I could start a new post, but I'm not...just putting it out there that I'm really struggling with the temptation to self-harm lately, partly for release and partly to be "heard," but what more can a therapist do anyway? I'm not going inpatient because that won't be helpful right now as my stack of bills would just be that much higher when I get out and that won't help my stress any. Even my T agreed with me on that one.
Trying to do something healthy and creative from my inner child instead...It can even turn out shocking as long as I stick to acceptable mediums (paint, crayons, etc.). I haven't been able to sit down and do anything all weekend...I'll try to tonight. I wonder what she is trying to tell me...View Thread
Hello, everyone. I've only posted here a couple of times. My main board is the SA survivor board. It's very, very quiet over there, too. I suspect for the same reasons. I was hoping that the need for understanding and camaraderie would keep the group rolling, but it hasn't. I guess I just wanted to share that your group isn't the only one that has become so quiet. I share your sadness about it, too. I hope both of our boards will revive somehow, but I don't have any answers.
Personally, I don't know what else is "out there" in the way of an online group with a moderator or some sort of leader - the glue - but even if there were other groups, I like the group I'm in and already share a bond with them. And what good would my abandonment, be? It would just keep the door open for others to disappear, too.
I'm hoping and praying that this is only a "phase" for both boards.
Bless all of you here. I'm mainly a lurker on this board, but your posts have been helpful. Thank you.View Thread
Current, eh? That makes it more problematic. Still, I think someone else above also suggested talking to the person first. If it is something someone else "should" know (say the spouse of a cheater), then, IMHO, the offender should at least have an opportunity to confess for himself or herself. After that, it really depends on the situation. Remember once spoken, it can never be taken back, and it's hard to predict how someone will respond. Unfortunately, sometimes people really DON'T want to know, and then you are looked upon as the "bad guy."
I am discovering that survivors in general, especially once in the healing process, want honesty and truth in their lives more than the average person, maybe because we have hidden and kept secrets for so many years that we just don't want to live with secrets anymore. I'm not sure. But a lot of folks out there don't want that degree of honesty in their lives. It's very sad, really. It's rather freeing in some ways..Hard to explain.
Just to add my 2 cent's worth...humans are the only mammals on the planet that, #1, drink another mammal's milk, and, #2, drink milk past weaning.
OTW, you sound like you are doing your research and also working with your doctor. I'm with the others - don't let anyone bully you into doing something you don't feel is right for your child. What does your husband think? Are you both in agreement on the issue? Just wondering. Maybe I missed that part of the conversation.
Years ago I ran across some devastating info about a dear friend that was part of his past. I did ask him about it, and I was satisfied with his response and how he took safe-guards against any sort of possible repeat behavior. It was eating me up, so I had to talk to him about it, but it was his PAST and not his present, and I never breathed a word to anyone.
Your original question didn't state if it was past or present behavior. I think that would make a difference, but certainly talking to the one who it involves to get a clear picture before becoming judge and jury would be appropriate.
Personally, I approach that sort of thing extra cautiously and try to treat others as I would want to be treated. It really depends on the circumstances....Well, I could think out loud about this a whole lot longer, but guess I've said enough.
In the field of work I'm in, I deal with confidential information daily, and I've learned to ignore a lot of stuff because, honestly, it's none of my business.