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Reply: wow what am i doing wrong

A couple of thoughts -- an orgasm isn't the be-all-and-end-all for alot of women....

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Reply: I talked to my fiancé about him never going down o...

Stacy, about a month ago you posted and said you had a child on the way. Are you...

Posted by Blake_Valentine

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Reply: Is he too big for me?

Have you told him about your experience, and basically what you just told us? I'm...

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Reply: curious

You can most certainly get pregnant like that. Please be careful...as a woman you...

Posted by Blake_Valentine

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Reply: Early 20's male has completely lost sex drive..

I vote for the 2 years of daily MJ use. I applaud you going cold turkey, but it...

Posted by Blake_Valentine

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Reply: Husband can't perform.

Sorry -- didn't abandon you; just been busy. Passive aggressive means an action...

Posted by Blake_Valentine

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Reply: Husband can't perform.

WHW, I was thinking more about your situation last night...I actually woke up at...

Posted by Blake_Valentine

WHW, I was thinking more about your situation last night...I actually woke up at 4AM thinking of it (that'll teach me to check these boards right before I go to bed). Reading your later post, I was struck by his watching porn in front of you. While it might be an addiction, it seems like more of a passive aggressive act to me. After all, most people with addictions are ashamed of them; they try to keep them in the dark. Yet your husband watches in front of you, but not in a sharing "lets watch this together and then get busy" kind of way. Which I find really unusual. I think JLGetch is onto something with his/her comments and esp. the suggestion re: counseling, but I think it might signify something deeper.

Here's where I relate this to myself: about 15 yrs ago now, after 12 yrs of marriage, I went to a wedding in my hometown (we live many states away from where I grew up). I saw a girl who was an old flame of mine. We exchange small talk and that was that, but I found myself just absolutely obsessed with the thought of this woman, for months, and it just knocked me off course, thinking that maybe I'd made a terrible mistake and that the old flame was the really the one who was meant for me. Not that I'm suggesting anything like that has happened with your husband -- but here's how I'll relate it to you. In the course of counseling, the therapist recommended a book called Seasons of a Man's Life, by Daniel Levinson. It is pretty old now, but I think it holds up. The basic premise of the book is that every 20 yrs or so, at a very deep and subconscious level, a man will take stock of his life and compare his current station in life with the idealized version of himself he envisioned as a young man. The greater the gulf between these two states, the greater the psychic upheaval in his life. Most people think of this as a "midlife crisis," but that's really a misnomer. Usually this crisis is brought on by a significant event or trigger....for me, it was seeing my old GF at the wedding. When I read the book, and saw myself in the case studies very clearly, and it helped me get thru it.

Long post I know, and maybe off the mark, but from what you've said so far, I see similarities between your husband's behavior towards you and how I probably treated my wife during those dark days. With counseling, her patience, and time, I was able to see that I really did love my wife, and that my feelings for that other woman was just a mirage in the desert. He seems depressed, as I certainly was during that time. I don't think this is sex issue, or a porn issue; it's deeper that that.View Thread

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Reply: Protected sex with stripper - chances of catching ...

My take...the only risky action of the ones you list is #4. And even that, since...

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Reply: Husband can't perform.

Porn is not entertainment. Porn is boring -- you don't watch it for the plot lines....

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