I tried to be a loving and caring husband. I got tired of the "not tonight, I'm tired, or the usual don't touch me." I tried bringing in extra money. She blew it as fast as I made it. I tried giving her what she wanted and got brushed off. Spending money on her made her happy, not horny. We were married about 10 years at that point. My son was 2 and she had been on the meds for about 1.5 years. The last time I had gotten any was when my son was about 4 months old. She started on the shots right after her 6 wk check up. She love it. no periods. No mood swings (total B***H mode) The last 6 months I worked 2 full time jobs and overtime at the 2nd job. At year 2, I moved out, got counceling with her. I told her and the councelor I could put up with about anything, if I only got sex. One afternoon, I got a BJ that ended up costing me another 5 miserable years. It took 3 years to divorce her. I was married to her for 19.5 years. I'm not saying I'm the perfect husband. I work, clean house, do laundry, cook, take care of things. All I wanted from her was sex. After the 2 years, the marriage was pretty much over. Yea, I have a thing about Depro. BC's in general changes a woman body chemistry. Take it slow and talk to her and her to her doctor. BC's can take a long time to regulate and finding the right match for you and yours.
I agree with Nowhard, Take your time and explore. If your cycle is out of wack, your having anxiety about sex, and your bf is large (in your opinion) you have to relax. Self exam and masturbation helps calm your anxiety, because you explore what you have. Sound like bf is taking it slow and that is a very good thing. Because your in H.S., I'm sure you don't have a lot of time to yourselves. Showering together and exploring each other's body helps with relieve the anxiety also. Sex is more than him putting himself inside of your vagina. You have to be comfortable with the idea of it and foreplay plays a vital role in that. Sometimes him exploring with his lubed fingers relaxes you. You have to get use to your partner touching you. That's a lot of anxiety in itself. That area has always been taboo and now you want someone to touch it. Take your time. You will enjoy it.
It's not your job to just lay there and play catch. He has to give you some prep work and some other things than the same old wham bam thank you mam. Obviously if he won't kiss your exposed lips, he hasn't kiss your hidden lips. A good french kiss on the right spot will make you "cum" and I could steal a lot of my old buddy's girls if they didn't kiss the flower. In the posting on this site, there is a couple of web sites noted for there teaching aspect for sex. Look through them and find those sites. It's not porn, it's actually educational. In a relationship there is alway 2 sides and 2 people involved. He may not know what to do. He's your first and you may be his first. Same position maybe all he knows, but only he can learn it for himself. He should learn for you. If he doesn't, it's what you have to live with.
Hi I would try anything you think will do the job, if you cant afford the ones somebody is trying to sell you forget them. But have you thought of being adventurous, and try another way to have sex, these so many positions you could try, and the thing is you would not need pillows, and could be so much more fun. This may help you get going, www.dodsonandross.com its like everything you wanted to know about sex, and may been afraid to ask, your find a whole section on positions, masturbation orgasms and how to, oral sex and so much more. I do hope this helps you both. Good LuckView Thread
Hi OK don't worry I don't think its you, when your giving them oral sex, are you masturbating them as well, at the same time?
It could be there grip when they masturbate, the problem is with a lot of guys, is that they use a very tight grip, this is something your vagina cant replicate.
There grip should be feather light in touch, with some oil, this then replicates your vagina.
I think its just your choice of guys, its not you, but 5 guys then your a bit of a female studess.
Don't worry your get there one day, but do hope you on BC or make them use condoms.
Try having a look on www.dodsonandross.com have a look under male ejaculations, see what you can find there, if not post your problem to Dr Betty Dodson, she may just be able to put a finger on your problem, she a very wise women when it comes to sex.
I realize this is an old post, but I just came across it, so for anyone who comes across it in the future, I thought I'd add my 2 cents.
My first wife cheated on me after only 11 months of marriage. My second wife cheated on me after 9 years of marriage. My wife now threatens to divorce me every time we disagree about something. My wife now won't tell me how many partners she has been with, but she admitted its at least twice as many as I have been with.
Both of my other two wives were virgins at the time. And my current wife have had prior experience doesn't bother me at all.
You are holding it against her like it is an unpardonable sin. Believe me there are much worse things that can happen.
If you're going to look at it like that, then just forgive her. It's just a choice. Either you let your thoughts have power over you or you control them. The easy way to control them is to really, truly, forgive her.
In marriage there are big and little things that our partners do that we forgive them for. Whether you consider this one big or little you still have the power to forgive her for it. Then its over, done with, gone.
I've forgiven my wife for ruining my favorite shirt in the laundry when she put it in with a rag that had furniture stain on it. I've forgiven her for all the times she woke up in a much less than pleasant mood. I've forgiven her for lying to me more times than I'd care to admit, for both our sake's.
I think that the ONLY way that two people can stay married for very long at all is to get good at forgiving each other.
My wife and I made a deal before we even got married. We agreed to forgive each other for all the dumb things we had done in the past, and all the dumb things we ever would do.
Because of that, we are still married, and because of that, we have it within our power to be as happy or as miserable as we want to be in our marriage.
Hi Bingo your a winner for low libido, all these for meds will do that just the same as they will give men ED I think what you have is FSAD ( female sexual arousal disorder ) Your find that its all come to a head, that's it shut down.
If its diabetes 2 your can control this through diet and exercise, get that going and you could slowly cut out the meds, it would keep you healthy, had a friend do it worked for him.
For depression you can google natural ways out of depression, if this works more drugs you can slowly cut out.
For BPH same again google natural ways out of BPH, same again, get this working you can slowly stop the drugs.
And the pain meds, it would depend why your taken these? if its for any of the above, then they could go as well.
