
i am sending super hugs your way tonight from southern ca.
please know that you are NOT alone. we are here for you.View Thread
dogdancing, hi !!! i just read your post and i am greatly concerned for you. please, please stay strong and resist the urge to self-injure!!!! as someone who has a similar struggle, i know exactly how severe the desire can be when you are upset/extremely sad, ect........ please, please hang on until the super strong feelings subside and you are thinking even a tad more clearly.
please allow me to also empathize with you on the topic of saddling yourself and your family with medical bills. i understand the impact of that kind of financial pressure very, very well. i extend my full empathy to you there, honest. as if the pressure and the anxiety, ect. from hanging on and trying super hard not to self injure is not stressful and awful enough, you also have the dread of medical bills thrown onto your plate as well.
i regret there is not more we could all do for you. please at least know that you are on my heart this afternoon.
i am also not sure of the backstory here , but it sounds like there is a family member that also struggles with self injury.. hugs to you both , today.View Thread