I would encourage you to ask him to attend couples therapy with you. This is a *shared* issue that you two will need to resolve in order to have a more pleasant sex life and marriage. Reassure him that you aren't trying to force him to change but that you do need to find ways to get along and have the sex life and marriage that you both want. You can find a couples therapist through www.aamft.org or a sex therapist through sstarnet.org.View Thread
Please check in with a healthcare provider. I have not heard about a connection with dairy. However, there are several sleep disorders that result in people having sex or masturbating during sleep. While this may not seem like a big deal, there have been problematic cases in which men have - during their sleep - gone into the bedrooms of roommates, and even young people (as in teenagers or children) - and unknowingly had sex with them, resulting in assault or rape charges. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, but in the wrong situation, there's always that possibility if you are not conscious of what you are doing. A sleep specialist should be able to help you. The behavior is sometimes called "sleepsex" or "sleepsomnia".View Thread
Please talk with your healthcare provider. It is very common for women to have questions about sex and masturbation (self-pleasuring) following pregnancy, birth and c-sections. In fact, your doctor or nurse should have provided you with better information about this aspect of your life as most women and men masturbate, according to results from our recent national sex survey (see nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu) as well as past sex surveys.View Thread
Some men develop a condition called Peyronie's Disease which is something that should be looked at by a healthcare provider. It more often happens in older age and can result in a very curved penis, particularly if not treated. There is no reason to feel embarrassed about this. Most general practitioners and urologists are quite familiar with such a condition as it is not at all rare. I would strongly encourage you to check in with a healthcare provider sooner rather than later. Such a condition is not dangerous or life threatening, but it is better when treated early.View Thread
Unfortunately, there are many more myths/old wives tales about this than actual scientific data. Some people believe that sugary, watery fruits such as pineapple or kiwi may be helpful with male or female sexual fluid taste, but there is no scientific research to indicate that this is true or false. Some research suggests that eating meat may worsen a person's odor or that cigarette smoking might as well. However, taste is such an individual issue that I find that difficult to swallow (pun intended).
In all seriousness, people have different taste preferences. If you and your partner enjoy taste as part of oral sex, then that probably helps your sex life. If your partner does not want to swallow your semen, don't pressure her to do so - not everyone enjoys doing that either for taste or gag reflex reasons. You can learn more about oral sex and other types of sex techniques and communication in my book Because It Feels Good.View Thread
This is indeed common. You might consider exfoliating this area of your skin. Also, consider adjusting your shaving techniques by shaving in the direction of hair growth rather than against it (this is contrary to how most women shave their legs). If you have concerns about your skin health or about ingrown hairs, check in with a dermatologist. Some women and men find that switching to waxing or laser hair reduction helps to provide them with the groomed look they prefer while reducing the risk of skin complications.View Thread
Yes, there are others who do this. It can be a healthy and enjoyable part of a couple's sexuality. Of course, you will probably want to take some safety precautions such as storing your tapes or hard drive in a locked space in case you are worried about others finding your tapes or them being stolen. Otherwise, enjoy!View Thread
Most of us will experience health scares, or health problems, that will affect our sex life at some point. Here's how to get your sex life back:
- Ask your healthcare provider what types of sexual problems or challenges you might face as a result of the health condition or treatment. For example, cancers themselves rarely have little impact on sex. However, cancer treatments can cause quite a few sex problems, but the treatments are often necessary to beat back the cancer.
- Look for books on relevant topics. Breast cancer survivors, for example, may find it helpful to read Living Well Beyond Breast Cancer. Male partners of women with breast cancer may find it helpful to read The Breast Cancer Husband. The book Crazy Sexy Cancer Tips may also be a useful read.
- Look into products. If your health issue has resulted in vaginal dryness, ask your healthcare provider about vaginal moisturizers or lubricants. If vaginal pain is an issue, ask your healthcare provider about vaginal dilators. Men with ED can ask their healthcare provider about drugs for erectile function or, if medications don't help, about other options, including penile implants.
- Consider counseling. Even once our bodies are better, our minds are often still scared or protective. It can take time, and guidance from a professional, to open ourselves to love and sex again. You can find a therapist through apa.org or sstarnet.org, if you're looking for a sex therapist.View Thread
Nearly 1 out of 3 women in the US experienced some difficulty with pain the last time they had sex, according to a new national sex study that our research team just released (download the full version at www.nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu )
Although most of the women experienced only a little pain, for others it was quite severe. How many of you experience pain during sex from time to time? What about your partners? Do you tell your partner if it hurts? Do you ask your partner if it hurts?View Thread
Although many women and men are satisfied with their sexual lives, many are not. In some ways, this is a result of cultural pressures that suggest we should all be having lots of sex - and not just any sex, but really great sex.
In reality, we know from research that even the most highly satisfied couples sometimes have so-so or even unpleasurable sex.
Some things to consider about your own sexual satisfaction: - To what extent does sex allow you to feel closer or more connected to your partner? - If you're not having sex as often as you might like, can you do other things (like masturbate alone or with your partner) to bridge the gap? - To what extent do you feel comfortable talking to your partner about your sex life and saying more about what you would like to try? - How do you feel about your own body? About your partner's body? About the ways you touch each other?
Sexual pleasure and satisfaction are part of an ongoing journey. To learn more, check out my book Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction.View Thread