Many people have trouble with the gag reflex (choking or coughing) when performing oral sex especially when they try to deep throat. You can try numbing sprays that are for sore throats. These are found over the counter. Although this is not a guarantee, this may help reduce some of the gagging. Remember the gag is a normal reflex so most people will never overcome completely (if at all) during oral sex. View Thread
Condoms with benzocaine. This is similar to medicine the dentist use for numbing. It is at a lower dose and can cause decrease sensitivity that can help prolong erections. Don't worry. You will still be able to "feel". These tend to be marketed as extended performance or pleasure. If you are still not sure, your local pharmacist can help you.
Some people also try the oral numbing medication that is used for teething babies. They come flavored. You would just apply a bit around the head of the penis. The way it works is the same as the condoms but a slightly higher dose of numbing medication.
Your partner mouth will get numb if they come in contact with either of the above.
Soft/ silicone penile rings- if you have no vascular problems you can try these. You will have to get them at a novelty or adult store, or internet. It should not be tight to the point of any discomfort.
Many of the medication that treat anxiety are in the family called SSRIs. This includes Zoloft ®, Celexa ®, and Paxil ®. One side effect is difficulty having orgasms. I tell may patients that they will likely need to "work" harder to have an orgasm. Many times I recommend longer stimulation as long as it remains comfortable. You can use toys, manual or oral stimulation as well as stimulating gels or creams that are made for sex. If you haven't tried these, I would recommend doing several of these before asking for a medication change since your girlfriend is responding to treatment.
There is no medication that alters this side effect. Her physician may consider switching to a different class of anti-anxiety medication depending how concerned you both are with this issue.View Thread
Any "diaper rash" cream can help maintain dryness. The active ingredient to look for is zinc oxide. If your disease has become quite sometimes an urologist can perform procedures to help with severe symptoms. Also, so topical medications have been used with minimal success but these have to be prescribed. You may have to ask your urologist if he or she knows someone who has an interest in treatment of this condition.View Thread
You are describing what is called delayed ejaculation. First of all there is no official definition of what the normal amount of time it should take for a person to have an orgasm. Furthermore, it is not deemed abnormal if either gender does not have an orgasm with each sexual encounter.
This can be considered a form of sexual dysfunction if it causes undo stress repeatedly. There are many things that can cause delayed ejaculation from medications called SSRIs. Some of them are Prozac ®, Zoloft®, Paxil ® and the like. Another is poor sexual technique in which the stimulation is either decreased or sometimes uncomfortable. This varies from person to person. And of course stress and focusing on the previous sexual disappointments is also another common cause.
Reassuring your fiancée is very important. It is a possibility that she may be dealing with her own insecurities and has interpreted this to mean that something is wrong with her.
Unfortunately, there are no medications that make you ejaculate. Most people have improvement when stressors are addressed but also when they remember that sex can be for bonding with someone you care about not just the orgasm.
If it still remains a problem, you can consider talking with an urologist.View Thread
There are glands at the opening of the vagina. They can become irritated and swell. Swelling should go done after several days. If the swelling increases or the pain becomes intolerable, then a medical evaluation is necessary because an abscess or infection that may need antibiotics could be present. I do not know your age. Women over the age of 60 who have trouble in that area need to be evaluated to make sure a rare form of cancer is not present if symptoms don't resolve. View Thread
Sound like lubrication works sometimes and sometimes not. Stop and reapply more lubrication if you feel that moisture is decreasing. Use enough until is slippery not just moist. Too much friction can make your raw. If you start feeling like the skin is becoming irritated take a break. If sex lasts for a long period of time, this can result in feeling raw as well. Just think of hours of rubbing on skin can easily irritate the area.View Thread
Most people do not to have oxalate crystals in the urine. They can be seen in a urine specimen in someone has ingested anti-freeze. People get deathly ill when this happens. Now this is not the same as calcium oxalate crystals which a commonly forms when a urine sample sits and is allowed to settle. It's like chemistry class. When certain ingredients sit in a cup over a period of time crystals may form.
Urine can range in shades of color from light yellow to almost clear and darker. This is normal. Your kidneys can make the urine more or less concentrated based on how much water or fluids a person drinks.
Risk factor for lichen simplex includes constant irritation that is persistent to the genitalia such as perfumes, detergents, fragrant items or history of trauma. If urine and fecal matter sit in this area long enough a person can become irritated.
What tends to occurs is from whatever the cause is itching. When scratching of the area continues it tends to exacerbate the irritation. So the result is the more you scratch the more you itch the more your scratch.
The area tends to burn because of the chronic irritation or inflammation that is present. If scratching and rubbing of the area is continued it is easy for the skin to have small areas or abrasions. So urine which has salt in it will burn at times because it's literally putting salt in a wound. View Thread
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