Guy here, so I don't claim 1st-hand knowledge when it comes to female orgasm, but I did want to offer an overall comment on the question you posed. I think in matters of sex, especially as we age, there is a use-it or lose-it quality to our bodies, whether it relates to your favorite sport or sex. From my experience, if I masturbate today, my orgasm tomorrow will be slightly delayed, and maybe a little muted. But that diminished sensitivity might last only a day longer, then I'm back to 100%. But if I go too long without sex, solo or partner, I don't perform as well, the blood doesn't seem to pound as hard, and I don't have a very strong orgasm. I don't think you are hurting your chances of coming by self-pleasuring, as long as it's not excessive, and it doesn't sound from your post like it is.View Thread
Maybe, if your bladder was full enough and it distracted you for the pleasurable sensation of being inside her. More importantly, is this a one-time thing? This happens to almost everybody once in awhile. I would not stress over it if it's infrequent. If it happens more often, let us know that.View Thread
Completely 2nd what FCL said, and encourage you to check out the link she provided -- in full agreement with it. As a guy, I can tell you that you needn't stress over whether you are "good" at it. It's sort of like painting a wall with a roller - you might think you're not very good at it while you're painting, but once it's done and you step back from it you'll think, "hey, that looks pretty good!"
The best BJs have alot of variety. Use your tongue to tease, mix in liberal use of your hand to slide over the whole length of his dick. This gives you a break too. The actual head-giving part might only constitute 1/2 of the BJ. Good luck!View Thread
I love giving and getting. If I had to choose, I suppose I would choose giving, because sex for me is most fulfilling if my partner is satisfied. I really don't understand people who are squeamish about giving; I suppose it is similar to not liking vegetables because of the texture - they just can't overcome that primal distaste even though they know how good it is.
My wife was at a wine gathering with several girlfriends when this subject came up. One of the women, who I always thought was a little repressed, commented that she finds oral disgusting and she never gives it to her husband. All the other women were quiet, which she took as a sign that the rest were pro-oral. I know this woman's DH, and when I see him now, I just think, "poor bastard..."
I know another couple where the guy got head only twice a year -- on his birthday and their anniversary. They're not together anymore.View Thread
Hi. I would say that stretching is not an option since your spine is fixed in place -- and a good thing too. He must be huge. But he doesn't need to stuff himself completely into you to have sex feel wonderful -- my wife can only take 1/2 of me during oral,and yet oral is one of the great sensations in life. You can find lots of info about cock rings on the internet; these can be placed around his penis to limit the depth of his stroke. Good luck!View Thread
Sorry I have not seen any of your previous postings, so I am missing some details. Just from your post above though, and from the screen name you have given yourself, it sounds like too much of your own identity is wrapped up in the welfare of the relationship. And if that falls apart, where are you? I know you are in a bad place right now, because you are seeing everything in your life through the prism of this soured relationship. Sounds like both of you are shut down, and your BF is finding that it's easier to get on Facebook than have a tough discussion. But I think you both need to find the courage to sit down and take stock of the relationship, and the prospects for it moving forward, else you'll both be stuck in the same rut. If you are both unable to communicate effectively, then it would probably be better to spend time apart, and see if either of you feels differently with the passage of time. Good luck.View Thread
Very much so. In so many different ways -- it helps to have cardio fitness to make sex last, and last enjoyably. I don't want my wake up after sex to an EMT shining a flashlight in my eyes. It helps to have muscle tone because so many sexual positions require endurance; not necessarily strength. Besides just the actual act though, feeling good about yourself just gives you the confidence to feel sexy and desirable.
Can you believe I'm blowing off the gym tonite to eat pizza and write this? I should take my own advice and head over there before it closes.View Thread
Still, I would not discount what she says after the phone reference, which is that she has a feeling he is hiding something. I think partners in these types of situations, esp. women, have a very well-honed spider sense. There may well be reasons other than what she can verbalize that give her an uneasy feeling.
Do you have a date set? If it is true that your sense is correct, and he is cheating on you (and I know you didn't say it, but I'm going to assume that's what it was), then you have a serial cheater on your hands, and that is not someone you want to be shackled to if trust is important to you. Before you walk down the aisle, you owe it to yourself, and any future children, to dig a little deeper. He's already denied it, so you won't get it from him. I would suggest checking cell phone call details, if you can get your hands on them, or asking friends of yours straight up whether they have any reason to suspect anything. Guys will lie when cornered. They do. We do.View Thread
Actually I would be very careful about Extenze. Do a little research before you lay out any $$. The little research I did was not encouraging. And it does not work immediately like Viagra or Cialis, it could take weeks to have whatever small effect it does have. It does not increase your size, if anything, it might (might!) get you a little more blood flow to your rod. Not worth the money or risk. Better to run around the block.
1st priority is to take a deep breath. Even if you have an STD, you cannot infect your kids. 2nd priority, close behind the 1st, is to get to the Dr. pronto to get yourself checked out - which you said you are in the process of doing. Hopefully the appt is soon so you will have some peace of mind.View Thread