As a post menopausal woman, I know the discomfort of sex with vaginal dryness. A solution that helped me was locally applied estrogen creme. It puts the estrogen where it is needed most and the use of a good water based lube it really helped. Frequent sex also helps.
The amount of estrogen is low enough it doesn't go into your system. A check with your doctor will reasure you. I use Estrace Vaginal Cream 0.01%. It is by prescription only. Another low dose method is Estring, also prescription. Insert it for three months and forget it. You can have sex and you or your partner will not know its there.
I concur with Elle, but have an additional option that works for me. My gyno also said soap is bad and recommended Sliquid Splash. It is made by the same company that makes the great lube Sliquid Silk. You can get it at Walgreens, Rite Aid or online at Drugstore.com or probably many other places. It is supposedly balanced to complement a woman's normal healthy pH.
lbee4020 , FCL has stated it clearly and concisely. Your boyfriend is an insensitive jerk and his hurtful remarks don't reflect well on his character or his respect for you! If I were you I would add anger and a large portion of suspicion to your hurt feelings.
An_252086, it is friction!. I enjoy rear entry but because of the increased friction my guy can't last as long in that position so we use it sparingly since there are so many other pleasurable options. I would guess that your boyfriend is accustomed to masturbating with a firm dry hand and a wet vagina does not offer him enough friction to reach orgasm except with the increased friction of rear entry. Masturbation is okay until it interferes with your relationship or other aspects of your life. Maybe your boyfriend needs to cut back on the solo sex a bit.
As to his reluctance to touch your lady parts, I have no answer.
Communication is vital in a good mutually satisfying sexual relationship and you both need to improve this aspect of your relationship. Ask him the necessary questions. Sometimes it is as simple as that.
At about your age I felt my relationship was at a plateau and that it had somehow lost it's spark, my kids were leaving home, my nest was empty and my guy was dependable and loving but too damn predictable and not as exciting as he had been earlier. I went to his home office where he was working late one evening and stood in front of him in my birthday suit and took his hand and led him to the bedroom and whispered in his ear that I was going to screw his brains out and would keep on doing it as a new era was now beginning for us. It was time to turn the page put our romance front and center.
Now twelve years later everything is still exciting and our sex life is amazing. Give him a positive wakeup call. We all get in ruts. You have a good thing, don't ruin it by straying. Straying will give you momentary excitement and years of regret!View Thread
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