Its called getting your life back, this I think you would like? yes.
And you can add your sex life as well, then if all goes well you will be that lady with a big smile on her face 3/4 times a week? yes.
You really need to discuss this with your doctor. Pain is not normal but there are solutions. Perhaps the...
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You really need to discuss this with your doctor. Pain is not normal but there are solutions. Perhaps the cause is psychological, perhaps physical - you need an examination by an understanding doctor to find out and once you know you can start to work on your issues.View Thread
Porn is a poor substitute for reality. First porn I watched was in the late 70's (movie theaters) , 80's video tapes .and 90's the beginning of the internet. I haven't watched any for 20 years. It's fake and repetitive. When I need a good fantasy, I go to my mind. Plenty of good stuff to draw from there.
I don't think listening to a woman having a fake orgasm is the same as lying next to a real person having a real orgasm.View Thread
O my god, fishnet stocking, there so sexy, even before then, I was in a photo club an we had a model in, and she had fishnet stocking but torn, may sound odd, but so sexy. But now they have gone beyond that with the spider web stocking, with the bra and thong, but there some nice stuff out there. As for sex ed the old Forum mags were good, and now there is www.dodsonandross.com show that to your son, all your questions answered in one hit. Me I'm a cockney boy, from the East End of London, as they say loud and proud. Good LuckView Thread
Hi as your not a happy chappy, and do not know which way to turn, just get yourself to an STD/GUM Clinic, the staff there will help you out and do tests to find out what you STD, STI is. Easiest way. Good LuckView Thread
Tell him the truth plain and simple. I believe you CAN feel good but being that this is your first partner I would actually try masturbation by yourself in different ways to learn what works for you. Its almost like a sexual rythem for your own body. Nobody knows what you like like you. And once you know how to get off yourself you will know how to during sex. Im a guy but my wife had the same issue when we first got married so she tried to learn to get off by herself and what do you know she can now during intercourse easily. Dont give up on yourself either. And you got to make yourself want it too. Dont give into the mentality that you cant enjoy sex due to depression and a bad past. I know it was bad experience but dont let it keep you from enjoying God's gift which is sex.View Thread
Dude WTF do you do to get this shiz on your dick man? I dont know you, you dont know me, its not like you can embarresed from this, im curious plz elaborate . You screw someone with herpes or something and you wanted to disenfect?View Thread
Hi Been through this, and Viagra gave me some bad side effects, so now back in the saddle, all through herbs and a hormone, just google the titles below, there post of mine on www.franktalk.org its quite a good site for us oldies who are having problems with ED, but at 46 your not that old, please try these and see how you go if you try them, your see on there I'm now called NOWHARD. DRUGS VERSUS HERBS, HERBS MY CHOICE. DRUGS VERSUS HERBS, HERBS MY CHOICE, DAILY INTAKE. NOHARDS HERB LIST WITH LINKS NOHARDS HERBS FOR ED, PART . Hope you find something that will help, I do believe its all down to getting our blood right, get that bit right your most of the way there, most of the things your read about works through our blood, and one will clean it. Do hope you find some help. Good LuckView Thread
Hello. A few months ago I used hand sanitiser on my penis. Obviously not a smart idea. As expected my skin...
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A few months ago I used hand sanitiser on my penis. Obviously not a smart idea.
As expected my skin went dry and it still hasn't healed up. The only time it isn't dry is when I moisturise it. Obviously I don't want to have to moisturise it every day of my life.
How do I fix this?
I'm worried that I may have done permanent damage as this is not the first time I have had a corrosive chemical been used/ spilt on that area. I have accidentally spilt H2SO4 and bleach - on seperate occasions - and have caused dry skin on my penis before due to over washing it with harsh soaps/sanitisers.View Thread
Hi This below is from the manufacturer of your pill gildess fe 1/20, read on.
A. Sunday-Start Regimen:The patient begins taking the first white tablet from the top row of the dispenser (labeled Sunday) on the first Sunday after menstrual flow begins. When the menstrual flow begins on Sunday, the first white tablet is taken on the same day. The patient takes one white tablet daily for 21 days. The last white tablet in the dispenser will be taken on a Saturday. Upon completion of all 21 white tablets, and without interruption, the patient takes one white-speckled brown tablet daily for 7 days. Upon completion of this first course of tablets, the patient begins a second course of 28-day tablets, without interruption, the next day (Sunday), starting with the Sunday white tablet in the top row. Adhering to this regimen of one white tablet daily for 21 days, followed without interruption by one white-speckled brown tablet daily for seven days, the patient will start all subsequent cycles on a Sunday. So you may need to wait till your having your period again, sorry back to the condoms. Good LuckView Thread
It is a misconception that unless one has a penis of large size the partner cannot get orgasm. The sensitive part of vagina is only a few inches deep, G spot could be deeper. For many clitoral stimulation is more pleasurable. Try woman on top position. Then she can find out which way gyrating her body gives maximum pleasure & orgasm. If both of you enjoy, oral sex can be wonderful Finally it is said sex is in the brains than between the thighs. Forget the size & concentrate on the pleasure of togetherness.View Thread
Thank you so much for all your replies. Especially you Mr. nohard. I will get to work reading those helpful links as soon as I'm finished my work for this morning. Thankyou again all, I will keep you posted. Have a great day.View Thread
So what?!!!! Your concern is a legal one?!!!!!! If you want to have little to NO respect for your own health and body go ahead and make that INFORMED decision to trash it. Your husband deserves to make his own informed choices as well. He has a reasonable expectation of being safe from STD's because he is MARRIED!!!!! Your deception is bad enough, this is probably the only way you can make it even worse. I wish your husband luck.View Thread
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