Ok, that's what I was wondering - if you thought that or just looked past it.
My thought is that even if she thinks she's over it, that deep down it may have done more damage than she wants to believe. That deep down, her mind has not truly dealt with this problem. I don't believe that's something you just get over or feel better about over time. Him raping her broke trust, love, hope, desire, and so much more. So I personally would think it'd be nearly impossible to enjoy sex with him.
This might not be the sole problem but it does sound like you've tried many things to resolve it to no avail, which is why I'm suggesting it's deeper than that.
And let me clarify that I'm in no way dismissing nohard's suggestions. I'm adding to them.View Thread
He can't stop you. I've never heard of anyone getting sued for this, and I'm pretty sure we would all hear about it if someone did.
However, I would definitely look into suing him. I'm so sorry this happened to you and has now put you in a seriously heartbreaking situation. I would like to think no one takes an abortion lightly. I'm not passing judgment at all.View Thread
You are a joke. You won't be happy until you have hiv and something new to freak out about. Go ahead and tell me how stupid that is. I don't care. And I don't care about you either.
You are psychotic. You need professional help. Go back and read all you comments. You're a joke. You're a jerk.
If you think Gail's answers are holy then why don't you listen to her??
You just told us the doctor said it was a needle mark and then ask why we changed our minds about it being a needle mark!? wth dude? It probably was you with a NEEDLE. Needle doesn't have to mean syringe.
The only person that can help you is YOU. You obviously don't want any help. You want to hang around here and get a kick outta saying ignorant crap to people and see how they react. That makes you a troll.. Go drink a bottle and find some hiv. Oh and come back and tell us all about itView Thread
Hey Eric, have you ever had a psychiatric evaluation done? I think you should consider doing so and the possibility that you may have some sort of multiple personality disorder. I too have a strong feeling that you have stuck yourself with the needle. YOU may not remember it all.. doesn't mean it didn't happen.
The help you need with this issue is in the doctor's office. Both a medical doctor and a psychiatric doctor. If you really want an end to all this that is where you need to go and what you need to do. No one here can stop this or guide you to a resolve.View Thread
I agree with your last statement. Someday it will be too late.
It feels like you just got together because it seemed like the right thing to do. Got married cuz it was the right thing to do. Had kids, bought the house, and stayed married cuz it seemed like the right thing to do. ?
My guess is the dilemma is change more than anything. You do what you've always done. You're comfortable with everyday life, even though you're miserable inside.
Change can be a scary thing! But I myself am much more afraid of waking up 20 years from now and feeling regret and resentment!
Maybe you don't just up and leave now, but make a plan. Give a timeframe for real change to happen. Then decide what you want to do next.
I just feel there is no reason to live the rest of your life feeling the way you do. Being happy is so worth it. I really wish you luck.
Mutual masturbation 3-4 times a year and no sex for years? I don't know how you've done it. You really want to keep doing this for the next 30 years?
Consider things you did in your 20's that you regret and wish you could change. How you might have done differently.. Now do you really want to be 70 and looking back on being 50 and wishing you would've had the guts to make a change? Regretting how you just let life pass you by because you were comfortable at the time? Because change is scary?
Sorry, I feel like I'm rambling. Just get serious about changes that need to happen and the repercussions that follow. Whether with her or without her. Just not what you're doing now.View Thread
And considering your reply to me I call TROLL, and won't be responding to you anymore. Go somewhere else and quit wasting people's time around here because people actually tend to care on this forum.View Thread
You are NOT going to figure this out by inspecting her vagina. Just stop that part first, now!
Talk with her. Ask her specific questions about what she's doing and what you're fearing. Ask her for specific answers.
My personal take is this -- we, as humans, have what is referred to as a 6th sense. In a nutshell it is your body reacting to her body language. I feel it's safe to trust in that 6th sense, UNLESS you know yourself to be naturally overly jealous in all relationships. If the latter is the case then you have some work to do on yourself and should seek out help for the chance at a successful relationship sometime in your life.
But again, to break this down to the simplistic, you don't trust her at all (for one reason or the other - doesn't matter) and that is NO foundation for a marriage. Seek pre-marital counseling if you believe you must go forward with this. I don't see why you want to go forward. I don't understand how someone could be anywhere near 'perfect' for you when you think they are cheating on you? Think about it.View Thread
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