First, I am not an expert in this area, but the way I understand your issue, it may or may not have to do with your husband having low libido, but it seems like the issues are emotional. For a man having no job is a big deal, which impact his and the lives of those around him. It seems like when problems with job security have been resolved he is able to have sex wiht some degree of normality. I think he needs a lot of reassurance that he is still loved and respected even when he is unemployed. This would help a lot, I believe.
However, it is stil and issue for you and I completely understand it because I too would like to make love to my wife every day, but it is not possible because for her once a week is fine.View Thread
This thread has helped me undersand at least one thing, this is a common issue many people face. My wife of 16 years has now hit the point where she is fine making love once a week or even once every other week, on the other hand, for me every day would be best. I have always tried to please her and I have the desire to always be with her, I want her, I think about her all the time, and when we make love I make sure she is satisfied. I am very active I workout four or five times per week and this only increase my libido, she on the other hand is not, which it does not help.
She is 50 and I am 49 and we have always been able to make love at least four or more times a week, but now she feels no desire, she tells me. Many times we make love just to satisfy me, which is okay, but is not the same as when we both enjoy it together. She plans to talk to her doctor later this month and see what can she do to increase her libido.
I feel for those in similar situation because when you want it every day and only get it once a week or even less it's hard. To me sex is so epspecial in a relationship that when there is not enough I feel a distance between the two of us that is hard to explain.View Thread
Hey boy! grow up and stop thinking that you speak for every man. When I was a boy, decades ago, I used to think how could people stay together for years, but then I became a man and realized how especial an intimate relationship is.
I Have been maried for almost 16 years and I desire my wife as much as I did when we were dating and I make love to her almost every day. Have there been problems in our relationship, of course, bu we both worked on it and resolved them and our love for each other has only grow deeper.
livings10, you need to talk to your fiance in terms that are clear and with definite goals in mind because it may be that you both are not compatible for each other. Or perhaps there is a health problem with him and he can't aceept it, but once you convince him that asking for help can only improve your relationship he might be willing to work on this.View Thread
To me, doing anything to please my partner/spouse does not mean bringing another person into our relationship, girl or guy. Some fantasies are better staying as such. I hope you both learned your lesson; most likely, your relationship will never be the same again.View Thread
I would think that multiple orgasms would be common among most men, but I am not sure. I have always been able to have multiples. When I was in my teens and 20s I was able to have 5 or more. Now that I am in my late 40s I still can have 2 whenever I feel like it, but I have to say that this is not out of any specific exercises, I just can. When I feel like I want to have more than one I would go ahead and have the first one right away and then continue with the second one, which would take a long time, 20 or more minutes. Sometimes my wife would be working on her first one and would be working on my second one, which works well for both of us because the whole activity would take 30 or more minutes. For whatever is worth, I workout regularly and eat healthy. I have always been active. I also, make love to my wife almost every day and we have been married for almost 16 years and we have known each other for about 19.View Thread
As HairyD explained, this has to do with the level of testosterone in the morning being at the highest level and there is nothing you can do about it. I am in my late 40s and I am still the same way as you, I can't last long in the morning, but at night I can go for 30 or 40 minutes.
Also, at night I can go for a second one, but not in the morning. I would think this is because of the level of testosterone being higher in the morning that the urge to relieve is greater therefore when done I just want to goback to sleep. At night many times as my wife completes one O I would be completing my second one, so it works well for both of us. Mornings would be only for my sake as I would be done in no time and I would say to her "sorry honey I didn't even give you time to warm up" and she'll say "I'll get you tonight"View Thread
I agree with what Gail said. Additionally, most likely, he is a control freak and wants you to admit to sometjing you didn't do. This is a way to manipulate you. And yes, why are you stil with him?View Thread