Some people feel this way. When I was a guest expert on an episode of The Tyra Banks Show last year, some of the guests had a condition that essentially creates two vaginal canals. A couple of the guests talked about their husbands "taking" (well, not really "taking" since it was a shared choice, but you know what I mean) their "virginity" in the vagina that they had not previously had sex in.View Thread
Sometimes people don't know how to touch each other. Have you asked him to be more gentle? Are you wet/lubricated when he fingers you? If no, have you tried a lubricant? And does it hurt when you do it yourself or just when he does it?
Sometimes using a different, more gentle technique - when you are very wet/lubricated - can help fingering to feel more pleasurable. Keep in mind, too, that you don't need to engage in a sexual behavior if you don't like how it feels.
Finally, you might consider checking in with a healthcare provider if you experience genital pain even when you finger yourself, or when you use a tampon or when you have a gyn exam. As I mention in my book "Because It Feels Good ", a common condition called vulvodynia (Which means vulvar pain) affects about 10-15% of women who may experience genital pain for different reasons. Learn more about genital pain at nva.org and/or from this WebMD article about vulvodynia.View Thread
Testicular pain can be caused by a variety of things including infections and trauma/injury. I would highly recommend that you check in with a healthcare provider soon so that he or she can examine you, run any necessary tests and hopefully help you to feel better soon.View Thread
Most research studies have found that the average erect penis size is between 5 and 6 inches, so you are larger than average in length.
Regarding desire, some women experience a decline in desire as they age or go through various life experiences (such as job stress, raising children or as they approach menopause in their 40s). Learn more about ways to enhance in desire in my book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction . Also, if your wife feels that she has low desire (low in general, not just low compared to you which is an important distinction) she might find it helpful to speak with a healthcare provider or sex therapist (aasect.org).View Thread
These are very good questions as there is a great deal of information (and mis-information) about types of women's orgasms. Scientists continue to study the various paths to female orgasm. There seem to be different nerve pathways to orgasm including a nerve that can be stimulated at the cervix (this is the vagus nerve; and the cervix is at the entrance to the uterus) and nerves that enrich the vagina, clitoris and anal area. You can learn more about the various types of stimulation that can ease orgasm in my book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction. View Thread
@SuzyValentine - You're wise to do so considering that bacterial vaginosis (BV) has been linked with various sexual practices including sex toy use (perhaps due to sex toy hygiene issues or other factors that may affect ph balance). BV has also been linked with lubricant use, though this research is also preliminary and, as I'm sure you know, we have a great deal to learn about BV so that we can better help women to avoid getting a recurrence.View Thread
Very good question - and a topic that is often ignored. When a man is often able to orgasm but takes a very long time (typically 45 mins or longer) this may be called "delayed ejaculation". This is different than "inhibited ejaculation" which can result in a man often not having an orgasm at all.
There are a wide range of causes and often this is helped by meeting with a sex therapist (find one through sstarnet.org or aasect.org). Meeting with a doctor to rule out medical conditions that may be getting in the way of penile sensation is also often helpful (conditions such as diabetes).
In the mean time, some men find it helpful to use a vibrator together with their partner. Increasingly, there are more couples vibrators available on the market including the We-Vibe which is worn partially inside a woman's body during intercourse (See my book, "Because It Feels Good" for details on this and other vibrators). Less expensive but also somewhat less intense are vibrating condom rings, available in many drug stores. Some men orgasm more easily with intense vibration such as the Accuvibe or Hitachi Magic Wand. Couples may hold this between partners' bodies which can feel pleasurable for both partners. Some men, alternatively, find pleasure from holding the vibrator to their penis while their partner kisses them. This can help to ease orgasm for the man while making it easier for his partner to assist as well.