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How often do you want sex? How often do you get it?

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24 yr old Male, Does not have interest in having s...

This is a very embarrassing post for myself, but it has been a problem ever since I have gotten close with me...

Posted by An_243392

This is a very embarrassing post for myself, but it has been a problem ever since I have gotten close with me wife (at that time GF). When we started dating, we didn't have sex for some time but we were very intimate with kissing and other activities. Once we started having sex, it was great and we would try and have it as much as possible. However, it seems that as we got closer to each other, the less I wanted to have sex, kiss, or any other intimate sexual activity. I love intimate conversations.

When in college, I was always afraid of others hearing us have sex or knowing of a exact instance that we had it. This continues on with next door neighbors in our apartment and just any person in general. At one point in our dating relationship, we split for 6 months (at this point we were not having sex offen, maybe once a month). When I got back together with her, the sex was non stop and the best we ever had... but again as we got closer, it slowed down and essentially stopped.

Right now, we are as emotionally intimate as we have ever been and she lives 1500 miles away. When I see her once ever month or two, we might have sex.

This problem is killing my relationship as she has strong sexual needs and I want to fulfill them, but I am never in the mood. Intimate kissing bothers me and so does the though of having sex. I actually enjoy the sex if she can get me to do it. I have no problem masterbating either. I have no clue why I cannot be intimate with her.

I feel as if this problem stems from me always hiding masturbation when growing up, hearing that sex is bad, and not having parents that showed any intimate interactions (kissing and whatnot). I think because of these things, I subconsciously feel bad having sex with her and I don't want to do something wrong to her. When we fight and I feel less connected, I sometimes actually get in the mood.

I have no religious ties but an old fashion family with prude mannerisms. Please help me! I fear/know this could end my marriage. I feel as if I need a conditional reinforcement of sex being a good thing.

THANK YOU IN ADVANCE! I will answer any questions you might have that could help!View Thread

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My wife and I had been married for 21 years. During the pprevious 3 years she had become distant. I approached her, tried to talk and did not get much information other than she loved me wasn't sure she was in love with me. I am not the greatest guy in the world, I have my faults, but I have a kind heart and care deeply. Many years ago I bought my wife a gym membership and she started going religiously every morning. She looks great and she was rightfully proud. I also noticed her on the computer more often and hooking up on facebook with old male school friends. Windows would disappear too when I entered the room when she was on the computer. Long story short, I created a person. Gave him a name, email account and a few pictures. First, I sent her flowers from this man with a card just to say hi. She told me about the flowers and guys name. I thought that was a good sign, that she was honest with me. I did notice however that she was trying to find "him" on the internet. Then I sent her a letter with pictures, said I knew her from the gym and gave email address if she wanted to say hi. She did and wanted to meet. I was shocked, so made up a story about going out of town on business but could we chat. She accepted and sent a chat request quickly. Pretending to be working late one night my wife and "him" had a chat. Learned she had an affair a few years ago, told "him" she didn't love her husband, and even told "him" that she told husbnd about the flowers to get his goat. It hurt deeply but I played along a bit, but as "him" said I didn't want to be the one responsible for breaking up a marriage. Wife told "him" she wasn't ready to leave because of money and children but did want to make love to "him" if he was still interested. Pretended to be interested and she became more sexually bold towards him. I had learned enough and after a couple days approached my wife and told her what I had done. We tried to work it out but we have little faith in each other now. Together for children which is likely very wrong but how it is. Yes sad, pathetic but people are like that.View Thread

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