There are 2 good books that could help 1 No more headaches by Dr. Juli Slattery - this will help you address any emotional issues that may be hindering you 2 Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman - gives you some ideas of what and how to do.View Thread
The standard answer is that sex isn't that important. I never have liked standard answers. The reality is that a marriage characterized by sexual frustration (for either partner) will suffer. Without sexual fulfillment for both, the marriage will be weaker than it should be and in most cases will eventually fall apart. Sex is a very big deal! You need to determine weather or not you can tolerate a sexless marriage.View Thread
Just a few ideas. First, physical attractiveness is not nearly as important to women as it is to men. It is more likely that your insecurities about your appearance is more to blame than your actual looks. Second, as FCL says, masturbating frequently will help take the "edge" off your sex drive and allow you to think about other things.View Thread
He is definitively NOT treating you right but one question. Did you get counseling after your rape (oral at gunpoint)? This could be a big part of the problem. See a counselor if only to be sure that you are not still emotionally wounded from the rape.View Thread
I feel your pain! Literally. I very well could have written the exact same post. Our problem was that my wife had been sexually abused as a child. If this is the case with your wife (it is very likely it is) the problem will only get worse, You both need counseling but she most likely will resist. She probably will deny being abused (if she even conscientiously remembers the event) and a professional will be needed to draw it out of her and help her deal with it. As the other posters have said things will only get worse without help. Good luck and don't give up on her.View Thread
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