I'm really sorry that she said that to you. I know they both like to bring up this topic. Have you ever really tried to explain to them exactly what it's like to have mental illness? That it's not just feeling sad, that your body literally has unbearable physical symptoms (explain to her what they are- increased pulse rate, rapid breathing, dizziness, racing thoughts, etc.) and that it is a true, disabling illness. People head to the ER ever single day, thinking that they are DYING, because of symptoms of panic. Maybe you could write a letter or e-mail, gently explaining all of this to your friend. And then ask that they please not bring up the topic again. I know it's not the same as a friend in person, but online friends are friends too so you're not alone. ((((Kate_Te))))View Thread
Sometimes I do just have to let her yell and scream--- with a potty training 2 year old, I have no other choice. But she just gets more and more worked up--- she never calms herself down.
With P, who is super laid back, we've always said she takes after her daddy. Well, it looks like the baby takes after me. She is highly emotional both in a good and not so good way. It's pretty easy to make her smile and laugh but she also screams and cries a whole lot.
I just came to this realization today. Although I don't know how my own mother treated me as a baby, from my childhood memories I don't feel like she had much patience with me growing up. I probably triggered emotions in her that she didn't want to have so then she took it out on me and didn't tolerate allowing me to have those emotions. My instincts want to not tolerate it in Ellie as well. There are times when I really want to yell, "Just shut up already!!!!" But now I'm like, "Look, that was YOU! Ellie is YOU when you were a baby. Treat her how you wish you had been treated". I'm glad I am realizing this. I realize that, at least right now, she is a highly emotional person and I can relate to that. I'm not sure it makes the endless screaming any easier to deal with but I know it's up to me to chose how I react to it.....View Thread
Thank yall. I can deal with most baby/kid noises, I have no problem dealing with temper tantrums from the 2 year old.... But the horror movie type screams coming from the baby night and day are really starting to trigger me. It's the same type of chaotic feeling in my mind that I used to get living back at home when there was a lot of yelling and screaming. And honestly, I think some of it is just her personality..... she doesn't get what she wants, she immediately starts the screaming. I love her to death and I wouldn't change a thing about her and I know the problem is mine, not hers. It's the chaos in my own mind that's the problem. It's just unfortunate that her screaming is creating that chaotic feeling. I was dealing okay before but suddenly nothing feels okay again. Thank you P and CJ for caring!View Thread
Sorry you had to type all of that twice! I know how frustrating that can be. I also know how triggering things can feel, especially someone drawing attention to the scars. I don't have any advice tonight but I just wanted to let you know that I read what you wrote and to offer understanding because I feel the same way right now. Sorry, I wish I knew more what to say tonight but I don't.View Thread
Thank y'all so much for caring. Prayers were answered tonight because just when I couldn't take things anymore God provided a rain shower and I watched my girls laugh and shriek with joy while the oldest danced in the rain and made up a silly song to sing. From lowest of the lows to feeling filled with joy. Thank you, especially SB because I know you were praying for me and God listened.View Thread
Thank yall for the suggestions. I haven't had a chance to go to the store for lollipops yet. And the non-stop screaming has continued today. But I have only tried to comfort her and have not acted frustrated so I'm glad about that.
Trigger below _______________________________ ____________________________________________ ___________________________________________ _____________________________________________ x x x x x While I was dealing with all the screaming, P got her step stool and started going through every drawer in the house. And guess what she found, extra razor blades for my husband's box cutter that probably lives in the garage. Thankfully they were still in their packaging so P couldn't hurt herself on them. But, well, you know, super triggering to me to have such a handy tool to use. I took them from her and immediately put them on the top shelf in the bathroom so they will be accessible to me. I keep telling myself, "Just because you think it doesn't mean you have to act on it". But boy oh boy, the screaming is just making my head spin and now she's actually napping and I'm stressed because I know she never naps more than 30 minutes and she also refuses to take another nap after this one. So this is my one break and my one chance to get a little relief.View Thread
I've never even thought of giving her a little sugar. That's a great idea because like today I thought something must be hurting her and gave her some Tylenol. When the sweet Tylenol was in her mouth she was quiet. Unfortunately it didn't last.
I feel like a bad mother because I have started acting frustrated with all the screaming. I act frustrated and I tell her, "Please stop screaming!" and then my toddler repeats the cross words at the baby. I'm crying just thinking about it now. My poor baby is hurting and her mother and sister act frustrated with her. View Thread