I think the real questions are: What do you want? And, do you need time to sort things out?
Can you imagine being happily married to him after all of this? If this is a possibility that you would like to at least try to pursue, then you might want to give him a chance to sort things out, as well as give yourself a chance to absorb and work through all of this (don't try to jump to being ok with it, forgiving, and moving forward before you are ready). As you consider the possibility of staying with him, I think it is important not to confuse being sad or hurt or afraid with wanting to work out your marriage to him-- which brings me back to the original question: what do you really want??View Thread
If you are in an abusive relationship and fear leaving or don't know how to handle the situation, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They can provide you with help, including a shelter where you (and your children) would be safe from harm. Their number is: 1-800-799-7233.View Thread