A possibility, he may be having ED issues and is so afraid of this being "exposed" that he feels safer avoiding anything sexual. If this is the case it is not likely he will admit it if you ask him about it. I think you need to see a counselor who can help find the issue and help resolve it.View Thread
If he has used porn heavily in the past, and has not seen a professional counselor, chances are very high that he is still using the porn. Try to get him to go to a marriage counselor with you. If you can get him to go, the counselor will likely discover if porn is still the issue, and help him break the addiction.View Thread
What you probably don't realize is that these issues are having an incredible impact on HIM. An inability to perform strikes at the center of a man's since of masculinity. If he fails to perform he feels not only like a failure but also less of a man (I know it is irrational but that is how men are wired). His resulting lack of interest is a subconscious effort to protect himself from more failure. I agree with Gail - the first step is a medical checkup to rule out (or fix) a medical cause. Counseling would be the next step.
Finally believe him. He really doesn't know (at least consciously) what is wrong and it is most definitely NOT you!!!
You must have ESP if you can tell that this man is a control freak. I also wonder how you know she has cooked, cleaned etc. from what was posted. I also stated that the pain was a real issue and maybe sex was not possible at this time. Get off your high horse and at least read the posts before you reply and reply to what is written and not what you assume.View Thread