I agree with you with one caveat. If she is not doing what he has asked for then his reluctance is understandable (note I did not say correct). As you said sex should be for both partners enjoyment so both need to learn what the other wants/needs and then do it (if at all possible).View Thread
I have always wanted to try anal, but my wife is not receptive to the idea. I think even if she was willing, I would not want anal very often. I really enjoy cuddling with her and falling asleep in each others arms and would not want to have to get up and clean up. Also i would have a hard time doing something if I even thought it had hurt my wife.View Thread
We really need more info. Did he always have a low libido? Has anything else changed? etc. There are soooooo many variables. That said the amount you indicated is way on the low side. If he is willing, have him see his Dr. for a checkup. It could be low testosterone levels or some other medical condition.View Thread
From a man's point of view. The "other women stuff" you have described is not at all uncommon with men.
Remember you asked the question. If his being honest in answering your questions "costs" him, because of your negative response, He will be much less likely to be honest in the future. Women complain about men being emotionally distant, but sometimes they are just "protecting" themselves.
Lesson for the day_If you aren't ready to hear the answer, don't ask the question.
On the other side, His cheating, caused a break of trust, and it WILL take time (maybe a lot of time) to rebuild the trust; so your insecurities are definitely justified.View Thread
Several studies show an increased risk for prostrate cancer in men who have fewer than 3 ejaculations per week. Some other studies oppose these, but we know when body parts are not used health issues for those parts usually follow. Also as milesman replied, emotional health issues (esp. depression) are common and can lead to physical health issues.View Thread
many (probably most) women cannot orgasm through intercourse alone. Become a teacher for your partner and teach him how to touch you with his hands and tongue. He will greatly appreciate this since most men are not satisfied unless they know they are satisfying their partner.View Thread
If my reply sounded like an apologist I missed the mark. I do not support adultery in any form. My only point was to say that to a man sex IS a very real need. I also noted that with her health issues intercourse may not be possible. What I think should happen is for both of them to realize that some adjustments may be needed (e.g. handjobs, blow jobs or getting creative). We all respond through the filter of our own experiences, and I know firsthand the emotional damage sexual frustration causes a man.View Thread